Daffy's 'a nice cup of tea cheers you up' diary

MrsMoo2U

Love your way of thinking. I have been finding working at home a little challenging lately so if you dont mind, as with your TADA lists I will steal the challenging/necessary/active/cheery way of doing things.

Cheers m Dear (as my Nan used to utter)
:j:j to getting your attic back. Dont feel guilty, look at how much support that you have given him. And by asking him to move on then you are also supporting him in his long term quest to find a permanent place. Also did it not make it awkward for you to have his ex around for girly chats and why should you compromise that freindship?

Right I am off to get my stuff ready for tomorrow mornings early dart. That forms my Necessary part of the next hour :rotfl::rotfl:

Cheery_Daff

Gosh, didn't realise I'd spark such excitement! :rotfl: There's no particular reasoning behind the challenging/necessary/active/cheery thing - I was partly thinking of a thing from MG's book which talks about ideal study hours involving a bit of activity, bit of relaxation, bit of new learning, bit of reviewing old stuff (although far more eloquently than that!)

Also, it was partly just because of the list of things that I had to do, which involved making some scary phone calls which I was NOT in the mood for and some wading through transcripts which required more concentration than I could muster, and a few little things that I couldn't be bothered getting off my backside for :rotfl: And of course, any list has to have a cheery element to it

I didn't get *everything* done, but I did make both of my scary phone calls, waded through one transcript (out of three - that's ok though), returned library books and sorted expenses (very important). So not too bad really

And I also grasped the nettle about sorting out our Christmas Do, which I volunteered to help with, along with another lady who is cheery, and one who is rather not (although I'm trying to think that i'm misunderstanding her ). We made a decision last week, which I wasn't entirely happy with, and it's been annoying me ever since So today I pulled my finger out and spoke to one of them, emailed the other, and have now changed it to something I'm happy with

I was really struggling to accept that the outcome might not be what I want However, I realised this afternoon that part of my struggle was because we hadn't done the *process* in a way that I was happy with. Now we've tweaked the process, I will happily accept that I put my best effort in, and will enthusiastically accept the outcome.

(gosh, all these nonsensical philosophical ramblings! :eek: :rotfl:)

Cheery_Daff

Anyway, got a bit sidetracked there! :rotfl: Meant to pop in with an update!

The afternoon got a bit farcical after leaving work, had a lovely cycle back, dashed and only just caught the train, then when I was in the queue of people wating to get off, I realised I'd left my foldy bike at the other end of the carriage :eek: :rotfl: With no possibility of turning round... So had to jump off, do a mad sprint up the platform, apologise profusely, elbow my way back *on* to the train again while asking the nice people to make sure it didn't leave and take me to Birmingham, then elbow my way back off again :rotfl:

Then waited for AGES for a bus, and a poor old fella with a wheely zimmer frame fell over in the middle of the road :eek: Didn't go to help because several people were much closer, and 4 young lads got him picked up and sorted the traffic and everything. How lovely. Felt a bit of a wally just standing there, but there really wasn't anything else to do

Then was 15 minutes late for booze club - which I was meant to be chairing.

Finally got home a bit ago to find a note from the lodger, saying he's moved out!! :eek: :eek: Wasn't expecting that at all! :eek: But it seems the opportunity arose this afternoon (just to another friend's temporarily, but they were available with car today), so off he's toddled. Felt a bit mean for a while But had a quick chat with him and all's cheery

Sooooooo, now all that negativity is out of the way! On to positive things :j :j

* I have my attic back! :j :j :j (although apparently there's still a 'bag of costumes' in it ) Can get back up there tomorrow and work
* don't have to attempt getting on a train again til next Monday :rotfl:
* Because I had my Al-Anon stuff with me on the train, I did a bit of reading, and wrote down a few things I needed to hear today. Would you like to hear too?

It is important to express my ideas. It is also important to accept the outcome.

(gosh I needed to hear that one this afternoon! Especially the first part )

What can I do about this right here, right now?

(one of my absolute favourite thoughts for grounding myself and getting myself out of a big head mangling muddle Needed to hear that this afternoon too! )

When I face a new challenge I try to take my beginning wherever it may be and start from there

(a good one for those of us wishing (in a rather bizarre way) that we could start our PhDs all over again because it'd be easier than trying to sort out the mess we've got ourselves into :rotfl: Or - as Mr Daffs' dad says - deal with things how they are, not how you want them to be)

And finally...

