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wendz86 wrote: »

You need to do what is best for you and the family and sounds like this is the best choice. Your health and happiness and more important than money x

Thanks for your support Wendz

How are you feeling? Is this your last week in work? You must be getting so excited about meeting your little princess?

clearmydebts

Paid some money off my Virgin card. Feels weird to only be able to pay the very minimum but must keep my focus until my maternity pay kicks in!

wendz86

I am feeling pretty good thanks, excited for my last week of work! Really can't wait to meet the little one now!

clearmydebts

wendz86 wrote: »

I am feeling pretty good thanks, excited for my last week of work! Really can't wait to meet the little one now!

Aw I bet you can't!!!

clearmydebts

Okay - maybe I should just blame my hormones, or it is possible that I am going slighly mad, but I can't contact my boss until this Friday so I am half tempted to email the HR lady and see if I can take all my annual leave before I go on maternity and see when the earliest I can leave?

If it is a case of just another 6 weeks maybe I can stick it out?

I really need some advice here. I think OH is getting really frustrated with me now as I keep chamging my mind.

Cinny91

Oh jee, I don't know CMD! I can understand how it's hard to pick when you're not 100% sure on either choices. If you were to be able to take your annual leave, and just had another 6 weeks to go, do you think it would make being there any easier? On one hand, 6 weeks isn't that long at all but on the other it's one and a half months and that's one and a half months spent in a place you can't stand.

Personally, if it was me, and I knew we'd be able to cope without a second wage I think I'd just leave. It isn't worth the stress, and like you said you've got your family to think about. Hope you're okay!

tirlittan

Hi CMD.
I think you really want to go but feel bit guilty. Don't! Just do what's right for you and I think you know what that is.

clearmydebts

Thanks Cinny and Tir,

Your right. I do feel very guilty. I feel guilty that I am not contributing financially to the household. Well, I am doing AQA but that is about £200 a month, which isn't a whole lot

I spoke to my brother this morning (he is a HR manager) and he said he will fall off his seat if they allow me to take all that annual leave before maternity leave. He thinks they would offer to pay me before I left, which would leave me working until July.

So I think I will save myself the stress ans just quit. There is something to be said for holding on to my dignity and just leaving rather than stressing about trying to get every penny I can from them.

tirlittan

I think that's the right thing to do for you. Obviously your OH has agreed for you to leave so you don't need to feel guilty. Just think about yourself for a bit. Good luck.

Birdie85

I think you're making the right decision CMD, I really don't think you'd be well if you had to stick it out until July!

I don't think you should feel guilty either, sometimes jobs just don't work out like they should and it's unfortunate that you're not really able to hop into a new job because you're pregnant, I can't see many employers jumping at the chance to employ someone who'll be off on maternity leave in a few months! You can make ends meet for a while which is all that matters really and you may find that you can use the extra time at home to do some extra money making before your new baby arrives.