Solving Family Rows

GobbledyGook

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

How do you pronounce his name? Is is Jo-sy-ah?

xx

That is how it's pronounced yes.


Thanks again everyone. xx

gravitytolls

Well done Gemma. Leave the letter for a day when you've time to just sit and gaze at Josiah, knowing that nothing can spoil your day, even her. Then open it, if it's full of vitriol ~ and I suspect it isn't ~ just drop it in the recycling and know that one day someone will be wiping their arsicle with it. If it's full of apology, even with undertones of 'it's your fault', stick it in a drawer and be glad you stuck to your guns and that the good relationship you had has won through, and that she values it as much as you.

|God bless.

neneromanova

How is everything with the wicked witch of the west? Did you ever open her letter? (Not that I'm nosy or anything... :rotfl: )

GobbledyGook

I did open her letter. It was full of rubbish. It was basically a "this is all the times I've helped you" list full of nonsense. She was trying to play the "see how nice I am".

It then contained a timetable for when I was to have the children, when ex was to have them and when she is to have them. :rotfl:

She's been told by my solicitor and had a visit from the police that any attempt to take, collect or pick up my children without my express permission will be viewed as kidnap - pure and simple. I'm told that she's now going to court for access (having been told there's no chance of residence), but given that she told my eldest that one day her, her sister, Granny and Grampa would all live together abroad it's not very likely she'll get it.

She no longer exists as far as I'm concerned. Even her husband is on the verge of leaving her over the whole saga. Tellingly she hasn't even attempted to see Josiah. FIL has, but she's not asked not attempted too so that has added weight to the concerns about her intentions to the girls and will damage her already pathetically weak case.

Gemma x

Primrose

Gemma - I'm amazed that she still hasn't taken the hint that she's no longer wanted in your life.
I hope you and your new baby are doing well.
She's obviously mentally ill, and I imagine her poor husband is pulling his hair out with embarrassment. Hopefully you and he can keep your relationship separate from her. Meanwhile, just continue to ignore her, difficult though it is.

GobbledyGook

You know Primrose I did wonder about her being ill, but from things people have told me (especially FIL) I think she's just not used to getting her own way.

It sounds like all of her life she has got what she wants, when she wants it. Unwittingly I played a part in that. I don't know if I was naive, gullible or just plain too nice, but no-one ever says no to her.

I was delighted that my girls had the family network that I didn't and allowed PIL to play a huge part in our lives. I didn't realise that I was just feeding her belief that they were her girls and she was in charge.

I think she's just plain angry that she's not getting her own way and that none of her (what I can see now) tricks are winning it over.

Gemma

poet123

What a silly woman she is to have rocked the boat over such a ridiculous issue.

I am at a loss to understand what she expected to gain from it. I have 4 sons and when dealing with their GF's I always remember that if I cause an issue it causes my son to feel torn, and I also know who is in control....and it isn't me! so, like another poster said, in this kind of situation she should have been grateful that, as it was her son that caused the breakdown of the marriage, you allowed her so much contact and were so amenable.

Who would want an ex to see you them labour, how hard is that to understand?

You can hold your head up and say that you tried to mend the rift, and that she then compunded her initial unreasonable behaviour by crosssing a line, that between parent and child, and for that reason you can never again trust her.

In years to come she will look back and realise how silly and thoughtless she was being , and how trying to control others and bend them to your will rarely achieves a good outcome.

Take care of your lovely family, and concentrate on the relationship between the two most important people in the lives of your children, you and your ex.

Your MIL has truly burned her bridges, and will be a sadder, lonlier person for it.

ClootiesMum

Congratulations on baby Josiah

I've been lurking on this thread & cannot believe what has happened. I would consider contacting the passport office to have a note put on your daughters passports now - you said earlier you didn't think it was required but for all the time it wil take it'll ensure no replacement can be ordered.

Best of luck with the future

CM

mrcow

GobbledyGook wrote: »

I did open her letter. It was full of rubbish. It was basically a "this is all the times I've helped you" list full of nonsense. She was trying to play the "see how nice I am".

It then contained a timetable for when I was to have the children, when ex was to have them and when she is to have them. :rotfl:

Well how naive am I?!

I honestly thought it was going to say "sorry"! You know - like a normal person would.

poet123

mrcow wrote: »

Well how naive am I?!

I honestly thought it was going to say "sorry"! You know - like a normal person would.

Me too!:D:o