Pregnancy's Best Kept Secrets

newMS

brilliant post and wonderful stories....

nn one ever told me that i would be able to resurface Nottingham ring road with my first sons first poo!!! he was wearing a mint green babygro and managed to fill it from toe to top !

Zziggi

finc wrote:

Just OT a bit so sorry but...

go to your GP and ask to be referred to physio if it's still bad. I had SPD with my 2nd and was begging to be induced as I couldn't move, sleep, sit etc and I have BIG babies! I was also told it'll clear up by itself blah, blah, blah but there comes a point where you have to think 'I need to do something about this!'.

I've been going for physio for over a year, had to carry on wearing the corset thing for over 6 months and had lots of accupuncture. It's just getting better now and I can stand for more than 20 minutes again and finally able to turn over in bed without a military operation :rotfl:

Seriously, though, if it's still giving you problems please don't ignore it, you could make things worse.

Thanks for that finc. I'm already under an orthopaedic consultant at the hospital for this. Not that he is any good. At my last appointment he AGAIN told me it would clear up by the time my youngest is 12 months old and that i should not worry. I then re-informed him that she is 3 YEARS OLD next month!:rolleyes: To which he told me to come back in 2 months....

Addiscomber

Oh dear. You lot have managed to dredge up memories that I thought I had buried forever. LOL

tanith wrote:

No one ever told me that I would be given an enema (35yrs ago ladies they still did this)

Believe me, they were still doing this 21 years ago come Friday. If anyone is ever stupid enough to suggest that I have one of those for any reason whatsoever, I shall decline. Forcefully. I was convinced that I would never be able to leave that toilet cubicle ever again …

iwanttosave wrote:

oooh one thing they dont tell you, how feirce the oxytocin drip is :eek:

Yup. Another experience to be tried just the once. Especially when the tactless young (male, as if you hadn’t guessed) doctor says “turn it up, turn it up. She’s still laughing so she can’t be having any contractions”. Thank you so much for the vote of confidence, but had you just bothered to examine me, you would have discovered that I was nigh on fully dilated …

I was going to quote the poster who mentioned babies screaming from 8pm until 11pm – but I have managed to lose the quotation. Sorry. Our DS1 did something similar, but started as soon as DH walked through the front door after work. I got in the habit of making sure a nonspoilable dinner was ready in good time otherwise we would never have eaten in the evening.
A good thing to come out of having to walk round and round the house, which was the only thing that kept DS1 quiet, was that I never seemed to get any ironing done, and DH started doing it and has done all the ironing ever since.


Secrets I would like to add are

That midwives are always like stick insects, with waists that could be spanned with your hands. After a while though, it is their necks you want to wring.

That midwives always wait until a contraction is reaching its worst before asking you a question. They must know that there is no way on this earth that you can answer them.

“Push in your bottom, not with your voice”

That, if it is your second child, and you have to walk your first to playschool, you will be staggering around like a zombie after about 2 weeks of very little sleep. It is not a problem with your first because you very quickly learn to go back to sleep until the mid/late morning feed.

That, after you have given birth, you cease to exist as a person in your own right. All conversations, whether on the ‘phone or face to face, will always start with “How is the baby?”
Hallo, I’m still here; I’m still me, not just R’s Mum.



To those who are wondering whether they can face going through this, don’t worry. We are just having a bit of a laugh. It is a terrific experience. I remember lying looking at DS1 and wondering how I could have produced anything so wonderful. Actually I wish that someone had told me a bit of what it might be like. Not knowing what to expect was the scariest thing ever.

daisykate124

Addiscomber wrote:

To those who are wondering whether they can face going through this, don’t worry. We are just having a bit of a laugh. It is a terrific experience. I remember lying looking at DS1 and wondering how I could have produced anything so wonderful. Actually I wish that someone had told me a bit of what it might be like. Not knowing what to expect was the scariest thing ever.

Exactly what i was going to say!




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rchddap1

Well I'm not going to have much of a choice come a few months time. But I'm sure once I see my little lady it will all be worthwhile. Either that or I'll do some damage to OH down below.

angeluk69_2

I wasn't old how the gas and ari would affect me and I started singing 'staying alive ' by the Bee Gees (this was 5 yrs ago and I was 18!!!)

I had just given birth and the midwife gave me my baby and then started to stitch me up, with no warning, nearly dropped bubs cos of the sheer shock and pain.

I got myself all washed up and everything afterwards got into the wheelchair, was wheeled up to the ward, stood up and blood went everywhere (sorry!!) the worst part was my MIL and BIL were there( they also kept walking in while I was in labour)

I wasn't warned that strctchmarks get EVERYWHERE belly, boobs, feet, backs of legs, arms, like I say EVERYWHERE!!!!!!!!

H/V said birth really is just like bad cramps/period pains isn't it. I asked her how many children she had, the answer was 'Oh none, I hear it hurts so I don't think I will be having any for a while'

No one told me it is just like trying to get a Watermelon out of a Papercut, but DS came out so fast he would of fallen off the bed if there hadn't been an end on the bed.

But saying that DD (child 2) was no problem.

Mrs_pbradley936

I have not read all of this thread so forgive me if I repeat anything that has already been said but during the 60s women were regarded as elderly if they were having their first baby at 23! Also when I was in my teens and 20s everybodys' mother, older sister, aunt, grandmother etc was a source of help and information. Few girls were afraid of childbirth because everyone was having babies.

pug_in_a_bed

I've read this thread from start fto finish and it's great! just thought I'd add that the one and only time I have heard my mum swear was when i asked her what it ws like when she had my older brother, she's very lady like my mum and to hear that kind of language out of her :rotfl:

Addiscomber

pbradley936 wrote:

during the 60s women were regarded as elderly if they were having their first baby at 23!

I had forgotten that insult too.

I was 34 when I had DS1 – I wasn’t old. I don’t think/feel any older now at 55. Unfortunately bits of my body just can’t keep up with my mind :eek: :eek:

A lady came round one afternoon when DS1 was a couple of days old – I think she was a volunteer, not hospital staff. She looked at DS, looked at me and said “Have you been waiting a long time for R…. Her face was an absolute picture of embarrassment when I said “No, we haven’t been married for two years yet.”

Thriftylady

Having read this thread from beginning to end, I've laughed out loud many times, and also gasped at how horribly some people have been treated in hospital. But to balance things out, I would like to add that there are also midwives out there who are amazing, professional people who are worth their weight in gold. I can't praise the staff in the ward I was on highly enough. They were very overstretched and shortstaffed. They were young and old, fat and thin, mothers and non-mothers but with only a couple of exceptions they were calm, reassuring, encouraging, pleasant and non-patronising. I think to be a good midwife takes a very special person, and thankfully there were plenty of them in my local hospital.