It's STILL tough and not getting better - so how are we coping?

jackieglasgow

Mmm I love French Toast, you've put me in the mood. Soup was leek and potato soup but I think a side order of French Toast may be in order now.

smileyt_2

Hi, I haven't posted for a while but just popped on to say that approvedfood.co.uk have lots of organic baby food on offer at the moment. I know p&p is high but if you can share with someone or if you save enough, it might be worth having a look. I know there are a couple of people on here with young babies.

Sorry if it's been posted before - I haven't had time to check.

HTH someone.

grandma247

Kitcaboodle wrote: »

My sister-in-law is a primary school teacher and she buys breakfast bars with her own money because some of the kids in her class don't get given any breakfast. One of them has an older brother who looks after him while his mum is at work and said his brother ate the last bowl of cereal so there was nothing for him to eat.

It makes me so sad and angry to hear of kids who aren't cared for.

It is not always that kids are not cared for. People are becoming poorer and it is like the seventies all over again. Women are being forced out to work if they are on their own with no back up unless they have family close by. Things like this will get more common. It will be even worse because people do not have the skills needed to cope,such as cooking from scratch,budgeting,making do and mending. All of these things used to be taught in domestic science classes but kids barely have cooking at school now and I am not talking about fairy cakes but real,good,nutritious, cheap foods.

On another note, my daughter had an incident with her middle child about breakfast club when they moved to a new area.
She was called to school and was met in the classroom by the teacher and the assistant who said they were very concerned because C. had come to school saying he had had no breakfast so they gave him some and could they help in any way?
My daughter was mortified because he had breakfast before school!
They quickley realised he had lied so worked out he liked the breakfast but it was the social aspect he liked best and he did not want to miss out so my daughter agreed to send him to breakfast club.

flowertotmum

Right back on topic...its quite warm here and the sun is just breaking through..hubby at job interview..got my fingers crossed for him..having pork chops for tea with the all the trimmings and rice pudding for pudding...got my windows open and have done all my jobs so i am having a sit down for 5 mins...we got paid today and made it through the month with £8 spare..had to order my little ones birthday present today...she is 2 next thursday and we have bought her a trike...£22.98 off ebay inc p&p..not too bad..after this i'm going to empty the rest of my girls bedroom..we decorating it..got a bargain on ebay for the wallpaper 6 full rolls and a 3/4 one for £6.99...it is lovely too..white background with ribbons and bows all over it..will look lovely...need to find some white curtains but thats it..i'm excited its been a while since its been done and still has baby paper on the walls...now they getting bigger its time to change..shame they have to grow up in one way...have a good day all...
take care

fantacee

ooops: wasn't ignoring everyone and the child care/neglect stories just missed that there'd been another whole page of posts :eek:

my friend works as one of those support people in a secondary school, often times picking up the children to take them to school when they've particularly given up fending for themselves or think no-one cares! - she says she sometimes has to visit children as young as 8, still in primary as a precursor to getting to know them and to show them there will be support available to them through the years.. so sad!

I once reported a suspected "abuse" case, the Dad was a friend/acquaintance of ours and came into our shop quite often with his DD, his was a tale of woe and I suspected that his partner (problems of her own I think?) was abusing the child though he never said as much just said the child was accident prone.. broke my heart it did, didn't know whether to be an interfering busybody or not however I did eventually report it and it was all handled anonymously, he never knew, well maybe he did but not the "whom" - and I don't know what actually happened, if anything - but a couple years later he was separated and has custody of the child - I suspect there was more to it than one phone call but sometimes I think that these reports or concerns are better if they come from multiple sources especially if the mother (the one who usually always wins!) is the offending party. I did feel sorry for her but she would have every opportunity to help herself I'm sure.

We have always explained to DS that his classmates that are from single parent families - now the majority! - are not necessarily any worse off than supposed "happy families" it's the love and openness that enriches our lives and it doesn't matter if there's one adult in the household or 2 or 3 - we had to have the discussion as family members went through "split ups" and explain that his cousins were probably happier now.. I have to laugh though when he tells us to stop arguing (for the record we're 21 years married and only about 3 "proper" arguments..) and have often told him he wouldn't know what arguing/fighting parents were like if they jumped up and bit him in the b*m.. I come from a family where we as kids frequently had to take refuge in our rooms or be out of the house to avoid the fallout

IMHO It's not good to hide the children from all tensions/arguments in a family as this is the reality especially when times are tough, but an explanation of the why hopefully shouldn't go amiss either, they will need to cope with their own realities either I'm sure it won't be all Roses and Chocolate in the future either :rotfl:

kidcat

Having worked with kids and families from tough backgrounds I have stories that still make me weep years later, I used to visit kids that attended a group I ran, every week just to keep in touch and be around if they needed to talk, some of the things I saw were so awful I cannot bear remembering them. How society has got it so wrong I despair.

