Nursery School Day Trip-Am I being unfair?

bylromarha

consultant31 wrote: »

I'm a nanna and in my opinion, if your little boy doesn't want to go without you that's all you need to care about.

So if the boy has a problem going to Reception every day in September...?

Do you not think that it's all in the sales pitch? If he was told he was going on an exciting trip with all his nursery friends to have an adventure at an adventure park rather than mummy can't come on a long day with you to the park as the teachers won't let me, do you really want to go? It's all in the selling technique and only OP can answer if she's gee gee'd her lad about the trip or sold it in a negative way. (not asking you to answer OP!)

meritaten

there you go OP - ask the school if the parents who were picked were CRB checked!
why do the pick parents anyway? surely they would be happy to have all parents accompany thier own child if possible? or do they just order a certain amount of transport? GDs school waits until all the slips for children going and parents etc then order the transport. means they have to send out the letters in good time too.

ixwood

Does you little boy not want to go without you, or do you not want him to go without you?

It'll do him good and I'm sure he'll have a good time.

bylromarha

meritaten wrote: »

there you go OP - ask the school if the parents who were picked were CRB checked!
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They don't have to be CRB checked unless school policy says so. I'd say in this case it was unlikely if the trip has been organised this way and is next week. CRB checks are taking about 4 weeks at the moment.

CRB checks are a pointless piece of paper unless they are part of a rigourous child protection policy.

tanith

It might of actually been better if you had said nothing about 'going' in the first place that way your little boy wouldn't of known any different and would of gone on the trip quite happily with the staff and helpers... sorry if that sounds harsh but little ones need encouraging to be independant from Mum especially as he is starting 'big' school in September... I hope you do manage to persuade him that it'll be a fun day with all his Nursery pals and he is able to go and enjoy himself... and you have confidence in the helpers the staff have picked that they will take proper care of all the children..

lindseykim13

ixwood wrote: »

Does you little boy not want to go without you, or do you not want him to go without you?

It'll do him good and I'm sure he'll have a good time.

Why will it do him good? I'm sure if his mum gets a phone call while they are on the trip saying he's crying his eyes out because he's far away from home and wants his mum it wouldn't do him good!

I'm sorry but i have a real problem pushing childen into doing something they aren't happy with. A trip out somewhere is hardly the same as going to a school that they go to most days a week. Talk about mess their head up, kids are forced to grow up too quickly these days he's just a baby really.
Only you know your son op if he's happy to go let him if he shows that he's not interested or doesn't want to go without you then let him know thats fine too.

Liquorice_Twirls

I would have thought that they would be in small groups so like another poster said, maybe 8 children 2 nursery staff and 2 parent helpers. That way the nursery staff remain responsible for the children but the other parents provide extra adults. I don't think that a parent would ever be allowed with a child other than their own.

Perhaps it would have been easier if the child had not been told that Mum had asked to go and then not been picked, that avoids disappointment and sometimes results in a child not wanting to go at all and missing the opportunity to gain a little more independance.

crapwithcash82

I am a complete worry wart of a mother, and constantly worry when my daughter (who is 3) is at playgroup etc. I had a couple of issues with the playgroup a month or so ago, and nearly took her out because I wasn't happy with them, but decided to address my complaint to the people who run the playgroup rather than make her different because I had issues with them.

At the end of the day, the child's safety is ultimately their priority and as long as the child is safe thats the most important thing. They may do things differently to how you do them, but I feel as long as your child is safe and not put in any danger thats the most important thing.

You could always approach his nursery and ask who he is going to be paired with and who will be their allocated "helper" for the trip. That way you will know who he is with, and I'm sure they'd have no problem with you just making a point of saying "Hello" at nursery before hand?

I'm sure the nursery are used to helping reassure mums and dads who are a bit unsure, and it will put your mind at rest. I'm sure you don't want your little boy to miss out, if your mind could be put at ease with a quick chat with the nursery staff.

If you're still not convinced then its your decision at the end of the day, and your child, no one can tell you what is best for him appart from you - do let us know how it goes and if you let him go or not.

pigpen

I couldn't willingly deprive my child of a fabulous opportunity of a day out with his school chums. However, I would be INSISTING on knowing which parent/member of staff would be responsible for my child.. that would be unfair.

I went on a nursery trip as a helper with my sister, before I had my own children. The little boy I was 'assigned' was a dreadful little beast (he was right through school as well that isn't just my opinion) so a member of staff had him all day.. but there were many children whose parents were disabled or worked so couldn't go along.. we didn't lose anyone, noone was hurt, apart from a couple of grazed knees.. these were 3 and 4 year olds who were used to 3 hour days at nursery.

If you were to take him out to a similar/same place would you restrict your visit to 3 hours?

He will have a fabulous time and it sounds like he is a bit on the clingy side which is causing you to feel like this.. encourage him to have fun and go along with his friends and tell you all about it when he gets home.. and maybe one day you could have a trip there and he can show you all the thing she liked etc. You can have great fun choosing and making a packed lunch etc.. He can be a famous explorer or go on a bear hunt or just have an exciting adventure.. make it fun.

But I do think it is VITAL for you to know who is going to be looking after him.. does he have a friend whose mum is going? Maybe she could have your son too? Then he is with a close friend which would be fabulous for him.

And rest assured.. you will NOT be the only parent feeling like this!!!!

Tihama

Edit because other posters have already put it better than me!

If you decide to send him, do let the teacher know that you are available at short notice if another parent has to drop out (assuming you would be able to offer this) - you never know.

However, at the end of the day, he's your little boy, he's only four, so if you are really not happy about it don't send him - though, of course, you may then have to deal with his regretting not going when the others talk about what a great time they had!