MSE Parents Club Part 13

redmel1621

Ooooh forgot to say.....I am SOOOOOOO excited, we are off to Alton Towers tomorrow:):) I have butties to make tonight and bags to pack, so we are ready to be off for 9am, or as close to as possible:)

SO off to get sorting, I will get some piccies:)

xx

MadDogWoman_2

Have a good day tomorrow Mel.

A bit previous but I'm wondering how to handle trips to theme parks as neither DH or me are keen on the rides - the only ride I like at Alton Towers is the Swing Roundabout and the Log Flume!

Pirate Ships I have to close my eyes, coasters forget it they hurt (old whiplash injuries).

At the same time I don't want her missing out.

Sami_Bee

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

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Sami - can I ask what punishment you give Chris for damaging stuff?
Following on from our conversation on here I was speaking to CM about Benjamin hitting out this morning and she can only think of one occasion (which happened to be yesterday) when he MAY have hit the CM's daughter.

TBH she quite often gets 'in his face' so it wouldn't surprise me if he had hit her but regardless he does need to know that it is wrong and I need to have a plan of how I want any misbehaviour dealt with so I can instruct the CM.

*wishes she had paid more attention to the naughty step conversation the other day*

I am rubbish, totally not consistent:o I have started doing a time out type thing for Chris partly because I would prob batter him if I didn't and because he usually throws a massive crying tantrum and takes ages to calm down/upsets Edgar/takes his anger out on me/Ed/toys that could harm edgar. I send him to bed for 3 mins. He stomps around for a minute, spends a min calming then 1 min reading a book or something then when I say he can come back down he says he's sorry and gives me a hug and Edgar if he was involved and we discuss why whatever happened, happened and what is the appropriate way to deal with it.
it's working for us I think but is pretty new so can't say for sure.

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Hmmm - he does understand that hitting is wrong. He knows as soon as he does it and he hangs his head with his lip out because he knows he will be told off.

I hadn't really thought about him being mature enough to make a link....but I was really talking about immediate punishments. And I guess I am looking long term too - start as you mean to go on and all that jazz.

Now I am confuzzled. Can I give you an example and you give me your take on it...

Benjamin hit me with one of his golf clubs, he knew it was wrong and when asked he handed it over to me and I removed it from him as a punishment. I only removed 1 of his 3 golf clubs and told him he could play with the others but he couldn't have that one because he had hit mummy with it.

He moaned a bit about the confiscated one but then he carried on playing with another. He started waving it around near me so he might hit me again so I said to him to be careful because if he hit mummy again then she would take another club off him. I also 'held' the club whilst I spoke to him to get his attention.

Then he picked up his 3rd club and brought it to me and when I said 'gently' he stroked me on the leg with it.

So in this situation has he learned from my actions (and the punishment) or from the conversation?

Or was it all just random!!

My guess would be he learnt/understood little of the first 2 interactions but understands the meaning of 'gently' :rotfl:

r.mac wrote: »

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Sami - I'm the same at the moment. I'm wondering if I need to cut back on the caffeine again. I only have 3 cups of coffee and never after 4pm, but still cutting back has helped in the past...

the only caffeine I consume is from chocolate, I'm guessing pretty little as when I have it I eat milky types not dark *shrug*

Krystaltips wrote: »

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Would you not hang on to the DS for Christoph to play with when he's a bit bigger if it's not worth much on a trade in? Aimee loved playing with Dave's when she was about 3...

And if the tickets are still available, we'd be happy to make use of them
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Chris likes it but just is useless at looking after stuff, I think I'll just hide it away for a while.

I made a boo boo in my typing I have vouchers not tickets but if you still want, let me know how many. I now have 3 vouchers - tesco keep giving me them!

Sami_Bee

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SugarSpun

MadDogWoman wrote: »

A bit previous but I'm wondering how to handle trips to theme parks as neither DH or me are keen on the rides - the only ride I like at Alton Towers is the Swing Roundabout and the Log Flume!

Bring a friend - an adult one if she's still littleish and one of her friends as she gets old enough to go on alone. My parents took me to some theme park or other when I was about ten, but they refused to go on any rides and so I didn't want to go alone and it was rubbish for me and an expensive waste of time for them.

Krystaltips

Sami_Bee wrote: »

I made a boo boo in my typing I have vouchers not tickets but if you still want, let me know how many. I now have 3 vouchers - tesco keep giving me them!

I assumed it was vouchers rather than tickets... But 2 vouchers would be good thank you

BrunoM

I agree with SS, MDW. Just go with friends, and as time passes, allow her to go with friends it will work out just fine.

Dilemma time today (or at least, I don't have to decide yet) but trying to decide whether to push for new job that's opened up... straightforward promotion, a lot more money, a good match to me so I'd be in with a reasonable chance I think. But, if I got it it would be working for a boss that I don't know and thus potentially risking my current very flexible working habits, and would mean changing jobs to a new area with a high expectations of me just as we have a new baby

Krystaltips

What are the chances of another opportunity opening up in 12 months time Bruno? Or could you talk to current employees of the boss to see how he is with flexible working? Find out if he has children so he might be understanding etc?

tiamai_d

Gill, nursery here is £31 for a full day, 8am-5pm Some go up to 6pm, some don't so you would have to look into that. I provide nappies, wipes, milk (if using formula) and lunch. They provide snacks and cows milk.

tiamai_d

I need to do a list to get me motivated.

Clean kitchen
clear dining table
30mins ironing
put ironing away
peg out wet clothes
collect dirty clothes and put a wash on
sweep floor
quick dust