Nursery School Day Trip-Am I being unfair?

thebaileys

Hi,

My little boys is 4, and attends nursery 9-12, 5 days a week.
The nursery have planned a day trip to an adventure park. They will be away from 9am-3.30pm.

I put my name down to help on the trip, and was not picked.

The children are allocated to a parent helper, and the parent could be from an the afternoon nursery group.

I told my little boy I was not able to go, and he was unhappy saying he didn't want to go.

My other gripe is, he could be with a parent that we do not know, and who's idea's about childcare are different to mine.

Being an adventure park, they will need to keep a good eye on the children, and I feel it is a very long day, when he is still only at nursery.

Am I being unfair?

mrbrightside842

Our nursery kids have to have a parent per child policy. There was a bit of confusion last year, as I have twins, and they were saying how the policy seemed silly as I'm obviously used to having them both myself, and they were willing to alter it. But hubby wanted to come and made a nice day out of it.

How many kids are there in nursery, and how many adults will be going? I think you need a 1:1 in nursery. I'd understand their point if you'd said the same but he was in reception.

bylromarha

Yes you are being unfair. My 3 year old daughter is in Nursery (class, part of a school). Went on a day trip a few weeks ago. The change in supervising adult is great for them. Turned out her supervising adult was a member of staff who is going to be her reception teacher. Lovely guy.

The teachers have full control on a trip like this - one member of staff normally works alongisde a parent.

Options are
1) EVERY parent comes
2) NO parent comes (ie trips can't happen)
3) SOME parents come, leaving others disappointed.

Which do you think is fairest?

thebaileys

There are 40 children going on the trip there will be 1 nursery teacher, 1 nursery nurse and 18 helpers.

So 1 helper for 2 children.

My little boy isn't keen on going, so do I force him to go and sit and worry all day?

Thanks

lucylucky

Good for the kids to go and experience different things.

Maybe you will be picked for the next trip?

peachyprice

Yes, you are really.
If you'd been chosen to go on the trip you would have been allocated someone elses child to look after, would you have expected that child's parent to be displeased that you had been chosen to accompany their child?

bylromarha

thebaileys wrote: »

There are 40 children going on the trip there will be 1 nursery teacher, 1 nursery nurse and 18 helpers.

So 1 helper for 2 children.

My little boy isn't keen on going, so do I force him to go and sit and worry all day?

Thanks

My daughters ratio was 1 adult - 4 kids

Would he enjoy the adventure park if he were with you?
Does he find it easy to say goodbye to you in the morning at nursery?

If the answer to both of those is yes, then I would imagine he'll have a great time with his friends. Pay for him to go, and if he stresses when you say goodbye, then just take him home and lose the money, else let him go and have some fun. Staying at home and worrying won't make a tiny bit of difference to his enjoyment of the day.

Supermom

No no no no!!!!! this is your child if your not happy then don't send him.

I have four children and I would never send them anywhere I didn't feel comfortable with.

meritaten

my grandaughters school had this policy when they were in nursery
parents grandparents and friends of parents welcome to accompany the children.
I accompanied the twins on my own and nothing was said.
teachers and classroom assistants accompanied the children without parents. other staff members went too (I seem to remember one of the dinner ladies and there were some 15yr olds on work experience there too) certainly enough adults to care for the children whose parents/grandparents couldnt go.
oh and younger siblings could go too.
it seemed to work well...........all the kids and adults had a great time - no disasters and NO accidents etc!

mrbrightside842

Could you not take him along on your own, alongside the nursery? So you're not actually 'with them' but you're still there at the same time?

Guinea_2

I too think you are being a little unfair. I think you need to encourage him to be independent and tell him how much fun he'll have. It'll be nice to him to experience other children and other adults. It is only for one day. Tell the teacher that you would like to come on the next trip as you weren't chosen for this one.