Split Up

Mark_the_owl

pandora205 wrote: »

Hmmm... there is another way of seeing this. Women often have strong instincts when their men are starting to stray. Saying he has fallen out of love and playing online games and chatting with a woman for extended periods would concern many of us. And it can be a very unpleasant strategy for the straying partner (or potentially straying) to blame the other person - It can be a way of justifying their thoughs and actions.

So SC you could be right. I'm not saying your partner has strayed but it may be on his mind.

Nice one. I'm sure that really helps the OP in her current state of mind.

pelirocco

Mark_the_owl wrote: »

Nice one. I'm sure that really helps the OP in her current state of mind.

What should she say? , everything is ok and it was all in your mind

Mark_the_owl

pelirocco wrote: »

What should she say? , everything is ok and it was all in your mind

No you're right. She should make a woman, whose husband has moved 200 miles away, think he has been cheating on her.

I always find if there's no evidence to suggest anything, it's best to keep one's (probably very prejudiced) views to oneself.

Any

Mark_the_owl wrote: »

No you're right. She should make a woman, whose husband has moved 200 miles away, think he has been cheating on her.

I always find if there's no evidence to suggest anything, it's best to keep one's (probably very prejudiced) views to oneself.

No, much better to make her think it's all her fault.

To be honest, this is a forum and that post wasn't that much out of order at all.

A man tells a woman he is no longer in love with her and expects what?? I personally think that he had over reacted over her computer snooping and is rather using it as a weapon.

The OP is felling rubbish and guilty and I think he should take some responsibility himself.

It's always easier to blame the other person and make it look like she is the one that is the reason when in fact he is just immature child.
(this is no direct reply to OP, but it might be worth consideration)

denton6

Mark_the_owl wrote: »

Nice one. I'm sure that really helps the OP in her current state of mind.

i also suggested the same thing wasnt trying to be unkind, the same thing happened to me , thought what had i done wrong etc when i found out he was sleeping with someone else turned out to be a 19 year old at the time, just found out he is still seeing her now she is 21. hopefully this isnt the case for sc i truly hope not, cos the pain of that kills so much. hopefully if it's what they both want things will work out for them both.

larmy16

I truly feel for the Op. In my opinion, there are far worse character traits than being insecure. I am an insecure person with trust issues but luckily for me my partner sees beyond this aspect and sees me as a whole person too.

No doubt SC is also loving, capable, generous, humorous, kind and understanding. So please SC don't take all this on your shoulders.

sloppychops

Well im plodding on,things are tough and im being very hard on myself at times,going through what i have done wrong and how i could of managed things better.
Spent alot of time with my Daughter and Grandaughter over the last few days which has been nice and its taken my mind of things,but once im alone im torn and dont know which way to turn.
I feel like im in a little bubble on my own and i can see people getting on with their lives but i feel trapped and helpless and im crying out for help but no-one can hear me.
I have spoken to my husband and he is coming up over the weekend to try and talk things through and resolve some issues we both have.
Im nervous about this but am looking forward to seeing him and trying to sort things out.
Thanks for all the replies.Some were hard on the heart but i came on a public forum asking for advice and thats what i got so thanks again x

aliasojo

I wish you peace and hope you feel more settled whether your future involves your husband or not.

larmy16

Let us know how it goes SC and good luck too X

GEEGEE8

Surely if he had 'someone else' then he wouldn't have gone 200 miles back home to his parents? He would have stayed locally.

Best of luck at the weekend OP x