Pregnancy's Best Kept Secrets

ooobedoo

Can you get some of them to get jobs in St Mary's in Portsmouth please??????

Thriftylady

ooobedoo wrote:

Can you get some of them to get jobs in St Mary's in Portsmouth please??????

I live in a rural area, farming community and all that, and a lot of the older midwives round here are farmers wives who have spent their younger days delivering lambs and calves. My sister, who gave birth to 3 jumbo babies (over 10lbs) reckons these are the best midwives you can get - mentally unflappable and physically strong! Maybe its the country life that was the key to my excellent hospital experience.....although obviously thats maybe not much consolation to all you city girls out there.

finc

Thriftylady wrote:

I live in a rural area, farming community and all that, and a lot of the older midwives round here are farmers wives who have spent their younger days delivering lambs and calves. My sister, who gave birth to 3 jumbo babies (over 10lbs) reckons these are the best midwives you can get - mentally unflappable and physically strong! Maybe its the country life that was the key to my excellent hospital experience.....although obviously thats maybe not much consolation to all you city girls out there.

I live in Manchester and overall I can't complain about the care I got from the midwives. It wasn't exactly personal and there wasn't much continuity as I seemed to see a different one at every appointment. Some were fab and I tended to take advantage of these ones and ask tons of questions etc.

In hospital with my 2nd I had a great midwife who was really supportive and great at boosting confidence. Unfortunatley as soon as I went into the delivery suite I got a miserable old bag who obviously had better things to do. She spent most of her time outside (and it wasn't a busy night!) and when she was in the room she seemed hellbent on hooking me up to every monitor she could find :rotfl:. She never asked me how I was or showed any signs of caring less, just got on with fiilling forms, checking cervixes, attaching monitors. She also told me I was wrong when I said the baby's going to be born. 10 minutes later ......:rolleyes:

Despite her best efforts I had a fairly easy, enjoyable birth with no drugs, no stitches and had a big 9lb 15oz boy. I was at school 12 hours later picking my daughter up :eek: :T (2 hours after that the adrenaline ran out and I thought I'd died )

I think the whole process is what you make of it. Keep a positive but open mind of how it will go and don't be too rigid with birth plans.

boltonangel

Miss_Penny_Pincher wrote:

boltonangel - from your horrors in hospital it's putting me off! Sounds like can do nothing right - I would definitely begin to get a complex over whether I'm a good mother! Your experiences didn't happen in Royal Bolton Hospital, did they??

i'm afraid so!!

loopy_lass

WELL..... is everybody sitting comfy! read on... 15 years ago after not feeling too well for about 9 weeks i was told i was pregnant after missing one pill.. So events unfolded, went into labour and within 3 hrs delivered DD via SALAD SPOONS they called them something else, but i think they were salad spoons. I had the machines that went PING and lots of drs, and a blood transfusion. Other than that all went ok ;-)

3 days after delivery, the nurse says to me "and what form of contraception will you be using when you get home"? ARE U KIDDING ME?? NEVER EVER EVER AGAIN - sterilise me right now. How she laughed!!! I hated being pregnant, hated giving birth, anyway, fought the drs for 3 yrs for them to let me be sterilised, they kept refusing as i was single, with one child and only 28. One dr called my bluff and said ok can you be in hosp for 8am tues? OH YES says i and turns up. I had 3 drs and my mom trying to talk me out of it as they were sure i would regret it. I cast my mind back to the salad spoons and go ahead with the op. and 15 yrs later im still waiting to regret it..

NOPE NOPE NOPE... PREGNANCY & GIVING BIRTH IS NOT FOR ME, no way, it just aint happening.

As for the problem about not being able to laugh, cough or move quickly lest you wet yourself i had a TVT op last year... best thing i ever did. can stand legs akimbo and cough and sneeze just as much as i jolly well like, i can even keep walking when i cough or sneeze!

sorted......


lol loops

finc

loopy_lass wrote:

As for the problem about not being able to laugh, cough or move quickly lest you wet yourself i had a TVT op last year... best thing i ever did. can stand legs akimbo and cough and sneeze just as much as i jolly well like, i can even keep walking when i cough or sneeze!

sorted......


lol loops

Uhmmm.....I might regret asking this but what's a TVT op?

loopy_lass

its a band which is inserted underneath your bladder to hold it up & strengthen it hence no leaks! great idea. was done with epidural, in and outta hosp in 3 days.

google Tension free Vaginal Tape (TVT)

there are (as you would expect) some failures/horror stories, but mine was straight forward with no problems then or now.

loops

happygal_3

I'm with Boltonangel on the hospital midwives look down on younger mums! When I had DD1 I was 21 (but looked about 15) and was treated as though I had the IQ of a squashed tomarto. Needless to say I discharged myself as soon as possible.

However with DDs 2 and 3 I had lovely home births with a really kind and supportive community midwife.

CarolnMalky

This thread is superb! At last a proper insight to pregnancy and birth, not all this "twee, flowery crap".Thanks to everyone who has posted their stories, makes me feel a teensie bit better at the prospect of a life without experiencing pregnancy.Hugs and thanks to all of you.
Carol xxx

Jay-Jay_4

boltonangel wrote:

i'm afraid so!!

I had my first there too. That's why I had my second at home.