would yyou buy next to

Owain_Moneysaver

Problem is, the current occupants may be the nicest quietest imaginable neighbours but they could be replaced by occupants with rather more challenging behaviour.

Which if course is no different really from any other semi.

oneeye1

the carers live there so im not sure how much coming and going there would be at nite

oldMcDonald

I would be very happy to buy it - but then I am a mum to a profoundly disabled child

It could be very noisy - some special needs children can be very loud! My own son can be very loud at times but I have wonderful neighbours who understand - even so, I imagine it must be hard for them if he decides he wants to be awake all night. There may also be a lot of noise in the garden, so this may get to you if you are after peace and quiet.

As others have said, the comings and goings of staff can also create noise.

I like vet8s post.

If I had been asked this question before my son was born I would have said 'no way'! I had no experience of SLDs and, if I am being very honest, I was scared of people who were learning disabled. I would have had several concerns - similar to your own - about buying such a property. I would probably have also used the term 'these people' and thought that I was wording things well

Now - well I watch my other children. I see how they go into my sons schools and play and talk with the children - some of these children are unable to communicate, some cannot even smile - I watch my kids talking to them and helping them feel toys hand over hand without a second thought. They would have grown up as I did, scared of what I didn't know much about, had they not grown up around children with special needs.

You have to be honest with yourself - if you really would be concerned about possible noise or a lot of people coming and going and if you really do believe that your children / yourself would find it difficult to live near to children with SLDs then no, don't buy it. You will not enjoy living there and when you come to sell it others may have the same concerns that you do. However, if you think it would be a positive thing for your children and are not concerned about possible noise then go for it.

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oneeye1 wrote: »

the carers live there so im not sure how much coming and going there would be at nite

Probably very little if the same carers are resident all the time but a bit more if there are shift changes late at night and early in the morning, but impossible to predict.
Why is the vendor selling ?
Is the price lower than similar houses near by ?

jockosjungle

To be honest if I was buying a semi-detached house, what I would like next door is another semi-deatched house. The people who are being holier than thou aren't buying the house, nor would they probably buy the house. If you ever want to sell it, it would put people off, the fact that you're posting this shows it is putting you off, people have given anecdotal evidence that people do have problems with this (call them NIMBYs or whatever).

When you come to sell it, hopefully one of the people on this thread will buy it from you for a decent price

R

oneeye1

oldmacdonald cheers and as i say i am totally ignorant on the subject one thing tho is they are all adults,we have decided to go up (its 200miles away)and try and talk to carers and if poss interact with some of the clients and see whats what we do have to make sure we are not throwing dead money away if we needed to sell.the house is owned by a lady who has lived there for 88 years and has gone into a home i thought the house was cheapish for the area but not sure now

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oneeye1 wrote: »

oldmacdonald cheers and as i say i am totally ignorant on the subject one thing tho is they are all adults,we have decided to go up (its 200miles away)and try and talk to carers and if poss interact with some of the clients and see whats what we do have to make sure we are not throwing dead money away if we needed to sell.the house is owned by a lady who has lived there for 88 years and has gone into a home i thought the house was cheapish for the area but not sure now

Be prepared to draw a blank. If I was a worker in supported accommodation and someone who thought they might fancy buying the house next door wanted to ask me questions about the people I'm working with I'd tell them to put their questions in writing to my manager - and expect them to be told nothing with a subtext of 'jog off'.

puddy

tizerbelle wrote: »

Puddy, slighty off topic but while I have some issues with the OPs thought process (as per my previous post) I also have to say I have concerns about your response as well. My father was a racist violent bigot. According to you so am I and my brother. Sorry but we are not. If this is truly your belief then you are as "discriminatory" as the OP and need to challenge your own thoughts as well.

Back to topic - OP, I would second Whitesatin and say you could use this as a learning experience for you and the children but if you are not prepared to put the effort in, do not buy the house.

you're right, i am generalising hugely and of course not all kids turn out like their parents, but if op changes their view or gains more information about people with learning difficulties, then their child wont be scared.

op, im sorry if i sound harsh, i think it was the term 'these people', so sorry, i understand that you're learning about things you didnt know about and we have all done that and had a different view of things after so it will probably be the same for you

oldMcDonald

oneeye1 wrote: »

oldmacdonald cheers and as i say i am totally ignorant on the subject one thing tho is they are all adults,we have decided to go up (its 200miles away)and try and talk to carers and if poss interact with some of the clients and see whats what we do have to make sure we are not throwing dead money away if we needed to sell.the house is owned by a lady who has lived there for 88 years and has gone into a home i thought the house was cheapish for the area but not sure now

It would be a good idea to talk to the carers - not only will it (hopefully) help you to work out your own worries but, were you to buy, it would be good for them to know that the new neighbours were understanding of the clients needs. Do phone first though, so they know who you are and why you would like to meet with them.

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These people are not public property ! Nobody has the right to rock up to where they live and start questioning the people who work with them the ins and outs of their disablity, their lives and how they live them. grrrr