Its raining here again today, and I have youngest off school with chest infection and a variety of other infections too!! So nothing happening here today, she just wants me to sit with her and gets all fussy when I leave the room. Had been planning a roast to use the birthday present from my parents yesterday (carving dish and knives) but no chance I can escape the living room long enough so gonna have to be something quick I can throw together when older kids get home and can sit with madam for me.

Margaret54

oh sammy_kaye what a wonderful piece brilliant. Thank you so much for sharing it with us and what beautiful children too. I have read many of your posts over time and I think you are a terrific Mum and are so kind and caring and it is lovely to see.x

Lindy_-_Loo

carriebradshaw wrote: »

why don't you try and apply for this sample it's got nit repellent in

http://www.vosenekids.co.uk/nitwatch

they give away 1000 every week and it's 100ml bottle

it's got good reviews on the freebies board :T

Thankyou I ve just registered. Going to buy some tea tree shampoo aswell. Pouring with rain here, soaked doing school run so trousers in dryer! boots I bought have given me blisters, even tried with inner soles today and just so painful.

Sammy the kids r lovely x

gailey_2

Im having ok day today health wise not been sick.

its rained here all day.
Not gone out as hubby took daughter to school then went round sainsburys to do ours and his mams shopping.
He had to go in boots to as on her list is 120 painkillers which they wont sell as think its suicide mish luckily boots next to sainsburys.

I have been busy today in kitchen first time in weeks could face cooking, I do miss as as truly love cooking yummy stuff for family.

spent half an hour making pastry whilst watching wright stuff
roasted whole chicken first thing as was on offer at 3quid.
once cooked and cut and stripped the bird.
put main meat on plate in fridge as doing roast tonights dinner familys fave.
stripped rest of meat and did filling for pasties basically its 300ml chicken stock, chicken, potato ,mixed herbs, 4teaspoons nutmeg, 2 papkika, salt and pepper simmered for 10-15mins.

had pastry left over so did 12 mini chese and ham quiches.
recipie for pasties meant to make 8 but hubby helped himself to filling out of pan so only managed to make 7pasties but they huge ad one each for luch and got 5left!
Been craving pasties all week.
seen as I have eggs left and leftover pastry will make another 12mini quiches.

got chicken carcass in pan to boil up later.
just peeled ,boiled potatos and used chicken fat so every bit of bird used up.

just need to make yorkie from scratch later and use frozen veg cooked meat and potaos in advance so reheat and add gravy.

Got lots of washing up to do
more washing
hoovering

plus got several parcels to post.
pick eldest up soon.
give both kids bath and hubby can do bedtime.

hubbys cursing me for having lights on but been dark here today
hes just got back from farmfoods quite impressed hes going out of his way to get milk and bread as huge saving.

He struggled with self serve tills in sainburys luckily assistant too pity on him and packed his bags, thats what keeps me loyal to sainsburys they help and its close.

Also i need to watch tv as memory on sky plus box nearly full!

got free cd player of mil she dident want anymore and daughter broke mine few months ago was on my list to buy but hasent been prioritry might reorganise my music collection again now!

flowertotmum

WOW...gailey you are busy...i too love farmfoods for the milk and bread..i go to sainsbury's too..my dd works there and i have a staff discount card..10% off every purchase plus nectar points so its not bad...your pasties sound yummy..is that what your craving?
Sammy kaye..thats wonderful..and o so true...you little ones are totally gorgeous...
I have been a bad girl today:D..i went on ebay and bought some fabric:D...so now i'm banned from ebay ...until end of october;)..we'll see;)..thing is i had to have it..its gorgeous and only 1 left...i know i'm shallow..but it is very pretty and will make a lovely cushion cover for my girls bedroom...
Well the heavens have opened just in time for the school run:(..
Anyone read on the news that people between 39-44 are supposed to be the most miserable...:rotfl:not in this house their not...where do they find all the miserable people...
take care