Housing Benefits for young parents.

babymoo

Fiddlestick wrote: »

Well if you can't even tell the difference between a "baby" and a "ball of cells" that cannot sustain itself then there is no point arguing with you.

Ball of cells or not it still has a heart and a soul. I would rather bring a child into this world anyday than get rid because its not convenient.

Carl good luck, my brother just found himself in a similar position to you, its amazing how many people get on their high horse, obviously they have never found themselves in a position they didnt plan. Because life always goes exactly the way you want it...

blue_monkey_2

While this did not start out about this I'd like to respond to the above poster.

If I found out I was pregnant tomorrow then I would have a termination ASAP. if I was 2 weeks or 16 weeks the result would be the same.

1) We cannot afford another baby
2) We have a child with a disability - there is no way I'd bring a baby into this house as I could not leave him alone with a baby and would need 24/7 supervision.
3) We like our life as it is thanks, nice holidays, kids more or less the same age so that we can do stuff as a family rather than someone sitting at the edge with the little one.

We use condoms but if they did not work I'd be off to the docs for a couple of tablets to get rid of the problem (it isn't a 'baby with a heart or soul when you find out at 2-4 weeks, it is a ball of cells that have not developed into a baby at all. If you are stupid enough not to realise you have missed a period and find out later then you certainly do not care to be that careful - I watch my cycle religiously)

Call me selfish if you like, I like our life as it is - yes, even with a disabled child that gives me more work - and I've certainly got no time or room for another baby in my life. This is why there is a solution to the problem these days.

I certainly would not be blackmailed by others into a keeping a child I do not want because they feel I should.

And if my husband disagrees tbh it would be tough also as I am the one looking after the children while he is at work and I do not want another child. He does not really do much with them now so no he does not get a say unless he is prepared to give up his job and take on the full time care of a baby and a disabled child as well as another older child. And I would get that in writting and witness by a solicitor otherwise the baby would be up for adoption. And I know what the answer to his leaving work would be!! I do not want a child that I will have to give up my days to look after and have to supervise 24/7 while my son is there. Yes, having a child with a disability certainly brings out the selfish side of me, tough to anyone who doesn't like it really - live a day in my life and then judge whether it is all about 'convenience'.

Deepmistrust

People are pointing out that the OP didn't ask for advice or opinions regarding his unborn child, but his housing situation.

You are perfectly entitled to make whatever decision is right for you, in the circumstances, just as he is.

I don't even get how this thread has disintegrated to discussing the OP's unborn baby, like it's just a thing.

To him, it's his child, and not a ball of cells. Period.