It's STILL tough and not getting better - so how are we coping?

365days

Went to countrywide and Purple spray was £9.99 and hibiscrub a similar price.

In the end I took him to the vets, it was heartbreaking to see him hobbbling around. Glad i did as she said it was one (well 2!) of the worse pad shreds she had seen. He had a shot of painkiller, and anti biotic tablets and liquid. Cost £53.00!!! One of those costs you just have to swallow sometimes.He is worth it, he is a gorgeous dog.Just need to try and save that back over the next few weeks.Least it wasn't just slapped on a credit card like it would of been a couple of years ago. She also said sudocrem is the best thing to put on it so ty for the poster who recommended that. Sudocrem is great for all sorts I find.

I sympathise with the sandals. I do tend to have certain shoes/clothes that I fall in love with. I think you could try writing to clarks....something along the lines of...They survived the jungle, the rapids but fell foul to a fox......I'd try their PR/marketing department..worth a go.

New pots from the garden on the hob, with home cooked ham and salad for tea - Marble cake in the oven. Smelling good!

ceridwen

lauren_1 wrote: »

No funnily enough i've not seen her since! I was rather :mad: though, said some horrible things about her lack of hearing, intelligence and why on earth did she think we were the same size? (she also ruined a 'new romantics' silk blouse by ripping the back).

No one goes in to my wardrobe now and if anyone asks to borrow my shoes i tell them i have a nasty verucca.

She got off lightly then...:rotfl:. I would have just made one remark - but it would have been "Those boots will cost £x to replace - and I hope I can find ones I like as much. I'll be going out on Saturday to see if I can find a replacement - so could I have the money from you by then please?"...:)

ginnyknit

My son got a JOB!!!!! at last....2 years and he has tried damn hard to get one so i am very proud. He has retrained twice, but the bottom fell out of the market in both skills he trained for. So he got an office job. Means I may well be a bit better off as we have been helping him out since his ex left him with debts.

Feeling a bit wobbly today, don't know whether its stress or exhaustion, so am taking it easy today. Dd just got me more white bread flour as the foccacia yesterday was very good but am going to mix a bit of brown flour in too don't think anyone will notice.

going to finish off an embroidery tonight as its a C word pressie, got to get my self into gear :eek::eek::eek: as I am worrying about it. Got Dgs a lovely ABC panel for his new bedroom ( when they get a flipping house, considering they are top of list due to Dh's being disabled!) the panel was a quid off the sunday market - am very pleased with it too - couldn't make it for that!

ceridwen

One thing I wonder about is how people cope generally with living with the uncertainty that a lot of us are experiencing at the moment.

Like a lot of us - I'm living with uncertainty as to will anything happen to my job and, if so, when and exactly what will it be?

Having gone through job losses myself before now - I tend to think, at an emotional level, they were easier to cope with. Reason - as I knew exactly what was happening and what I was supposed to do to deal with it - so I just got on with it. Make list:
- tell everyone close to me
- apply for benefit
- search for a new job
- etc

When it's uncertain as to just what IS happening - then there is nothing concrete one can do to deal with it - as you don't know exactly what you will be dealing with - if anything. Okay - you make sure you're as on top of the finances as possible - but what else?

With a lot of people being in the "Uncertain Seat" (makes a change from the "Naughty Step" that children get sent to.....) - how do other people cope with being in that position?

EDIT: Just seen your news Ginny - good one...pleased for you all on that.

penelopedee_2

Great news Ginnyknit :j

Nargleblast

I am lucky not to have been in that situation (i.e. in a job that might or might not finish) but I would imagine that apart form getting on top of finances in preparation for the worst case scenario, another thing to do would be to make a list of all the things that need doing at home (jobs put off, long overdue, waiting till you have the time to do it etc). Then if the worst were to happen you could force yourself to do the jobs on the list to keep yourself busy and stop yourself brooding about your situation. Another thing could be to make a list of all possible or even seemingly-impossible jobs you could apply for. Get outside your normal comfort zone and start looking into jobs that you normally would not have thought of, could be a chance for a change in career maybe?

Ginnyknit - good news on your son's job, hopefully this will be the breakthrough he has been waiting for. Things can only get better from here!

penelopedee_2

Ceridwen, its the uncertantity that's playing on everyone's minds I think. It was grim at work today and some of the people concerned were totally shocked. It was only a small set of redundancies (I know its never small to the poor souls concerned). The rest of us are just left waiting for what's next.

So tomorrow I am going to make sure that I enjoy my time at work, and make time for the people there that I care for. I'll also do the plants when I get in I think to try and brighten it up a bit

parsonswife8

Ginnyknit, my daughter was made redundant twice in the past 3 years. I know how hard it is to cope with the constant daily worry, it just wears you down.
:eek:
Thankfully, she too has found a new job about 2 months ago.


Well done to your son and the best of luck to you.:T

ceridwen

parsonswife8 wrote: »

Ginnyknit, my daughter was made redundant twice in the past 3 years. I know how hard it is to cope. the constant daily worry just wears you down.
:eek:
Thankfully, she too has found a new job about 2 months ago.


Well done to your son and the best of luck to you.:T

Glad your daughter has found something too:T

I guess your phrase "just wears you down" sums it up ..."water dripping on stone"...the effort involved in trying to wrench your mind back to "normal life" - because, after all, what point is there in doing other than getting on with life while you wait....

parsonswife8

ceridwen wrote: »

Glad your daughter has found something too:T

I guess your phrase "just wears you down" sums it up ..."water dripping on stone"...the effort involved in trying to wrench your mind back to "normal life" - because, after all, what point is there in doing other than getting on with life while you wait....

Thanks Ceridwen:)
The past 3 or4 years have been hard. Her being unemployed has caused a lot of worry for me. She was living independantly, but had to return twice to live with me and her stepfather and had gotten herself into debt as a result of losing her job.

But she has pulled herself up again and at the moment, all is right in her world and therefore, all is right in mine too.:T
Your child is your child for life, even when they are young adults.