I am writing my life story with every single today. Am I moving in a positive direction?

Very much needed to hear this one, particularly in relation to food at the minute I'm doing what I always do when stressed or wound up, and eating and eating and eating It doesn't make me happy, it makes me fat, and takes away my energy, and makes me grumpy And I get overwhelmed because I can't go for a whole day without a biscuit etc. This little question reminds me that I just have to deal with what I'm about to do *right now*, not make decisions about the whole day. Am I moving in a positive direction when I choose to eat this particular biscuit? :rotfl:

Gosh, and now it really is time for a nice cup of tea, can't believe how much I've waffled on there! :eek:

Cheery_Daff

Bah, just posted and it vanished!

Basically saying:

* hooray to waking up in our house by ourselves!
* hooray to final fees payment going out of bank - now I get to keep all of my own wages!

and

today is going to be a day of balance

and will involve:

* a lovely hot shower
* reclaiming my attic space!!
* meeting a friend for tea
* working on finishing two PhD chapters
* shred later!

Still feeling a little on edge, but going to try to apply yesterday's challenging/necessary/active/cheery thing again - although not sure it'll work exactly as it was designed for a specific set of activities! But I do think the principle of making sure you do two or three different things each hour is good

Have a good one all :j

missymoo81

Hey daffs my lovely, have just caught up..... yaaaaaaaaay for the lodger moving out:j:T, even if you did feel a little bit mean:o, not that you should have done of course:p. I bet it is lovely to have your little attic room back too:T.

Well done on trying to get the balance right, it is hard sometimes, just a juggling act, but you have some wonderful ideas hun;).

Sounds like you have a lovely day planned, I'm going out later, but to be honest I'm quite happy sitting her in my pyjamas drinking tea:D, I think the post lady thinks I'm a right lazy moo as I'm always in my jarmies when she knocks with a parcel at 1030 ish lol:rotfl:, I best not tell her sometimes i stay in my jarmies all day if I'm not going out!!!:eek:

xx

saorsie

Cheery_Daff wrote: »

* hooray to final fees payment going out of bank - now I get to keep all of my own wages!

Fantastic news on being debt free Daff - well done you :T :T :T :j :j

-s- <slopes off again>

Cheery_Daff

Thanks folks :T

Guess where I am??!!!

Yep, in the attic! :j :j :j :j :j Sooooooo nice Just feels sooo much more spacious up here, last few times I've been up, lodger's stuff was all over the floor and you could barely even see my stuff round the edges. Now his is all gone, I realise I *did* actually tidy up quite a lot a few months back, and it's really not so bad up here! :j :j Still needs a few shelves putting up, but that's a longer term project :j :j

Lovely day here, sunny but a little chilly. I've had a lovely grounding cuppa and chat with two different friends, done a bit of tidying, a bit of washing, and got myself back up in the attic :j Not actually done any writing yet But instead of fussing about it, I'm going to set the timer and get some done now :j :j Got the evening to myself, so I'm thinking shred or a run, or possibly the pilates DVD that Mr Daffs came home with earlier and a nice bath :j

Ooh, and I made possibly my most bizarre impulse purchase yet earlier - an entire box of limes :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: 61 limes, £1.85, how colud I resist??? :rotfl: :rotfl:

So, lime marmalade? Lime curd? Lime cheesecake? Key lime pie? Lime pickle? Or just lots of gin and tonics???? :rotfl:

EssexHebridean

Just spotted your signature over on KC's thread and had to come over to say well done, wahoo, and yippee to having your wages to yourself and not owing anyone anything!! :j:j:j

Cheery_Daff

Thanks EH! :j :j :j It does feel rather good And will feel even better when I actually get paid! :rotfl:

MrsMoo2U

:T:T:T:T:T for the signature
:j:j:j:j:j:j:j for the lodger free attic
:) for the 61 limes - I vote - all of the above, I do make a rather mean key lime pie which I always gave to my ex sil for part of her Christmas present because she loved it so much. Unfortunately it is so long since I made it and the recipe book is still buried in storage. Must put that on my to find list.

Cheery, reading your diary sounds a bit to me like you need a bit of a chill out hour in with your shredding/running/pilates. Do you ever meditate? It is a great way to relieve all the stresses of the day. Maybe your hormones are doing a bit more than playing up and actually trying to slow you down a little.