MoneyMoral Dilemma: Should I make my friend pay for the vase?

astramax151

No, don't be such a miserable sod. it's a vase, thats all. your friend is obviously down on their luck right now + probably feels really bad about it anyway. as you can afford to pay them to clean for you, you can afford a new vase. if not, claim on the house insurance. anyone who plaves a vase over friendship neds to get a grip!:D:D

p_rushby

Pellyman wrote: »

What, your 'friend' didn't immediately offer to pay for the vase either in full or by deduction from her wages or, at least, in the future?

Strange friends you've got!

how can a a person call someone a "friend" when that "friend" needs some financial help and the best the that can be offered to them is a bit of a unregulated part time cleaning job with all the unseen risks that can come along with that situation as per the broken vase. you quote that the cleaner is a "strange friend "for not offering to pay up or at least taking a wage reduction..i would say that the person offering the "help?" by the way of putting there friend to work is no friend at all . If a genuine friend is in trouble you should try to help them out by giving money or advice or support but not putting them in a situation were there old friend is now there employer, an employer/friend? who seems to be putting ther "friend?" in second place to a broken vase. Friend ? dont think so..

Titus_frogsbutt

Definitely not. You took on your friend and should really have considered the risks involved. Although I agree with many on here who say it would be nice if they offered to pay, but then if it was an accident why should they? Assuming you are paying your friend there is also the undeclared income aspect. Do you have employers liability insurance?
Probably best just take it on the chin

Talent

Whooo. What a good one and some people getting uppity! Ok, lets take this a step further and see how it runs. If it had been a very big and heavy vase and broke your friends toe and gashed her leg so she couldn't work for anyone for weeks.... would she claim on you? Does your insurance company know you employ someone part time? You didn't bother telling them? Ooops. These matey cosy deals are ok until something goes wrong and she's not your friend for not offering to pay for it when she turns her life around.

MoneywastingExpert_2

If your friend offered to pay, then decline and get over it. Friendship is worth more than any material item. If she didn't offer to pay, don't ask her to but maybe consider that she's not a proper friend. A true friend would have offered to pay as soon as they could afford to. And your response, as a true friend, should be "Don't be silly."

charlies-aunt

Difficult situation! It sounds like it was an accident rather than a deliberate act of spoiling so I would advise that you write it off to experience . . . . friends are more important than possessions. I am sure that your friend will feel bad about it - you are giving her a chance to earn some extra cash and the last thing that she will want to do is upset you.

tahariel

Hmm, if I had enough money to 'employ' my friend to clean for me, I would think I could afford to replace the vase myself. But then I probably wouldn't bother replacing it unless it was something I loved a lot, but then the replacement isn't the original so I would think it wouldn't feel the same.

As for my friend, I would probably let her know she is in the dog house (kindly) and request her to make it up to me in other ways. I had to do this recently as a friend of mine ruined a very important evening for me. After being angry with her for a day, I retreated to her house where she cooked for me, made me cups of tea and let me sit on the best chair in the living room. The friendship is far more important to me than most things in life and I always know that whomever is the most well off takes care of the other.

Ebenezer_Screwj

neneromanova wrote: »

Too right, either ask for the money back or as for her to replace it. She wanted the job, she has to deal with the consiquences. Plus if she was a true friend she would have offered to pay for a new one anyway.

I agree entirely. Don't employ friends as cleaners if you don't relish getting them to pay for their carelessness with your possessions.

willow_loulou

No, she will feel awful as it is. If she is a real friend she would have offered to replace it or have bought a replacement asap anyway. If not she probably wont carry on cleaning for much longer

marich

She is a friend . You were doing her a favour . She is short of money . Are you going to make it worse for her ? You were actually trying to make it better .

It's easily done , can you easily forget it too ? If not , you can kick yourself . If so , you can keep your friendship . What is a vase worth anyway ?

The first time is an accident , the second time it's somebody's fault , the third time it's your fault .

Accidents happen - and don't bother claiming insurance unless you want higher premiums !