Time seems passing so quick and no luck to find a new partner... any ideas please!!

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MrsAnnie

bluetifulguide wrote: »

Hi! There,
I am a lady in my forties, long dark brown hair, slim, pretty (they say), with excellent job, own car, own home with nice garden in nice place somewhere in Berkshire. I am loving, caring and dedicated etc...

I had been alone for two years now, at the beggining that is what I need to find my space after a painful break-up. Now I am ready to move on again, I tried all sorts to mix in, blend with different socialising place, I tried dating sites but met so many (men) for a drink and chat, after talking for 2 hours-already notice what is wrong with him-he seems still carry the old baggage in his shoulder, dont know how to relax and move on. So I go and move on.. I gave up from dating sites, cost too much and very misleading ie too many liars and he looked older than the photos :-(

Example: Here's what I'm looking for;
I have no baggage for you to worry about, no children, no pets, looking for someone similar, is that too much to ask?
Preferred age and height: 41-46, 5’9”-5’11”.
ETC...

I knew I had enough being on my own, I could do a nice company specially weekend or with my spare time... time seems passing so quick and no luck to find a new partner (I tried not to look anymore)... any ideas please!!

Regards
Blue

First of all, IMO, alot of decent men do not primarliy focus on outward appearance.

Yes. I think your desired man critria is to limited! I would guess that you are rulling out so many decent men and potential mates. Also everybody carries some sort of baggage - this should only be a turn off if they are angry and bitter about their past.

What are your interests and hobbies? This is a good starting point. Join clubs or interest groups to find a like minded person.

As the old cliche goes - when you stop 'looking' you will find a man.

You seem to be leading a really good life. Enjoy it! Love will find you when you least expect it!

dandy-candy

bluetifulguide wrote: »

Example: Here's what I'm looking for;
I have no baggage for you to worry about, no children, no pets, looking for someone similar, is that too much to ask?
Preferred age and height: 41-46, 5’9”-5’11”.
ETC...

Tbh I think you are narrowing your criteria too much. Although you haven't had kids most people of your age will have done so thats a large chunk of men you've crossed off the list already. Also people who are single and don't have kids are quite likely to have a pet for company - whoops they won't be responding either then!
My sis got divorced 12 years ago, she is 41, slim, fit, pretty, has a house in a very expensive area, drives and Audi sports car, earns over £200k a year....and can't find a man. They guys she mets are either just players or dull she says. Now fair enough if a guy is a player I would forget it, but she decides they are dull on the first meeting giving no thought to maybe they are just shy, nervous etc. Keep looking and be a bit more open minded!

gratefulforhelp_2

In this age range are you being a little unrealistic saying no baggage?

Most people this age will have been married/got a pet/have other issues.

If you can't/won't deal with that, you're really narrowing the market.

xmaslolly76

Why no children? Wouldnt alot of men that age have grown up children by then so shouldnt impact greatly on your lifestyle. I can understand not wanting littlies involved if you have chosen not to have children.

Errata

Make sure all your friends, relatives, acquaintances, work colleagues know that you're looking for a bloke. Most people love matchmaking, most people know someone who wants to hook up with someone and can't find anyone.
Prepare to kiss many frogs and never find the one who will turn into a prince.

carolinejane_2

No baggage is a lot to ask for in your 40s. I would be more suspicious of someone who hadnt had some stuff happen to them. No kids, no pets .......very limiting and makes you sound quite cold if you see what I mean. Maybe a bit of rewording and relaxing about meeting someone....men can smell desperation Im sure:D

Zazen999

bluetifulguide wrote: »

Hi! There,
I am a lady in my forties, long dark brown hair, slim, pretty (they say), with excellent job, own car, own home with nice garden in nice place somewhere in Berkshire. I am loving, caring and dedicated etc...

I had been alone for two years now, at the beggining that is what I need to find my space after a painful break-up. Now I am ready to move on again, I tried all sorts to mix in, blend with different socialising place, I tried dating sites but met so many (men) for a drink and chat, after talking for 2 hours-already notice what is wrong with him-he seems still carry the old baggage in his shoulder, dont know how to relax and move on. So I go and move on.. I gave up from dating sites, cost too much and very misleading ie too many liars and he looked older than the photos :-(

Example: Here's what I'm looking for;
I have no baggage for you to worry about, no children, no pets, looking for someone similar, is that too much to ask?
Preferred age and height: 41-46, 5’9”-5’11”.
ETC...

I knew I had enough being on my own, I could do a nice company specially weekend or with my spare time... time seems passing so quick and no luck to find a new partner (I tried not to look anymore)... any ideas please!!

Regards
Blue

Interesting approach! I've found that on first meetings, people generally will talk about themselves and if you are interpreting this as baggage, then no wonder you are single.

The idea is to get this out of the way and then move on if you actually like the other person....anyone around mid 40s is going to have had some sort of life, even if it is living with mummy and daddy!

I'd perhaps leave it a while longer, I don't think you are ready yet.

Errata

I think it's the OP who's stating they don't have any baggage. Why is this so important to the OP that they have to mention it ? Everyone of the OP's age has baggage. Some have it sorted out and parcelled away, others not.

vixarooni

perhaps you think of yourself too highly and wont lower yourself to these other men?

I would say enjoy life for what it is, having good friends and good times with them. The partner thing will happen when its meant to.

lilac_lady

Some people have baggage that'll fit in the overhead cabin locker but others have enough to fill the hold. The trick is finding out who has what baggage.

Let me know if any of you know the answer!