Housing Benefits for young parents.

Deepmistrust

Fiddlestick wrote: »

If someone asked what their options were then yes, I absolutely would suggest they consider a termination.

Except he wasn't asking for his options regarding his baby.

He was asking his options regarding HB.

If someone asked you what options then have from a resturant menu, would you say: "Steak, Burgers or an abortion"?

Seriously, the internet is great that it gives mouthpieces to otherwise socially disfunctional adults. But, still is it so much to ask that you stop talking about his unborn baby this way?

Carlbrown_2

Fiddlestick wrote: »

If someone asked what their options were then yes, I absolutely would suggest they consider a termination.

I dont recall asking anybody for there opinion about my situation, i asked for advice on housing benefits, people gave me advice and that should have been the end of it, but no, people like you have to form their own opinions and blurt them out on the internet.

If i walked into my local council and asked them advice on housing benefits they wouldnt say well... "she should have had an abortion" or "you should have kept ur pants on" there is a difference between advice and opinions, i asked for useful advice so please keep your views to yourself, they could get you into a lot of trouble if u shared them publicly and not just from the safety of your computer monitor.

1sue23

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

These disappeared when reliable forms of contraception, like the pill, became available. Unfortunately it doesn't seem to be as reliable today as it was previously, which is rather strange.

I concieved my son while on the pill ,so I know that these things happen and I was in my thirties then .

1sue23

Fiddlestick wrote: »

If someone asked what their options were then yes, I absolutely would suggest they consider a termination.

I am so glad my daughter did not consider this my grandaughter is a lovely little girl and I love her very much ,to think that she could have ended up flushed away just as life has started does not bare thinking about .
There is more about choosing to having an abortion, it is not just about getting rid of a little bit of inconvenience it involves alot of soul searching and heartbreak .

1sue23

Fiddlestick wrote: »

If someone asked what their options were then yes, I absolutely would suggest they consider a termination.

Maybe in your world life is so easy ,but to others this is not as simple as just removing a mistake .
How can anyone not give alot of thought and heart searching before they make such a decision, this is life changing and lives with you forever .

nottslass_2

Fiddlestick wrote: »

If someone asked what their options were then yes, I absolutely would suggest they consider a termination.

The young lady in question is 5 months pregnant - do you seriously believe that this couple should be considering this option simply because of their housing situation ?

Oldernotwiser

Carlbrown wrote: »

You really need to think about things before you post these daft replies, i have said a number of times that i plan on WORKING and a joiner once i am qualified, honestly you really must be bitter about something, but please dont take it out on me, your making out that we planned the pregnancy to take advantage of benefits, but i dont need to justify myself to you.

You may be "planning" on working but that could be some way in the future; you don't seem to be planning to get some form of work immediately to support your girlfriend and your child.

I haven't implied that the pregnancy was deliberately planned to take advantage of benefits but the truth is that you seem to be coming out of it financially quite well, with a house and income to be provided for you as a reward for your irresponsible behaviour.

And, by the way, I did offer you constructive advice about your girlfriend's future career but you criticised me for being nosy when I tried to find out what stage she was at with her training.

blue_monkey_2

Can you not get an weekend/evening job in Tesco/Sainsbury to earn some money to pay the rent? You don't go to college at the moment because it's the summer so get a temping job for 8-10 weeks until college starts again. See if your ,ocal area has a Frecycle Cafe and post on there that you are looking for work to getyou by for the summer. I've just taken on a Friends daughter to do some work to pay for her driving lessons. You could do an evening job on top of an apprenticeship as well. There are people like me who are having trouble finding people to work for them so you need to look rather than then expecting to find you.

The thing you are forgetting is that you do not have a joinery job and you have admitted yourself that this kind of job is hard to come by at the moment so it's time to start looking for something to get by until you can get the job that you want.

Get yourself down to Tesco/Sainsury/MacDonalds and see what they have available and prove that you want to bring up this baby in the best possible way. If you wait for the jobs to be advertised hundreds will apply - get in there first.

And before it is asked, when I was not in full time employment I had 4 part time jobs that I did/ they were not the best jobs but they got me by, one starting at 6am and some finishing at 11pm so I would be working these hours some days. And this was before Minimum wage was introduced - you did what you did to ensure you could get by and pay your bills and put food on the table.

thorsoak

Carlbrown wrote: »

You really need to think about things before you post these daft replies, i have said a number of times that i plan on WORKING and a joiner once i am qualified, honestly you really must be bitter about something, but please dont take it out on me, your making out that we planned the pregnancy to take advantage of benefits, but i dont need to justify myself to you.

I always planned on working hard, earning loads of money and retiring early and although I worked hard things didn't work out quite the way we planned - so I stayed working - as has been suggested already - why not try for a job in somewhere like B & Q - if you're part-way through a joinery course, you'll be welcomed with open arms!

Life is what happens when you're making plans!

blue_monkey_2

thorsoak wrote: »

I always planned on working hard, earning loads of money and retiring early and although I worked hard things didn't work out quite the way we planned - so I stayed working - as has been suggested already - why not try for a job in somewhere like B & Q - if you're part-way through a joinery course, you'll be welcomed with open arms!

Life is what happens when you're making plans!

Or, sh it is what happens when you are making plans. :rotfl: Tends to be true in my case you have to just get on with it and make the best of it.