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For some it does, for some it does not. For me it was a relief, a light-bulb.
When it was initially suggested to me I had the light bulb moment.
Now, because of reality & how having asperger's makes people view/ judge you I wish I didn't have it.
All these narrow minded people on here think it's nothing, just mild.
In reality it changes everything, I struggle to do the most simplist of things.
It has put my depression/anxiety into a different context, now I know that anti depressants won't cure me.
They might take the edge of but because I have asperger's i'm more disposed to depression/anxiety/frustration at being unable to communicate with people effectively.
I actually said that having asperger's has probably made having breast cancer harder to deal with as be disposed to anxiety in such a situation doesn't help at all.
But then again I haven't had breast cancer nor do I have asperger's as i'm just making it up to make people feel sorry for me (apparently).I'd rather regret the things I've done than regret the things I haven't done.
Lucille Ball0 -
Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »When it was initially suggested to me I had the light bulb moment.
Now, because of reality & how having asperger's makes people view/ judge you I wish I didn't have it.
All these narrow minded people on here think it's nothing, just mild.
In reality it changes everything, I struggle to do the most simplist of things.
It has put my depression/anxiety into a different context, now I know that anti depressants won't cure me.
They might take the edge of but because I have asperger's i'm more disposed to depression/anxiety/frustration at being unable to communicate with people effectively.
I actually said that having asperger's has probably made having breast cancer harder to deal with as be disposed to anxiety in such a situation doesn't help at all.
But then again I haven't had breast cancer nor do I have asperger's as i'm just making it up to make people feel sorry for me (apparently).i came into the world with nothing,and guess what? i still have it!!!:p0 -
summerof0763 wrote: »exactly why i have never fully disclosed what is wrong with me,too many people ready to tell you to "get on with it" wish it was that easy!!
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summerof0763 wrote: »really do not know why people need to justify themselves.
can you not just accept that people have disabilities.
not everyone on here is out for what dla money they can get!
some of us are actually entitled to it
Unfortunately there are alot of small minded judgemental people on here that only believe your disabled if you have the same disability as them.
Why would anyone pretend to be ill just to get some extra money?
As if I wanted my son to be sent away to boarding school at 11 & seeing how upset he is & how he desperately wants to come home.
All people with disabilites want is acceptance, it doesn't matter how much money they give me as it will never let me fit in.I'd rather regret the things I've done than regret the things I haven't done.
Lucille Ball0 -
And 99% of the time they don't have a clue!
i wish my health was not the way it is,but unfortunately its the hand i have been dealt.
really glad i had my children very young,as they are now grown up,as i honestly could not have coped had they been dependant on me,though annoys me that i can barely do anything with the three g/kids and another on the way.i came into the world with nothing,and guess what? i still have it!!!:p0 -
And 99% of the time they don't have a clue!
You can put yourself in that category too though, sh, as no doubt can I.
We don't always understand the full problems someone has with something - I have a bad back, but it's so much more, yet many would just think 'bad back'. It happens.
Sometimes, the problem is with a poster turning into victim mode, at other times it's posters not wanting to understand the difficulties someone faces.
I don't think going around mollycoddling and accepting everything at face value is always the answer because sometimes, by asking, or challenging, you can find out much more, therefore are able to understand more.
Coming back to my first sentence, you are, at times, critical of others who have health issues, so if you don't always understand, why do you think others should?There is something delicious about writing the first words of a story. You never quite know where they'll take you - Beatrix Potter0 -
Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »Why would anyone pretend to be ill just to get some extra money?
Have a look at the cases of fraud where there is evidence that people are fraudulently claiming DLA. It does happen.There is something delicious about writing the first words of a story. You never quite know where they'll take you - Beatrix Potter0 -
Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »Ive never said that my GP diagnosed me. :mad:
I've always stated that it was my son's consultant that thought I had it & got my GP to refer me to the transition & liasion team at kettering.
I had to do various tests, they interviewed me, my mum, my sister, read my school reports.
They don't just diagnose people willy nilly.
I suppose I don't have asperger's now either. :mad:
I'm getting really fed up with all this & i'm disappointed that you are joining in with them now pipkin.
I thought you were better than that.
There seems to be a real gang mentality on here at the moment & it isn't pleasant at all.
I think that the misunderstanding arose because you linked the fact of your diagnosis with your GP's toatally irresponsible and inappropriate comments.
"I was diagnosed with Asperger's when I was 33.
I honestly believed being diagnosed would help me but all it has done is hinder me.
You are constantly told what you can't won't be able to do & in the end you believe them.
My GP told me today that maybe in 5 years time I might be able to get a little part time job doing something that i'm interested in but that i'll never be able to work full time or in a factory/warehouse environment.
I was gutted, I honestly thought that I would be able to overcome my difficulties but my GP doesn't think I will as her brother has Asperger's so she has alot of experience."
I don't know what you're reading that makes you think that people are "ganging up" on you as there have been no comments here that could be described in that way.0 -
Have a look at the cases of fraud where there is evidence that people are fraudulently claiming DLA. It does happen.
Surely that is the minority.
It doesn't mean that all of us are lying.
I had a medical when I first went onto IB which I passed hence ive been on it since & haven't had to have another medical.
Autism doesn't go away despite people thinking it's nothing it can be very debilatating even though it isn't physical as your mind & how you percieve yourself can be a powerful thing.I'd rather regret the things I've done than regret the things I haven't done.
Lucille Ball0 -
We don't always understand the full problems someone has with something - I have a bad back, but it's so much more, yet many would just think 'bad back'. It happens.
I agree. I remember someone telling me they have Irlens (I do too - it's to do with not being able to read anything on white paper, plus other stuff) and therefore, understand what I'm going through! They don't! I have irlens too; but knew he was referring to my Nystagmus.
I've also had someone with spinal injuries tell me the same and tell me his problems are worse than mine. Last time I checked, visual problems (he doesn't know about my neck muscle problems) are completely different to spinal injuries.Sealed pot challenge #232. Gold stars from Sue-UU - :staradmin :staradmin £75.29 banked
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