What Happens Next? Re: School

Harriebabe

What a dreadful start to school for your poor wee girl ....

I can completely understand why you are hurting so and think you need to insist on seeing the Headteacher and for her to explain exactly what she is doing and when you might see the results of her actions. It does sound like she is putting something into place, but she needs to remember to keep you informed, I think.

Alarm bells rang for me when the class teacher told you/wrote that she was behind - my eldest son is now 7 (just leaving Year 2) and I know without doubt that none of his teachers would EVER write that... comments in the reading diaries are to be shared with the children, what does a remark like that do for self-esteem? Even if my son was "behind" (and he has needed occasional help), it should not be written like that...

And to physically grab??! No wonder you are furious!

Let us know?

xxx

pollypenny

You have my sympathy!

As primary teachers have our children for the whole day, they are very powerful - for good or ill!

Hope you have a satisfactory meeting with the head. But I wonder whether he/she was responsible for moving a teacher, whose experience and enjoyment of the job is with older ones, to reception.

shellsuit

Oh your poor daughter!

The dragon sounds like a right cow that used to teach my son when he was in reception.

She was used to teaching older children, was older herself and used to manhandle the kids like there was no tomorrow! She would speak to them like they were 12, not 5!

While waiting outside the classroom at the end of day once, I hammered on the window when she dragged a poor kid to his chair and threw him in it, for no reason other than he didn't hear her call him! A few other Mum's put in a complaint about her and she gone by the start of the next new term.

Her surname doesn't start with an L does it?

And I agree she should be suspended over this!

Good luck with it x

little_evo

Your poor little girl! Reading your story made me want to cry and go to that school myself and have words to the teacher and Head.

I'd seriously would not leave that school until I knew my daughter was safe because right now they are failing in that area in regards to your daughter and if it wasn't satisfactory then I would demand she be removed from the classroom immediately. I can only imagine how she feels when she even thinks about going into that classroom it makes me see red for her and you. good luck and please let us know how you get on!

PrincessPlaty

Well im back from the school not happy at all currently sat here in tears gonna make a few more phone calls and then i will update x

miss_independent

PrincessPlaty, I'm disgusted at what has happened to your daughter. As someone who works with children currently, this is emotionally abusive and the school have a duty to ensure no child goes through this. I had school phobia and went through nightmares, bed-wetting and was physically sick because my reception teacher was a dragon. Because of her methods of teaching (she once threatened to bite off my fingers), I thought I was stupid and continued to believe this until I got my GCSE results and discovered I was actually Oxbridge material. Her treatment of me left a lasting impact and in secondary school I had to have a private maths tutor because I had no confidence in maths (I used to cry and have nightmares related to this teacher teaching me maths). She really knocked my confidence and was a real dragon.

Your children are precious and you only get one chance to get it right and I know you are a great mum. Your instincts are telling you not to put your DD back in her class. Don't. If needs be move her to another school rather than put her through this. She is clearly bright but the teacher destroys her confidence. Take it as far as you need to, the governors, LEA, get the other parents involved. This teacher is in the wrong profession.

DON79

Just wanted to give you some virtual hugs! My son is due to start reception this year but I know I would be reacting exactly as you are now if this was what was happening to him. Also been on the receiving end of such a teacher who decided to punch me in the back when I was in Primary School when i was about 7 yrs old. Don't think I ever told my mum but I hated that class and teacher and it didn't help with schooling at all. Hope you can get it all sorted out.

Best wishes and hugs!

jinky67

PrincessPlaty wrote: »

Well im back from the school not happy at all currently sat here in tears gonna make a few more phone calls and then i will update x

:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:

ariarnia

PrincessPlaty wrote: »

Well im back from the school not happy at all currently sat here in tears gonna make a few more phone calls and then i will update x

Remember, you have a right to feel that you're child is being taken care of while in the care of the school. if you're not happy with the way you're concern is being treated, then a parent partnership can help, but if you can't get hold of them/don't need the support then get a copy of the complaints procedure and don't get fobbed off until you're happy with the outcome/have run out of procedure.

you know your child, you know if she's acting like she's in a healthy and happy learning environment.

PrincessPlaty

Before going i tried ringing the local parent partnership the only one that would actually answer the phone was out of area but have left a message with the local one and im still waiting for them to get back to me. The one that i got through to passed me onto the safeguarding team at social services who then allocated it to someone locally after i did a refferal as the school hadnt done it.

I was told someone would call me back however they didnt before i left to go to the school.

So i took DD2 in for her intake afternoon the head wasnt available to talk to me before the intake but said she would talk to me after, which i will give her her dues she did do.

She told me that she was still waiting for someone from the county council to get back to her as they hadnt done as yet. She had spoken to my DD who told her the same as what she told me, she spoke to the other child that was there who didnt remember what had happened.
She had spoke to the class teacher who has said that she held their hands and nothing else.

As far as the head is concerned there isnt really a lot she can do about it???? And that it is my daughters word against the teachers.

She has given us the option of staying in the class that she is in now where she doesnt know anybody, or going back into the original class with her friends and the class teacher and another adult being present all the time to keep an eye on the situation.

I told her that i wasnt going to make the desicion for DD as it was her that had to go in everyday and she had to be happy to do so. The head told me that she thought that was the right decision but she was concerned i may put my anxiety about the situation onto DD so i told her to go and speak to her and ask her herself without me being there, which she did do. DD told her she wanted to be with her friends but didnt want to be near said teacher.

They are having a fun day at school tomorrow and all the reception kids are all going to be together out on the field anyway so it has been agreed for tomorrow that DD will go into the school office and the head will take her down to class being the original class if she can but if she feels DD is getting nervy then she will just carry on and go straight down to the other class.

Im not happy that the only options DD is being given are ones that she isnt going to be happy with and i feel that she is being punished when she has done nothing wrong.

When i got home i had a message on the answer phone from a social worker who i have just called back and explained the situation to and i have been told that unless there are marks on DD then they wont get involved. They didnt like it to much when i mentioned that if it was me that had done it to her marks or not and the school had contacted them they would be taking the kids off me and taking me to court quicker than i could blink but a stranger can do it to my child and nothing can be done, she reluctantly agreed that i was right but there was nothing she could do about it.

Am still on the phone to the LEA with it just ringing and ringing in my ear.

Im thinking i may need to put together a plan of action for tomorrow and concentrate on ringing around and getting something done not sure which is the best place to start though.

A couple of the mums from the school suggested i go to the police and report it to them and tell the headteacher that i am doing so because i am not happy with their resolve of the situation, i would have thought that would be a last resort though?

Not sure what to do head is all over the place and emotions are running high think i need to get my head straight then brain storm ideas had see which way to go next....