It's STILL tough and not getting better - so how are we coping?

northwest1965

Kitcaboodle wrote: »

DH hates those no-touch sanitizers too, he goes on rants about 'trying to make people scared so they'll buy stuff' when those ads and other similar germ-killing ones come on TV. I'm very much of the school of thought that thinks we're sanitizing ourselves into a generation of people allergic to everything as well. (I have occasional asthma myself but I put that down to going to school right next to a field where they crop sprayed during playtime...)

Germs are good, we need them to build up an immune system.
I am 44 and ours parents didnt have any of these modern sprays/wipes etc. Good old fashioned bleach and that was it. If my dummy fell on the floor, my mum wiped it and gave it to me! She raised 7 kids so must have done something right:)

lambanana

Oh yes, use no touch hand soap then dry your hands on a germy towel...what's the point?! A few germs are good for you anyway I'm sure!

bluebag

No touch sanitiser.... what a load of old.
My mum is 76,never a day in hospital except for childbirth, her childhood was very like Angela's ashes. ONE bar of soap in the house for everything from cleaning the grate to the babies bots.

Never heard such a load.

Kindness to all going through tough times at the moment, it can be a rough life at times.

fantacee

No touch hand soap? Very rarely watch adverts so this is new to me.. what is the world coming to :eek:

Day started off sluggish, weather was and still is rotten, then work was a chore giving me a stinking headache which feels like it might turn to a migraine so I should get off the 'pooter

however on the plus side.. think I'm really getting into this OS lark, and enjoying it too, when the going gets tough eh!

Hugs {{{ x }}} to all those that need them today, and sorry to hear about those relationships that are suffering, money worries always seem to escalate things 10 fold, but show up true heroines and heros all of whom I think are posting in this thread :T

Anyway I have family coming on Sunday for Mum's b/day - non of us can afford pressies this year - so I'm doing a good OS style comfort tea for 12 eeek.. Chilli is in SC today (will put recipe later if anyone wants to share, lots of veg and beans to stretch it out) should get about half in freezer afterwards too doing 2 or 3 meals for us lot.

Thinking of making some Tortilla chips and raita to have as a side to the chilli

Beef (stewing and stir fry strips mega reduced in Mr T's bargain corner last week) is thawing ready to make Stovies. Oatcakes and beetroot are traditionally served with Stovies so I made my own Oatcakes for the first time today too yippee!! - however after tasting them with some cheese and the apple butter made earlier this week think I'm going need to make more before Sunday.. they're unlikely to last that long :rotfl:

Making a Carrot Cake and using the apple butter as filling for the "birthday cake" to double as a pud, Sis is bringing a bargain pavlova, have some ice cream left in freezer and will pick up some cream. Off to make some muffins just now as DS and friend are having a sleepover, no school tomorrow, - if there's any muffins left we've discovered these are delicious served with custard if they're a couple days old.

There's only 3 of us in the house normally so I don't often do too much baking, but knowing there's a houseful coming this weekend I'm having great fun

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PS: just been offered a fridge freezer for the garage.. yippee will be able to get into this batch cooking and freezing the extra bread and milk ready for winter :T We don't live near shops and it always a struggle to fit the existing 4 loaves and 8litres of milk needed each week, l et alone a couple weeks worth in winter - and then still have room for batches, soups, stews especially with all the extra fruit/veg neighbours have given us this year (they have polytunnel and only the two of them) bless them!

The day has definitely just got better, hope it is fine where you are too!

{x}

katholicos

mardatha wrote: »

I used to be really shy, really really shy, for many years of my life. I hated to hurt feelings & still do...but many people equate niceness with weakness, and then take advantage. A friend once told me that "not all people are as nice as you are "...and also that if you act like a doormat then people will walk all over you. I never forgot that because its true.

My doctor actually told me a couple of months ago, 'stop being so damned nice and start getting angry at the world"

I actually found that hugely encouraging because I hate confrontation and will avoid it at all cost, will persevere in the face of adversity blah blah blah...but now i've found my voice...it's still rather quiet and almost apologetic sounding when it breaks out of me, but I'm finding more and more that sometimes words leave my mouth without my checking them first and before i know it i have dissented from popular opinion or made my feelings known even when i have wanted to keep them hidden.

