Time seems passing so quick and no luck to find a new partner... any ideas please!!

tincat

bluetifulguide wrote: »

Example: Here's what I'm looking for;
I have no baggage for you to worry about, no children, no pets, looking for someone similar, is that too much to ask?
Preferred age and height: 41-46, 5’9”-5’11”.
ETC...

Blue

Your ad needs completely gutting I'm afraid. It comes off as though you've been disappointed hundreds of times. This may be the case, but any prospective male is going to think "if she couldn't make it work with anyone else, then there must be something wrong".

Pretend you're a bloke on dating sites and look at other women's ads, and see what appeals to you about them, then write your own, using their best bits as inspiration.

Take out anything that sounds complainy and whiny.

If I were you I'd write something like 'back on the market, early 40's, all glam, no sham, ready to be wined and dined (on)' (last bit optional),

- or something very corny like that. There's no pressure on the bloke to come up with anything original, or sensitive enough to appeal to the woman you portray in your original ad and you'll probably get more replies.

Once you get the replies, you can weed out the fakers and illiterates, but the more contacts you get, the more chance you'll have of meeting someone compatible. And you should bank on meeting some frogs before that happens. Just try to look at it all as an amusing experiment / life experience.

uptomyeyesinit_2

ali-t wrote: »

Ouch, that hurt!

That was Fang's aim. He's probably impotent.

Fang_3

uptomyeyesinit wrote: »

That was Fang's aim. He's probably impotent.

Was it? Are you one of the voices? I suppose that I should feel flattered that you've been searching through my old posts and attempting to take pot shots at me. Slightly stalkerish, but that's OK. Do seek psychiatric help before you start doing this sort of thing to people offline.

property.advert

The OP is putting up so many barriers it is no wonder she is single. Guys don't want someone who needs a meal ticket but they couldn't care less whether you have a garden or a nice house or a very good job or lives in a nice area, though they probably don't want some tattooed slapper from a run down council estate with debts and a key meter for the electric.

I've had relationships with women older and younger than me and don't see age as an issue. I'd take that barrier down first. As to professing your status, use words as independent, perhaps even financially stable etc. no need to blab on about cars and houses and neatly trimmed lawns.

What do you do for entertainment ? where do you like to go on holiday ? what is your favourite type of food ? all very easy things to strike up an interest and then conversation.

If I was single I would perhaps pay for a site where women had to pay to join as even a few pounds each month would weed out a lot of the crap and the great unwashed. Even £10 a month trial for 3 months would cost less than a pizza meal out with a couple of drinks and that is spread over 3 months !

I know that were I looking, I would have a lot of trouble in finding someone half decent who had not let her body go to seed and who did not come with debts or serious emotional baggage. I would expect ex partners, husbands, though perhaps not too many of those, kids even depending upon her age but she'd have to excite me enough to read her advert and respond and I wouldn't bother with yours.

My initial suggestion would be to go and read the adverts other women put up, not the men and see what you could learn.

As for finding a partner in a traditional way, then at that age, it is going to be down to work, friends, family and who they know unless you broaden your cirlce and start some new hobbies to meet people.

Nixer

I remember reading the dating ads in my local paper years back and there was one every week (for the 18 months or so that I read it) from a man who was seeking a woman with x height, weight and hair colour. I *think* the heights and weights were exact, no ranges. Really creepy, but he obviously wasn't getting any replies.