are you jealous of OH's hobby?

mystic_trev

bubbles0169 wrote: »

am i a moaner?

Dunno? Ask your husband

I'll get my coat!

jimbms

mystic_trev wrote: »

Originally Posted by bubbles0169
am i a moaner?

Dunno? Ask your husband
I'll get my coat!

Screamers are better

Toss me my coat whilst you're there, cheers.

patchwork_cat

My DH gave up fishing when we got together. I didn't ask him ( I might have done though) as he used to go with his dad and he felt that it had put a lot of strain on his mum and dad's relationship and was a contributing factor to their break up.

Funny the only friends I have that have got divorced at least one partner has had an obsessional hobby or still acts as if they have no kids and plays golf (involved in 2 break ups I know of and I can see another coming)as and when despite no money or motorsport weekend after weekend.

Basically I feel you can not have the luxury of a hobby as intensive that it takes you away for a whole day once a fortnight when you have kids.

It is selfish to say that he would not even let you have the car for your son's party - he should be there. He should want to be there.

To the people who say it isn't selfish he works 50 hours - how many hours do you reckon a mum works? 50 would be a week off! Yet I bet there isn't a mum here who would not move heaven and earth to be at her son's birthday party.

Ask yourself this - would your answer be the same if it was a bloke posing this question?

When you have kids weekends are family time apart from a flexible couple of hours, but it has to be flexible as family comes first.

morocha

I think you need time on your own too.
My oh works a lot and does alot aswell (cars,bikes etc).. he loves fixing things when he is not working... Well he agreed with me that Saturday is MY time.. he looks after our DD all day... then in the evening we have dinner in my in laws.. works perfect for us.

bubbles0169

january20 both really! lol i was wondering if anybody was in the same situation though and how they deal with it!
and ive had lots of good ideas on how to have a fun time with the kids with little money though so im sure it was worth it:)

bubbles0169

patchwork cat its DS's friends birthday
thanks for yout input!
mystictrev he said i was but i didnt believe him;)

lostinrates

DH and I resolved this by taking n interest in each others hobbies, although to be honest mine is the more expensive and time consuming. He now loves it as much...or more...than I do.

mikey72

lostinrates wrote: »

DH and I resolved this by taking n interest in each others hobbies, although to be honest mine is the more expensive and time consuming. He now loves it as much...or more...than I do.

Whenever I'm working on the car at weekends I always let the wife and kids help.

Fang_3

patchwork_cat wrote: »

My DH gave up fishing when we got together. I didn't ask him ( I might have done though) as he used to go with his dad and he felt that it had put a lot of strain on his mum and dad's relationship and was a contributing factor to their break up.

Funny the only friends I have that have got divorced at least one partner has had an obsessional hobby or still acts as if they have no kids and plays golf (involved in 2 break ups I know of and I can see another coming)as and when despite no money or motorsport weekend after weekend.

Basically I feel you can not have the luxury of a hobby as intensive that it takes you away for a whole day once a fortnight when you have kids.

It is selfish to say that he would not even let you have the car for your son's party - he should be there. He should want to be there.

To the people who say it isn't selfish he works 50 hours - how many hours do you reckon a mum works? 50 would be a week off! Yet I bet there isn't a mum here who would not move heaven and earth to be at her son's birthday party.

Ask yourself this - would your answer be the same if it was a bloke posing this question?

When you have kids weekends are family time apart from a flexible couple of hours, but it has to be flexible as family comes first.

It's not his son's party. It's a party that his son is invited to.

patchwork_cat

OK got that, but my feelings still stand. you do what you want though and as I say I know that my DH has and always will put the needs of his family first - one of the reasons I love him, others come first always have always will- that is what makes him happy.