I've been a doormat for much of my adult life really, but now at the ripe old age of 42 I've come to learn to respect myself and to appreciate my worth as a human being. When we can recognise we have worth, we can recognise when people try to put us down and try to make us feel less than human. It may take some of us longer than others to learn that we are significant, that we are important, that we add value to the lives of others and to the world around us.

Ok, end of speech!:rotfl:

katholicos

kezlou wrote: »

Thanks everyone for your support, i shouldn't posted it up as its not really OS . Sorry board guides !



Trust me i'm not, i'm sick, we've been together 11 years now (i was 16 he was 20, when we first got together) and quite frankly i'm not putting up with it any more.
Losing and attending the funeral of a very very close friend of ours last week has just made me like think why should i stand for this. Our boys need a home where they not getting shouted by some toss pot who's had a long day. guess what we all have :mad:.
But i was very good today i walked into aldi needing something to cheer me up, saw a lump of chocolate and shockingly i walked away :A. Instead i left the shop and walked home instead, came back and some choc concrete instead. :T So proud of myself.

So when the !!!!! comes back he's got the worst job in the house to do, he's cleaning the outside drain muhahahahahaha

Now just had some dinner then going to see if the washing is dry, after some monkey left it out all night :whistle:

Couldn't agree more and well done on walking away from the Aldi chocolate :A

Nargleblast

What a lot of posts to catch up on!

Ginnyknit - well done on contacting CCCS for help, you will feel a lot better about things now. Suggest you look at the DMP mutual support thread on the Debt Free Wannabe forum, it's as its name suggests, a forum for those in the same situation as you who can give advice and support based on their own experiences.

Kidcat - so sorry the proverbial brown stuff has hit the fan. You are in for a rough ride but I think, from what you posted, you have done the right thing. You will find yourself on the other side of this one day, looking back and thanking your lucky stars you took the action you took. Hang in there.

Kezlou - my sympathies! My own OH can be a git at times. Well done for standing up to him though.

Flowertotmum - what a miserable sod! Even when you offered some jam in return? Some folk are a pure waste of good oxygen, I think!

I know the feeling about being a doormat. I have always wanted a quiet life, take after my Dad in that respect. However, I am starting to stand up more for myself - you can do that without being nasty, I have discovered. I still smile when I think of the saying - "The meek shall inherit the earth - if that's ok with the rest of you!"

Keep on smiling, folks!

lovelife_3

Hello all, i've posted on here a couple of times but not really introduced myself, i am 47, beem married for 23 years have a son of 22 and an 18 year old daughter. I started reading this thread a couple of months ago and it has really been a great source of strength to me, lovely,lovely people.....
I often start posts and then delete them, but going to try and finish this one:) My life has been transformed beyond belief in the last couple of years,...........
I had a business that unfortunately went bust two years ago, it was a ltd company but the business overdraft had to be personally guaranteed, when the business went down so did we............
we are in an IVA and just about coping, in fact in many ways my life has been enhanced, i have embraced OS wholeheartedly, well as best as i can do, i am the whoopsie queen at Asda, brilliant bargains to be had around 7pm, i have tried to grow my own veg this year, courgettes were brilliant, tomatoes didn't turn red!!! i had 47 plants, now i have lots of green tomato chutney!!! Started brewing my own wine, love red wine tooo much!! Donate lots to charity now as all clothes, bedding, towels etc come from our brilliant local charity shop.

in lots of ways things are good but feel !!!! tonight, overwhelmed, want to cry but what's the point, can't write any more daughter wants the laptop, things can only get better and all that ... sending out love to all xx

mardatha

Nobody had red tomatoes this year pet, the weather saw to that !!

Nargleblast

Hello and welcome, lovelife, I am also in an IVA (along with OH), got either 3 or 4 years left, depending on whether we get to remortgage or not. Either way, the end is in sight and I have been fervently following this forum (wow! what alliteration!) getting tips on how to make ends meet, and also getting involved in discussions about life, the universe and everything.

Red tomatoes - my two little plants have produced small orange tomatoes (because they are an orange tomato breed!) but I know of people who have been left with a glut of green ones. Methinks there will be several cauldrons of green tomato chutney on the go in households up and down the country. I made a couple of jars last year, andsomeone asked me for the recipe only the other day, so I hope hers turns out ok! Skinned chopped tomatoes, onion, bit of garlic, chopped apple, sultanas, brown sugar, vinegar, curry spices (just a smidgeon) - boiled till thick then potted up. Good with cheese.