MSE Parents Club Part 13

agscully

tarajayne wrote: »

Some have explained, and Red thank-you, and yes I hope some do feel bad as I know about the 'pm' messaging that goes on and am very umcomfortable with it. The majority of people are lovely and need not feel bad at all but this thread has got clicky and it's made worse by some, they can feel as bad as they like but they won't. The nasty remarks that get messaged behind the scenes are not nice and quite frankly I'm way too old for it.

It is with tears that I say my goodbyes, you've been amazing and got me through some terrible times, and some very happy ones. SM gets a hard time on here and is ignored by many, I don't always agree with her choices but have always talked to her about it. I'm absolutely sure others don't agree with mine but why should they, they're mine to make. I may post occasionally but don't think it fair to just come on and not keep up to date with others. I have read this thread almost every day for abouth 18mths now so will miss some of you very much. Too upset to type now...

It is posts such as this that make me glad i am not a regular poster on this thread , i have posted occasionally and when i have posted the only response i have had is from someone who i spoke to on another thread sometime ago, who incidentally also does not post regularly on this thread. I would say there are "groups" of people on this thread who tend to only reply to each other and for me that makes it difficult when you are a new poster on the thread to feel "included" .

This meet that was arranged was done as i see it as very spur of the moment literally a "right i have decided we will have a meet in birmingham its in the middle of everyone " , clearly its not in the middle of everyone , the majority of people going live fairly close to birmingham apart from a few who are travelling from further away . IMO if people get a hard time on here then it is only because of what they post , why post every detail of your life if you are not prepared for the responses you may get ? :undecided

I dont see why everyone should give a reason for not going to the meet , if you dont want to go then why give a reason ? It may of been a better idea to do what has happened on other areas of the forum and start up a post specifically for the birmingham meet then all of this unnecessary behaviour would not of occured on a thread which is lets face it about being parents.

SusanC_2

cazscoob wrote: »

Advice needed again! Erin has stopped eating, there is no real reason why and she will eat sweet things if allowed and is drinking plenty. she is definatly not going waste away anytime soon so im not making a big deal out of it just not sure what to do?

I wouldn't advocate it as a long term solution but something I sometimes do if Alice is going to be eating on her own (like if OH is going to be late home and I'm planning to eat later with him) is to sit her watching something on iPlayer and give her a bowl of finger foods (e.g. sticks of cheese, sticks of carrot and fingers of bread). She does eat but is just incredibly slow but if she's watching something, she'll munch away much more quickly and it means I'm not sitting at the table watching her and waiting for her to finish which tends to result in her starting to fool about and start spilling things on purpose or "washing" her hands in her drink etc. instead of eating.

SusanC_2

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Right - can someone tell me I am mad - I am considering inviting MIL to come away with us because she has been a bit down lately but I know I will want to get away from her if she does come...I need a slap!!

Would you be able to work around the things which would be annoying? We went on holiday with the in-laws last year and the annoying thing was that we would arrange to do something in the morning and then we would end up waiting for them to be ready (even with making all the breakfasts and packed lunches ourselves). Another time I would probably arrange for them to meet us somewhere mid morning rather than having to hang around in the holiday cottage waiting for them to be ready to go out.

redstararnie76

agscully wrote: »

It is posts such as this that make me glad i am not a regular poster on this thread , i have posted occasionally and when i have posted the only response i have had is from someone who i spoke to on another thread sometime ago, who incidentally also does not post regularly on this thread. I would say there are "groups" of people on this thread who tend to only reply to each other and for me that makes it difficult when you are a new poster on the thread to feel "included" .

This meet that was arranged was done as i see it as very spur of the moment literally a "right i have decided we will have a meet in birmingham its in the middle of everyone " , clearly its not in the middle of everyone , the majority of people going live fairly close to birmingham apart from a few who are travelling from further away . IMO if people get a hard time on here then it is only because of what they post , why post every detail of your life if you are not prepared for the responses you may get ? :undecided

I dont see why everyone should give a reason for not going to the meet , if you dont want to go then why give a reason ? It may of been a better idea to do what has happened on other areas of the forum and start up a post specifically for the birmingham meet then all of this unnecessary behaviour would not of occured on a thread which is lets face it about being parents.

Hi,
I don't really agree with you on some points here - SM didn't just decide to have a meet in Birmingham - it was after quite a lot of thought into where might be easier to meet and she actually asked everyone on the thread several times where they thought the meet should take place. She has done a fantastic job organising it.
No-one has been asked to give a reason why they aren't going, however several people, myself included, did so because we wanted to make it clear that we weren't ignoring the hard work that SM had gone to in planning this meet. I think Tara's comments were partly in response to the fact that a lot of people hadn't indicated either way if they were going to be there (apologies if I have this wrong).

It can be hard to get involved in this thread if you are new as many of the regulars know each other very well, and it's difficult keeping up with the speed of the thread. Having said that, whenever I've asked for advice or help, there's been no end of responses, so I think it's worth putting some time in to get known and get involved.

Sorry for the long response, I just fear that there's a danger of this thread descending into a slanging match unnecessarily.

SugarSpun

agscully wrote: »

It is posts such as this that make me glad i am not a regular poster on this thread , i have posted occasionally and when i have posted the only response i have had is from someone who i spoke to on another thread sometime ago, who incidentally also does not post regularly on this thread.

I'm sorry your post was missed, I try to say hello when I see new posters posting but sometimes I miss people. I find it upsetting that the thread seems cliquey - I suppose it must be true since it's said so often but it does make me sad.

Krystaltips

It's been said it's cliquey a couple of times but I don't think it is. At the end of the day when people are online they chat to whoever else is online. Posts don't get ignored on purpose and most of the time if someone flies in and asks a question they get welcomed and replied to pretty much straight away by a number of different people.

No we don't all answer every post and we don't always bother to catch up but I don't believe people are deliberately ignored. I think those that find it cliquey are maybe those that don't make an effort to chat...

SusanC_2

redstararnie76 wrote: »

I don't really agree with you on some points here - SM didn't just decide to have a meet in Birmingham - it was after quite a lot of thought into where might be easier to meet and she actually asked everyone on the thread several times where they thought the meet should take place. She has done a fantastic job organising it.

There was actually a lot of discussion about having a "big meet" last year and although it never happened, Birmingham seemed to be the general consensus then.

gill_81uk

While I don't agree that everyone should be expected to say if they're not going to the meet and why I do agree with the rest of redstar's post.

I think the thread can appear cliquey but once you get stuck in and post it's not all. I am fairly new here and I have asked a lot of questions and have had a lot of very helpful answers from most people on here. I found everyone very welcoming and encouraging I'd say more but I have a crying baby lol

aless02

Oh let's not start another one of 'these' debates again - it always ends with someone flouncing off, and I hate losing PT members .

What's everyone having for dinner? I've done curry baked chicken thighs which I'm going to do over buttery rice with peas .

Has anyone been watching the Amish teenagers thing on C4 (last night)? Not really surprisingly, since I knew a fair amount about the Amish, but still interesting to see them in Britain.

Krystaltips

The Hairy Bikers just made oatcakes in Lichfield... Gutted I missed it!!