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Daffy's 'a nice cup of tea cheers you up' diary

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  • and I might THINK about doing something with some of those limes Might save that for n the week though... don't think they'll go off yet.

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  • I'm trying to thrash the cusp thing out on my diary. Basically, I've just started a part time job in a school in order to supplement my main income as a self employed adult educator. I'm finding being employed really hard for lots of reasons and my self employed contracts have become both unreliable and difficult for reasons outside of my control. I had planned to apply for the Graduate Training Programme this year but my experience in school is making me have second thought about the timing or even if its a good idea at all... And I really, really want to learn dressmaking. I don't feel like I'm making the most of my talents and skills and experience. So, thinking about running the adult education as a co-operative and diversifying in the process. And maybe finding a little bit of time to pursue crafty interests on the side. Which is SCARY!! I've only been employed a month and already feel tied to what is essentially a small but regular income! What I do know is something has to change!
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  • Cheery_Daff
    Cheery_Daff Posts: 17,161 Forumite
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    Ruby, I popped over to your diary last night (or possibly this morning, can't remember now!) Is it being employed in general you don't like, or this job in particular, or the feeling that you'll get too dependent on a monthly income? (I know that feeling, it's something I worry about if I end up working full time!)

    Nice day here :D I'm really enjoying doing my PhD in 2 hour chunks. After the fiasco of the last couple of weeks, I'm finding this a really positive way of working. Turn off the internet, turn on the CD, and focus for 2 hours. There's a little bit of mind wandering during that time, but if I don't turn the internet on, I get back to it fairly quickly. For the time being I'm doing 2x two hour slots a day - very manageable, plenty of time for other things, and I'm getting far more done in that time than I ever was before when I was spending whole days staring at it and being resentful that I wasn't getting anything else done! :T So yes, I *could* do six hours, but I think that's starting to get back into beating myself up territory, and I need to be positive right now :T

    So - I've just done a decent two hours, and now I'm having a little break :T Pottering round the forums, filling myself up with positivity from all you lovely lot, and drinking a nice cup of tea :coffee: I'm chairing our Al Anon meeting tonight too, so I need to check what the topic is and find some readings for us to do. And BE ON TIME! I've been late for every single meeting since I started work in June! :o Daft really - we set the meeting up on a Tuesday partly because I was free, then I got a job and the only day I work every week? Tuesday! :rotfl: Meeting starts at 7.30 - if I go home first I've only got 10 minutes before I have to leave again, and I always end up late, if I go straight there I'm half an hour early, and if I get the later train, I end up even later than if I go home first! :eek: No excuses today though since I'm only round the corner :rotfl:

    Off to do 15 minutes of matrix-related activities and 'life admin' before I forget :D
  • Well done daffy on the 2 hour chunks very proud of you :-) I'm supping a brew too and wondering around the forum :-) c
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  • Karmacat
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    Cheery, that really sounds like you've found your way forward with the PhD work, well done you.
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  • EssexHebridean
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    edited 19 October 2010 at 8:46PM
    Another one here taking a break from the stuff I need to be doing to have a browse! Well done, and hope the meeting goes well!
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  • makeup
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    Hi Cheery

    That sounds great, I think the 2 hr stretch is a good idea. And of course if one day you are really working well and 'in the zone' then there is no reason why you can't do an extra hour or two but I agree that if you start feeling guilty or pressured over it then it isn't a good idea and so I agree you should stick to your 2 x 2 hr pattern.

    I'm off on a very exciting and huge holiday on Saturday. I've not really mentioned it on here as it isn't very DFW (my whole year has involved me incurring more debt rather than paying anything off, although I was DF at the start of the year.....) but all in a good cause....(holidays are always my top priority :p)

    Someone recommended a book called the Celestine Prophecy to me so I've got it to take on my hols with me. Appears to be one of those inspirational, 'sort out your life' type books and I wondered if anyone else has read it?

    I've got lots to do before I go off on my trip so I shouldn't really be on here and I should probably write a big old list!
    I've got my own flat :j:j

    Now I have to pay the bills :eek:

    And feed my interiors addiction ;)
  • honeybear_2
    honeybear_2 Posts: 3,914 Forumite
    Hi Makeup (shameless diary hijack!)

    I know someone who read the Celestine Prophecy & said it was excellent. She was going to lend it to me but it never quite happened!

    Enjoy your holiday ;)
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  • Cheery_Daff
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    Hey honeybear, you're not hijacking my diary, you're popping in for a chat! :j :j Have a cuppa while you're here :coffee:

    Oh come on makeup, you HAVE to tell us more about this giant holiday now! :j :j How very exciting! :j No idea about the book I'm afraid. You are, of course, right about the extra hour or two, but you're also right about not making it a necessity. I feel SOoOOOo much better now I'm setting an achievable goal (4 hours) and actually achieving it! Much better than trying to work six, only doing four, and feeling rotten! :j

    Meeting was lovely, as usual :D Home with a cuppa now - and Mr Daffs is unexpectedly here for the evening, which is very cheery indeed! :j

    MUST remember to go for blood test tomorrow! Got another check up at the hospital on Friday. I'm actually feeling fine (apart from hormonal wobble, which seems to have 'only' been hormones/stress, not anything to do with thyroid), so I suspect my thyroid levels will be normal, and then I might be able to drop down to yearly checkups rather than every 4-8 weeks... We'll see!
  • Karmacat
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    Yep, tell about the holiday, please - I've just been wibbling about *enormous* holiday plans in future years on my thread, so if somebody's off on Saturday, I Want To Know!!!!

    The Celestine Prophecy - it kind of irritated me at first, until I realised its a series of metaphors/allegories, call them what you will - examples. Its one storyline. I think its magnificent. I have the book, the workbook, The Tenth Prophecy, the CD, I went on a local course - they were all over the place at one stage. Even now, its on my bookshelf of "really important books that still have something to give me". And very well thumbed it is, too.

    Enjoy! I still want to know about the holiday tho.
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