Nursery School Day Trip-Am I being unfair?

thebaileys

I know what you mean about the other parents being displeased, I think I would be ok If we both knew the parent.

He does often have issues about going to nursery, saying he doesn't want to go or doesn't like it.

I just feel it is a long day also, as he is only at nursery 3 hours.

I have sat an explained that I will not be going, but his teachers and other Mams and Dads will be there, but he isn't having any of it at the minute.

I know it would be nice for him to go, as he leaves nursery in july.

Just need to have a good think!

msb5262

thebaileys wrote: »

There are 40 children going on the trip there will be 1 nursery teacher, 1 nursery nurse and 18 helpers.

So 1 helper for 2 children.

My little boy isn't keen on going, so do I force him to go and sit and worry all day?

Presumably your son will know about half the children, half the helpers and both staff members.
I think he will almost certainly enjoy the trip when he gets there - he is understandably disconcerted as he thought you'd be going, but surely this isn't sufficient reason to keep him off that day?

To be honest, I think it's a great opportunity for your son to cope with a minor disappointment and to get to know some new children in a fun environment.

Agreed, the other parent helpers may not have the same ideas on childcare as you do - but

a) another parent's child would have been in the same position if you'd been the parent picked to look after your son plus one other

and

b) the children won't be "in the care of" the parent helper to any real extent - the whole group will be in the care of the nursery staff, with the parent helpers as extra eyes, ears and hands.

I understand your disappointment, but try not to worry. All will be well.

HTH

MsB

meg72

You say your little one is unhappy to go without you. Enough said,
without your own misgivings I would have thought. I would not send him .

*Louise*

My son's nursery were on their trip today. They were split into groups of 8 then every group had 1 nursery teacher and 3 parent helpers. (Also first time my son has done a full day, he was fine)

I don't think it matters if the other parents' idea of childcare is different to your own - they all have to follow rules and guidelines as set down by the nursery, and I assume you have been happy with the way they have been managing so far? All they have to do is keep an eye on the children and make sure they are safe/have their snack etc. They won't be disciplining your child or on their own with them.

Tbh If you made it out to be a big exciting day out rather than telling him you couldn't go I bet he would have been happy to go with his friends....he wouldn't have even known you'd had the option.

So, I understand your worries but I do think you are being a little unfair - you need to let go a little and trust the nursery to take care of him. If you encourage him to go and he is still upset on the day, then keep him off.

thebaileys

I know maybe I am just worrying a bit too much.

He is off to school in september, so It would be good for him to be parted from me for a full day, as he will be soon.

Its not for a weeks yet, so hopefully he will come round to the idea.

Thanks for everyones advice

Pixiechic

Hi,

I think you are being a bit unfair here. You say its a long day for him but it wouldn't be if you were there? You seem to be more upset that you were not picked to go. Encouraging your son to not go anywhere without his Mum won't do him any favours in the long run. How will he cope when he has to go to school? You should be making the idea fun for him and encouraging him! Children can do well without there parents around all the time but many times it isn't about the children, its about the parents. I just wonder why a little boy of four years old isn't looking forward to going to an adventure park with all of his nursery friends? He might well be the only one not going, sounds quite sad to me.

consultant31

I'm a nanna and in my opinion, if your little boy doesn't want to go without you that's all you need to care about.

You're right, it IS a long day and if he's only used to a three hour nursery day he will be exhausted, especially if the weather continues to be as hot as it is at the moment.

Go with your instincts, they're almost always right

HRV

I'm a nursery teacher. We are taking our children for a trip and the ratio is 1:3 for the children however we can not take any adults who are not CRB checked to supervise. As far as I'm aware the parent (if not CRB checked) should only be supervising their own child. Otherwise the Nursery should be providing the staff ratios.

I know that makes these trips prohibitive that's why we only go once a year and end up taking every member of staff possible plus a few parent volunteers/dinner supervisors who are CRB checked.

I would want to check the contact these unknown parents will have with your child. They shouldn't be being left alone without nursery staff supervision, shouldn't be taking child to toilet etc.

consultant31

Pixiechic wrote: »

Hi,

I think you are being a bit unfair here. You say its a long day for him but it wouldn't be if you were there? You seem to me to just have sour grapes that you weren't 'picked' to go. Encouraging your son to not go anywhere without his Mum won't do him any favours in the long run. How will he cope when he has to go to school or are you planning on being sat beside him all day in class in case the teacher doesn't treat him the way you would like? You should be making the idea fun for him, not sulking! Why not just swallow your pride, get over it, let him go and enjoy himself which he will no doubt do and put your name down for the next fun day and you may well get picked.

I think this is rather harsh

There's no suggestion on the OPs behalf that she is 'sulking' at not being picked - what an unpleasant way to look at a perfectly normal question from a worrying Mum!

lindseykim13

lol at some people saying that your being unfair! He's 4 and loves his mum and your responsible for looking after him if you don't trust or know the people looking after him it's up to you to say no.
I'm a real nasty mum i home school mine so i must be really bad because apparantly tiny kids need to be left with strange people to have any sort of experiences in life. :shocked:
Do what you feel is right for you and you little boy i learnt that a long time ago.