Thoughts on a single life.

Loubee_2

Kate78 wrote: »

I don't get why some folks feel the need to rush in to moving in together after a couple of months - you've got plenty of time to argue about whose turn it is to wash the pots later!

Me and my bloke have been together 6 years and still have no desire to live together! We have our own places, fairly near each other so have the best of both worlds imho. We can see each other easily, but I can also go to my own place, shut the door and enjoy the peace and quiet (and decorate it as i wish etc)

CupOfChai

I dream of being able to buy a little house or flat and have it all to myself. I love my own space, and despite having no other option at the moment but to live with others, at times I find myself getting irritable about them being there. They haven't done anything, it's just that they are there!

Hermia

Loubee wrote: »

Me and my bloke have been together 6 years and still have no desire to live together! We have our own places, fairly near each other so have the best of both worlds imho. We can see each other easily, but I can also go to my own place, shut the door and enjoy the peace and quiet (and decorate it as i wish etc)

My aunt and uncle have been together 45 years and have never lived together! They don't have kids and can afford to run two (small) flats so it's never been an issue for them. They cannot imagine wanting to live together, but they are one of the happiest couples I know. What's sweet is that they still make the effort to look tidy and groomed whenever they go around each other's flat.

HoneyBee83

I spilt with my daughters dad 2 years ago i was 24 and had never lived alone,i went from the parents to living with him at 20.
I know im young and i'm not 'alone alone' but as good as (daughter is 4).
I have company until 7pm (bar work and nursery) but i really enjoy being on my own! Meals are easier with just 2,less washing and cleaning up. The remote is mine so if i want to watch weepy chick flicks or cheesy films with wine and ice-cream in my pj's then i can do so in peace!! When i do go out i can wear what i want and talk to as many men as i want without being 'watched' and without a beer-fuelled argument later.
Saying that, it was nice to have someone to snuggle up too and it would be nice to have someone tell me it'll be ok when things get a little tough esp money-wise! Im not against being with and living with someone else but i'm in no hurry to give up my single-life. Starting over was scary but i cant imagine it any other way now!
I have my family and plenty of friends (most in relationships/marriages who tell me how jealous they are of my life sometimes) around so i know i'll be fine until Mr Right comes knocking...and when he does i'll be happy in myself as my own person thats gotta be a plus!

Biggest plus is i dont HAVE to shave my legs all the time!! :rotfl:

spirit

I too have been on my own for about 9 years now. Initially I thought I wouldhave to find myself another partner and tried internet dating a few times. However, I just found that men just wanted someone to do their washing, cook for them. If it got as far as them staying over, then they would bring their washing with them :eek:

There just seemed to be more cons than pros. then one day I just wised up and thought I don't need/want all this. Around that time my son and daughter went off to uni and like the others have said, it was sheer blliss.

Since then I've been off to Jordan/Egypt/Greece on holidays. I don't do anyone else's washing. I have a king size bed all to myself - well,, shared with 3 cats! No one sits on the sofa farting all night and then expects to get jiggy with you. No one tells me I am doing something wrong (insert anything you like here from cleaning to decorating and cooking) and would be better if I did it their way.

No one says, your'e not wearing that are you. I buy as many handbags and shoes as I like (no comments about me already having ONE)

Never ever, will I be tied down again to anyone.

Kt8

i loved being single, was for about 3 1/2 years all my mates were with fellas but im very independant and dont need a fella, like my own company and mostly enjoyed the nights were i had a dvd and a bottle of wine. i still have my 'me' time now as im in a rship but its very important for a woman to be on her own sometimes...it makes u stronger

Souk08

I love living on my own and can honestly say that I will never live with anyone again (I'm 31). I'm not interested in relationships or having kids and just love having the peace and time to do my own thing. i'm also very tidy and love doing a bit of cleaning. My friends come over all the time and I have a VERY busy social life but love coming in and shutting the door and being in my little sanctuary.

You will love it. Just enjoy the peace and relearn what YOU enjoy doing.

And as for the food thing, you are totally worth cooking for so go for it!

mackemdave

Ive lived on my own now for nearly five yrs after the breakup of a 22 yr marriage and to be honest I felt more lonely at times during my marriage than I do now that Im on my own.

I do have someone who I class as a partner now but we dont live together and see each other during the week and spend most of the weekend together.This allows us to have our own space and have plenty of me time.Its currently working well at the moment but after this length of time it would be hard living with someone 24x7....

mrcow

I'm 37 and have never lived alone.

The last time I even spent the night in a house on my own was in 1997. I think I'd like the peace and quite for about 6 hours and then I'd get bored.

Good luck. It's a new chapter of your life. I hope you perhaps you find a new inner space that you can move in to. And enjoy the tidiness of it all (although that would probably drive me nuts after a while too).

fantasia322

I think you have to learn to be happy living alone and happy with who you are before you can sucessfully live with with someone else. Dont know its applicable to you though, maybe more for people who have come out of relationships before they move onto a new one,