It's STILL tough and not getting better - so how are we coping?

jackieglasgow

Unfortunately though Ceridwen, lots of people out there don't possess even the basic skills to parent a child, for them its not a case of not wanting to look after their children but not knowing how to, or having the faculties or presence of mind to ask for the help they need to do so.

Kitcaboodle

I know Ceridwen! If they aren't feeding them then goodness knows how else they get treated (or rather mis-treated).

elisamoose

Not being fed adequately is neglect. My school would refer to SS if that happened more than once or twice-and we are in a deprived area and see some sights!

Lindy_-_Loo

Sadly at the boys school there are children whose families are being helped by social services or by the school who run a parenting programme. Its just hard to see them crying and being upset, couple of the other mums who do toast say I will get used to it but its sad, like you say its not fair on the children.

We had another headlice letter today, the mum who I do toast with has 3 kids at school and the three of them came home yeaterday with them. Ive never seen headlice so was grilling her - the lotion she bought was £10 for a large bottle and this does her and the children (plus OH when it a wkend as he works away) for just one treatment, has to buy another bottle to re treat in seven days time. Shocked at the price!

kidcat

Lindy lou - your doctor can prescribe it for kids, on free prescription

Lindy_-_Loo

kidcat wrote: »

Lindy lou - your doctor can prescribe it for kids, on free prescription

I never knew that thankyou - have checked hair tonight and its okay, Im itching all over though!

I cant believe how expensive it is, I should get OH to check my hair really, pity you cant just get it on prescription just in case!

Hippeechiq

mardatha wrote: »

Costco had 6pint cartons for £1.35 yesterday...we go through a lot of milk so buy them, but I still very much miss the real glass bottle milk

fantacee wrote: »

Off to have a read of that diary Jackie,

re milk, I have been buying 2 x 4pt (8pt) for £1.50 from Farmfoods these last 6 weeks, and buying 4 a week and freezing them, trial and error led me to dunk them in warm/hot water to thaw slowly if not out of freezer in time rather than fast thawing. I too miss real Milk! - also as we have to make flasks of Hot chocolate at the weekend (footie!) - I'm diluting them half and half with dried milk, it works great and I think I will use the dried milk for more now during this coming winter

And very nice too if you live near a Co$tco or a F@rmfoods, I live near neither and we get through 2L per day at least.

I mostly get it from Icel@nd for £1.10 per 2L bottle or when I get my online shop twice a month from A$da, I get 2 x 2L for £2 which doesn't come even close to what you guys are paying.

........I could do with a cow really......

RAS

jackieglasgow wrote: »

Unfortunately though Ceridwen, lots of people out there don't possess even the basic skills to parent a child, for them its not a case of not wanting to look after their children but not knowing how to, or having the faculties or presence of mind to ask for the help they need to do so.

I think part of the issue is that some people just are not sufficiently motivated by anything to make proper use of contraception, so kids just happen.

Others think a baby would be nice and forget there is another 40 years of mayhem attached to the booties. I have lost count of the number of times I have heard young girls and some women say "Now I have got somebody who really loves me." Poor mites; if mum and dad do not understand at that stage that parenting (UK style anyway) requires unconditional love from the parents, there is little chance for them.

I can see why some organisations think they need to parent the parents if the family is to have a chance.

On the other hand, I think sometimes people outside can give a chikld a leg up by showing them respect and support.

In a very minor way I recall a rather wild teenager who someone let into my shared house once. Thereafter, he had to be supervised if he was even in the garden. That winter he was found on a freezing night trying to garner some heat when the door of the corner shop was opened. In a shirt, locked out of the house by his sister with no supper, yet again. We agreed to let him in and when he went to grab the food still on the table with his hands, he was sent for cutlery and a plate. He ate at the table and took his stuff to the kitchen afterwards.

A few years later, this little heathen would knock and ask if he could do his homework in the back room because it was too rowdy at home or for help with his maths. He got three good GCSEs; enough to get him on the NVQ 3 course he wanted. Nice lad in the end.

charlies-aunt

Headlice ...'orrible little things. When they were doing the rounds locally, we used to saturate our girls hair in neat vinegar after every washing, let it sit, comb through with fine comb and then rinse it off.

When I worked on A&E , human lice, crabs and fleas were an occupational hazard . . . . it was not unusual to undress a baby/toddler and underneath the cleanish top layers there would be a filthy vest covering a little body that alive with beasties and obviously hadn't seen soap and water for weeks. :mad: No excuse for not keeping your kids clean when you can get 4 bars of Basics soap for 16p.

I can't understand why any child should have to go to school hungry when its possible to get a loaf (Aldi 31p), a jar of jam (Basics 35p) and a tub of spread (Aldi 59p) and make platefuls of jam sandwiches . . .in hard times past, we've had bread and sunflower spread morning, noon and night for weeks on end - and although its probably not the most nutritious meal - it filled us up on the cheap and we're still here to tell the tale.

kidcat

Tea tree oil is meant to be great at preventing lice, when they were at their worst in my DD class years ago, we took to using tea tree shampoo and conditioner to try to stop her catching them