Split Up

sloppychops

I really dont know where to start as my head is all over the place.Hubby has just left me and i know deep down that i have caused this to happen.
I have had trust issues for a while now although im pretty sure it was all in my head and nothing else.So im sitting here alone,crying,empty and i really dont know where to go from here,i just feel so lost.
Where do i go from here as he is my life and i love him so much.
I cant stop crying and i feel sick thinking about everyting.

My_Fathers_Daughter

Didn't want to read and run ((HUGS)) hun.

Will he calm down given time?

sloppychops

I doubt it,think i have pushed him too far this time and he has just had enough.He is on his way to his parents house now 200 miles away so i think he is serious.

joolsybools

I hope you manange to get it sorted. Maybe try and give him some space for a few hours then call.

On another note, I have been on the receiving end of someone who has trust issues and I can tell you it is VERY frustrating not being trusted and being accused of things you have not done. When you are feeling a bit better perhaps you could give some serious thought to what makes you like that and make the effort to change.

HannahIOW

What has caused you these trust issues? PM me if you want I've been where you are (kind of).

Gordon_Hose

Give it a few days and call him, explain you're sorry and get your trust issues dealt with. He obviously needs some space, just give him time.

In the mean time start looking for a counsellor so you can get your trust issues sorted, otherwise you'll just carry them from relationship to relationship.

Good luck

gonzo127

agree with the above, you need to give him some time to cool off, however in the mean time it really would be worth while trying to find a counsellor to help you get to grips with your trust issues,

and then when you do contact him as well as saying sorry you can show him that you are also getting help - as the saying goes actions speak louder than words so actually having done something like this should show him how serious you are about making things better

sloppychops

HannahIOW wrote: »

What has caused you these trust issues? PM me if you want I've been where you are (kind of).

We went through a bad patch last November where he told me he didnt think he was in love with me any more(although i thought this was behind us and things were better).It killed me to hear him say this but i got it into my mind there was someone else and convinced myself there was even when he was innocently chatting to people online.There was this one girl he spoke to alot but it was while playing an online game and i thought there was more to it than just the game and i became very paranoid about it to the point of checking up on him.
I hate the person i have become lately and it sickens me that i have behaved in such a manner that has pushed my husband away from me.

pelirocco

sloppychops wrote: »

We went through a bad patch last November where he told me he didnt think he was in love with me any more(although i thought this was behind us and things were better).It killed me to hear him say this but i got it into my mind there was someone else and convinced myself there was even when he was innocently chatting to people online.There was this one girl he spoke to alot but it was while playing an online game and i thought there was more to it than just the game and i became very paranoid about it to the point of checking up on him.
I hate the person i have become lately and it sickens me that i have behaved in such a manner that has pushed my husband away from me.

You reaction to being told this isnt unreasonable , its not surprising you've had trust issues . Has he been telling you that you have been causing the problems?

sloppychops

pelirocco wrote: »

You reaction to being told this isnt unreasonable , its not surprising you've had trust issues . Has he been telling you that you have been causing the problems?

Yep my trust issues were causing the problems.

Odette

What exactly have you been doing?