Tuesday 15th June

Bitsy_Beans

Morning.
Been in tears this morning. Feel fed up and sad. Sorry I feel a fraud for feeling like this when so many of you have bigger issues but can't help it.
I am lonely. The good friends I have I can count on less than one hand. I contacted old work friends over a month ago to arrange a catch up and not one of them has bothered to come back to me with a date. Bear in mind the 3 of them see each other every day - it's only me that doesn't see them. Feel hurt and p!ssed off. I mean with FB it's not as if I expect lengthy phone calls but a message every now and again would be nice.
You guys are the only other people I "speak" to each day - does that make me pathetic?
My mum is the one person I see or speak to every day (apart from my H) and she's going away on hols for a week. The local CM group is really cliquey and they already have their little friends. I can't believe how sad and lonely I feel. Sorry to vent on here - got no where else to say it and I don't want to tell my mum as she'll be worried.

Anyway OS - tea tonight will be left over chicken from the one I roasted yesterday. Might make some biscuits this afternoon if I get chance although given that DD is on the cusp of dropping her nap that might prove impossible :cool:

NPM - Glad Noah's back home today. Let us know he's got there safe eh? xx

Diva - hope you're OK xx

Hugs to those that need them. Have a good day OS or not.

ivyleaf

Awww, Bitsy hon (((hugs))) I hate you think of you being so sad.

I know what you meant about people from work - I recently went to a party where there were several people I'd worked with. We'd worked together for a number of years and had grown quite close then, but meeting them again, although it was nice to see them I felt so completely out of the loop - we didn't have much in common any more.

I also had a cliquey Mums and Toddlers Group, then when DS started school the same mums were still cliquey in the playground. How many new friendships must they have lost the chance of over the years because they wanted to stick with their own little group!

It's a difficult time just at the moment with your LOs being the ages they are. It will get better, I promise. I used to think that there must be something wrong with me, but eventually realised the problem was really theirs, not mine. You will find other friends, chicken. Chin up ((((HUGS))))

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Good morning everyone its a nice bright one here at the moment although lots of clouds they are very high which is a good sign.DGD Katie phoned me last night and she was buzzing her second interview went well with the building society and they have offered her a saturday job with possibilities for extra work during the holidays when she off from college .She was working part-time as a tour guide at the local dockyard but its seasonal and on an ad hoc basis with sometimes only a couple of days a month .She needed something more regular as she want to start her driving lessons.She is so pleased and so am I as she was convinced that she wouldn't get it (she lacks confidence in herself) The money is almost £2.00 and hour more as well so its brilliant for her.
I filled my cake tins up with Victoria sponge cake, and some of twinks hob-nobs and I may make a lemon drizzle cake tomorrow .I am still looking for a realy quick and easy carrot cake to make for the weekend but haven't seen one I fancied yet I have some carrots in the fridge that really need using up this week.I made a big vat of chunky veggie soup on Sunday and have no more room for anything else in the freezer at the moment (I am trying to run it down a bit as well)
Craft club this afternoon and I must pick up DD's library book for her, so another busy day ahead .Hope everyone has a good day and NPM I bet you can't wait for tea time .Take care all
JackieO xx

jc2703

Cheer up Bitsy - you always have us to [STRIKE]annoy[/STRIKE] chat too Some people don't understand the power of the internet and its friendships. I have friends all over the world from my days in chat - some I've never met, others I have.....even moved countries and married one :rotfl:so while you have us lot then you can't be lonely.

Work today for me, DH on his course and DS1 in charge of DD.... he is a bit of a cleaning freak so hopefully he'll have her 'helping' and she'll be worn out by bedtime!

I'll pop back later x

candygirl

Morning all:j:j:j
Am off out shopping with mum and Boo today, the weather is fab so wooohoo:D:D
Have caught a cold off Mr Meerkat but I can live with that:cool:, he has been texting all the time, and wants to meet for a chat, but I know long term we are totally incompatible.It'd be like that film sleeping with the enemy:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:
OS wise chick pea n spinach curry in SC , and washing on line:D
(((huggles))) to all others in need today xx:A:A

Reverbe

Bitsy_Beans wrote: »

Morning.
Been in tears this morning. Feel fed up and sad. Sorry I feel a fraud for feeling like this when so many of you have bigger issues but can't help it.
I am lonely. The good friends I have I can count on less than one hand. I contacted old work friends over a month ago to arrange a catch up and not one of them has bothered to come back to me with a date. Bear in mind the 3 of them see each other every day - it's only me that doesn't see them. Feel hurt and p!ssed off. I mean with FB it's not as if I expect lengthy phone calls but a message every now and again would be nice.
You guys are the only other people I "speak" to each day - does that make me pathetic?
xx

(((((((((((((((Bitsy))))))))))))))))) dont feel pathetic. Everyone's issues are important to them. I will let you in on a little secret (no doubt this will make my detractor very happy) but I dont have any friends at all. My best friend moved to Australia 3 years ago and decided to cut all ties with her past.I fnd it hard to make friends when in work or at events etc NOT because I am not friendly and outgoing cos I am but cos ppl are very small minded and consider themselves to have enough friends already and are so insular they are not interested in making more.

I joined a book club locally about 3 years ago and tho friendly when it's on they are not interested in keeping touch from month to month and dont even want to go for a drink at Christmas etc.

