biting

Anthillmob

meritaten wrote: »

sorry - I may have your post wrong - but do you expect your two year old to SAY if his sister is bullying him? you have seen the evidence - the bite marks - but appear to be reluctanct to actually TAKE any action. Squeels of pain from 'boris' are dealt with how? from your post its by asking your FOUR year old whats wrong? then the attention goes on her doesnt it?

FIVE!! bite marks and numerous bruises???? hun, this baby is being abused!!! by your daughter. you need to stop it now. Pull your fingers out of your !!!!!! and protect that baby! you dont ever leave him alone with her! if they sleep in same room then move the baby out - into yours if necessary! and speak to the health visitor or gp about your daughters violence towards her brother. it cannot go on!

erm excuse me. you read it totally wrong yet still felt the need to start on me without my ansewring your first question of wether you had read me wrong.

not the kind of help i expected.

thanks for that mrs oh so good at parenting.

Indie_Kid

Have you explained to her why it's not nice to bite other people? Does Boris do anything to provoke her, and therefore, she bites him?

sassy_one

meritaten wrote: »

sorry - I may have your post wrong - but do you expect your two year old to SAY if his sister is bullying him? you have seen the evidence - the bite marks - but appear to be reluctanct to actually TAKE any action. Squeels of pain from 'boris' are dealt with how? from your post its by asking your FOUR year old whats wrong? then the attention goes on her doesnt it?

FIVE!! bite marks and numerous bruises???? hun, this baby is being abused!!! by your daughter. you need to stop it now. Pull your fingers out of your !!!!!! and protect that baby! you dont ever leave him alone with her! if they sleep in same room then move the baby out - into yours if necessary! and speak to the health visitor or gp about your daughters violence towards her brother. it cannot go on!

Sorry, but who are you to judge?
Don't go telling the OP HE needs to pull his fingers out, what a nasty statement to say anyway!!

The OP has come here for advice and no doubt comfort to a very upsetting problem, which needless to say ISN'T HIS FAULT, or the mothers!

OP please don't take to heart some of the nasty comments made here.
No one is judging your or your partners parenting in anyway.

Kids go through different behaviour patterns as they grow up, I would keep an eye on things but don't be to full on with making it known, if things concern you enough OP, as stated go to your GP whom will be happy to help you and your partner.

Keep your thoughts up

Anthillmob

You know what. Thanks peeps who have been helpful but for staring on people who have given a different bit of advice which i dont happen to agree with but can sort of understand why is wrong.

This place is going to the dogs.

You come and ask for advice and the post gets semi taken over by a snarling pack of dogs out to abuse and accuse every man and his dog of everything they can.

We all parent in our own ways and whilst ive never bitten back on my kids when i had problems with my daughter when she was 18 months old this very place advocated biting [softly] back.

2 faces.

Anthillmob

Thank you to the genuine people for their advice and that includes the poor girl accused of child abuse.

Poster #2 should gt their finger and their nose out of their self righteous !!!!.

sassy_one

****kara**** wrote: »

Oh please it was a very light touch if you can even call it that, enough to shock them like I said. your making it sound like I marked or took chunks out of them which I didn't !!!!!!. I literally placed my teeth on there skin that was it and I didn't even close my jaw so it wasn't exactly a bite NOT that I have to explain myself to you

It's people like you Kara that make me sick.

A lot of parents never get the chance to raise there child or children as they are seen 'unfit' by Social Services, when they would make really good parents, but they never get the chance to show anyone that as there child or children are removed from there care, for many reasons which are not the fault of there parents, but people like you who HARM a child, by clearly admitting publicly that you bite your child, keep there child/children, this world is very unfair and sad.

I just hope Social Services catch on to your actions Kara and take some action and not ignore it, as if your children ever start kicking, maybe you'll kick them too!

Two wrongs don't make a right...........................

sassy_one

Anthillmob wrote: »

You know what. Thanks peeps who have been helpful but for staring on people who have given a different bit of advice which i dont happen to agree with but can sort of understand why is wrong.

This place is going to the dogs.

You come and ask for advice and the post gets semi taken over by a snarling pack of dogs out to abuse and accuse every man and his dog of everything they can.

We all parent in our own ways and whilst ive never bitten back on my kids when i had problems with my daughter when she was 18 months old this very place advocated biting [softly] back.

2 faces.

OP, this forum has gone down hill, I use to read it a lot before starting to post and I have seen some many people who seem to think that when they do something wrong it's okay, but when anyone else does, look out.

For example, there was a guy in the Motoring section the other day, driving with no MOT, everyone was trying to help him resolve the fact he had a accident without having a MOT, he went on to having a go at people without an MOT.


OP please don't take things said here to heart, people have nothing better to do at this time of night, and quite often at any other time of day other than to pick holes in the same shirt there wearing, or were wearing yesterday!

I sincerely hope you get to the bottom of the problems, and think your GP will be able to help and advise you best, remember you will look a very good parent seeking help than just ignoring it so don't feel ashamed to talk to your GP about the problems

mrcow

!!!!!! is going on? Have the forums been taken over by the looping banshees? For crying out loud.

Ant - in terms of your daughter, I do agree that you need to make sure that they are not alone together.

My three year old went through a stage of biting her older sister. My response has always been to stop it immediately, make her apologise, ask her how she would feel if eg. i was to bite her and then dish out a punishment (eg. time out, loss of pudding - my kids respond well to pudding denial).

I think it's a normal thing which may have escalated because she thinks she's getting away with it. To counteract this, you need to be sharp and as always, consistent. She knows where the boundaries are - she needs reminding each time she crosses one that you are there enforcing them.

Good luck. And I hope they work it out soon & become best friends again.

CG77

Hi Anthillmob,

I agree there have been some huge over reactions and mis-interpretations on here. All you did was ask for help and I'm so sad you didn't get the support you asked for.

I've PMed you with some ideas too-hope they help!

CG. x

SouthernBellE*

Hi Honey

Half afraid to post but didn't want to read and run.

From what I understand from your original post, you were obviously concerned as much for your 4 yr old as you are for your youngest because her behaviour is out of character and you were concerned there may have been something else going on that was troubling her.

If it is just sibling rivalry, then a firm no and time out should be enough if you persist. I've had many problems with my DS (learning disabilities) and worked with child and family therapists when he was little to tackle various aspects of his behaviour that weren't sociably acceptable. If you are really concerned that there is an underlying concern for your daughter, trust your instincts and maybe contact your health visitor or have a quiet word with your daughters playgroup. If she seems happy and no major change in her behaviour, try not to worry too much.

Good luck honey, I'm sure you know how to deal with your children better than I can advise but sorry to see more critisism offered than advice from your OP.

SB
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