Split Up

sloppychops

Odette wrote: »

What exactly have you been doing?

Checking up on his pc i know i shouldnt of and i feel utter crap for doing it.I also started questioning him alot about other women and i had this constant need for affection.

pelirocco

sloppychops wrote: »

Yep my trust issues were causing the problems.

Did you ever get the bottom of why he said he didnt think he loved you?

I think you might be being too hard on yourself

sloppychops

He said things had changed but they will have done we had been together 10 years and he thought he had fallen out of love with me but hadnt really.By that time though i had all sorts of thoughts etc going on in my head,things that would never have normally crossed my mind and this led to today.

aliasojo

sloppychops wrote: »

He said things had changed but they will have done we had been together 10 years and he thought he had fallen out of love with me but hadnt really.By that time though i had all sorts of thoughts etc going on in my head,things that would never have normally crossed my mind and this led to today.

How do you know he 'hadn't really'? Did he say that?

I feel so sorry for you, I can imagine how you feel right now. Give him a little space, then try to talk to him. I do think you should consider some sort of counselling to help with the 'needy' aspect of your personality though. It can only be helpful for you in the future no matter who else is involved.

sloppychops

aliasojo wrote: »

How do you know he 'hadn't really'? Did he say that?

I feel so sorry for you, I can imagine how you feel right now. Give him a little space, then try to talk to him. I do think you should consider some sort of counselling to help with the 'needy' aspect of your personality though. It can only be helpful for you in the future no matter who else is involved.

Yes he told me he hadnt really fallen out of love with me just things had changed over the years..
Counselling sounds like the way forward as prior to all this happening i wasnt needy although i have always been an affectionate person.

gonzo127

just a thought for the future, once you have had a bit of counselling and taking it that your husband is willing to give things another go,

might i suggest maybe using the distance to your advantage by not moving back in together stright away but by starting to 'date' each other again and trying to make the most of the time you spend together when you do see each other

anyways just a thought and i really do wish you all the best in getting this sorted

big hugs

denton6

hi same thing has happened to me, we have been married 16 years though and been together nearly 25 years. i have found out there was someone else though. not saying he has in this case but trust your feelings towards it all, pm if you want to talk though i am struggling abit at moment to cos of recent things. hugs to you

sloppychops

Well another day and i havent stopped crying all night,had no sleep and cant face food at all.My kids and sister came to see me yesterday as they couldnt believe we had split up and they took it hard as well.
I just dont know what to do with myself,cant settle at all.My son is coming to take me out for a few hours to get some fresh air.Cant stop thinking about hubby,,he was/is my life and it feels empty and dead without him.Im off to have a soak in the bath not that it will help any.

mackemdave

He just needs time and space and he will be back

sloppychops

mackemdave wrote: »

He just needs time and space and he will be back

I am hoping so but i have this niggling feeling it wont happen
Well i went out with my son today and i was in a right state.I was walking around town like a zombie and not at all with it.I burst out crying in the middle of the street so had people looking at me like i was mad.
My poor son was getting upset because i was upset so that made me worse.
How do i manage each day as its tearing me apart.