I lost touch with my previous best friend when she moved in with a lad and didnt stay in touch.I found her on Myspace but she seemed to have left.

I don't feel lonely as such but tend to feel fed up on a daily ongoing basis.I have no work, no money, no friends, havent seen my OH for 2 years.

I tried to join a Morsbags pod just for something todo rather than make frinds but they seem very apathetic. They dont return emails and when they do they call off meetings just because its "nice weather".

Just know you're not the only one.


PS @ candy I'm a bit baffled. I saw your report of your first date where you said you didnt like him cos he looked like a meerkat and yet you still seem to be dating him??

NoahsPennilessMummy

Hugs Bitsy
I know how you feel. I had very few friends until recently.Even now I only have one proper friend iykwim.
Infact when DS and I were first left on our own I used to pick him up from nursery at lunchtime on Friday and never saw or spoke to another soul until work on mon morning:o:( it was very lonely. I am not a person who likes a lot of company to be honest and am happy on my own most of the time( I hate parties etc and rarely go.....i think really I am on the spectrum:o)but not speaking to anyone for days on end was quite soul destroying and DS was only 2 and couldn`t speak.
I did make friends at toddler groups etc but they soon stopped bothering when it became clear that DS had something wrong with him:mad:.
I have a couple of friends from those days who stuck with me but really only see them at school pick up time.
The friend I meet for coffee regularly started out being DS`s one to one at nursery almost 4 years ago but as she has a daughter with ASD we had a lot in common and have become close friends...infact she is being a witness at our wedding:T.
It is a shame the CM group are so cliquey but that seems to happen time and time again.
Do you have an ASD support group nearby? I found mine helpful for meeting others in similar situation. Maybe you are feeling like this today as your mum is going away for the week. She will soon be back and you will have to pester us on here for company this week instead;):rotfl:
I think once you leave work it is hard to carry on being good friends with workmates as they are all with each other everyday and forget about people who are no longer there....you also end up with less and less in common.
Oh and you are not pathetic:o you are a lovely,caring, fun woman with a husband and 2 adorable children who are very much loved and cared for( and that is your doing). So please don`t feel like a failure.

candygirl

Reverbe wrote: »

Bitsy_Beans wrote: »

Morning.
Been in tears this morning. Feel fed up and sad. Sorry I feel a fraud for feeling like this when so many of you have bigger issues but can't help it.
I am lonely. The good friends I have I can count on less than one hand. I contacted old work friends over a month ago to arrange a catch up and not one of them has bothered to come back to me with a date. Bear in mind the 3 of them see each other every day - it's only me that doesn't see them. Feel hurt and p!ssed off. I mean with FB it's not as if I expect lengthy phone calls but a message every now and again would be nice.
You guys are the only other people I "speak" to each day - does that make me pathetic?
xx

(((((((((((((((Bitsy))))))))))))))))) dont feel pathetic. Everyone's issues are important to them. I will let you in on a little secret (no doubt this will make my detractor very happy) but I dont have any friends at all. My best friend moved to Australia 3 years ago and decided to cut all ties with her past.I fnd it hard to make friends when in work or at events etc NOT because I am not friendly and outgoing cos I am but cos ppl are very small minded and consider themselves to have enough friends already and are so insular they are not interested in making more.

I joined a book club locally about 3 years ago and tho friendly when it's on they are not interested in keeping touch from month to month and dont even want to go for a drink at Christmas etc.

I lost touch with my previous best friend when she moved in with a lad and didnt stay in touch.I found her on Myspace but she seemed to have left.

I don't feel lonely as such but tend to feel fed up on a daily ongoing basis.I have no work, no money, no friends, havent seen my OH for 2 years.

I tried to join a Morsbags pod just for something todo rather than make frinds but they seem very apathetic. They dont return emails and when they do they call off meetings just because its "nice weather".

Just know you're not the only one.


PS @ candy I'm a bit baffled. I saw your report of your first date where you said you didnt like him cos he looked like a meerkat and yet you still seem to be dating him??

noooo I did like him cos he looked like a meerkat, I love meerkats:rotfl::rotfl:, but am not dating him anymore cos we're incompatible.we're just friends now hun

beemuzed

((hugs)) Bitsy - don't mind telling us how you feel - it's what we're here for! I felt really hurt when I retired that my secretary, whom I'd worked with really closely for nearly seven years and had supported through a variety of family crisies, didn't even bother to reply to my emails. However, I do see other members of staff fairly regularly, so perhaps it was her not me IYSWIM. Anyway, I second what ivyleaf says - it will get better!
Things are looking up here, the plumber has been and measured up and will do the work next Monday! (On the down side he tried to tell me he'd called a few times last week - not so, either DH or I was in every afternoon waiting for him!!) Still, it will all be sorted before the kitchen mess begins!
Ivyleaf, yes, DS does seem much improved. Big review today, but he's happy to remain in the unit if that's the decision as he feels they are making strides with helping him at last. Fingers and toes all tightly crossed here!
Right, another dive into the freezer is called for I think! TTFN

jellybaby21

Thanks for the advice ivyleaf but unfortunately I received a letter from DWP a while ago saying that becasue I was involved in an accident and am making a claim I am not allowed to claim any benefits