Feeling angry and wanting to cry

moneysaver12

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mrcow

Erm.....sorry to point out the bleeding obvious, but if your nieces' parents are worrying about them feeling "left out" at the weekend, then they need to do what all us other parents do and entertain them themselves.

At age 2 and 4 1/2, your nieces are not really going to care or noitice if it's not every weekend - as long as they are enjoying themselves, children are very fickle.

Stop worrying. Switch off Facebook. And put your feet up.

Have the weekend "off" - you are 100% right - you won't get the chance to do 100% adult things at the weekend for a long while once the baby comes along. Enjoy it and stop fretting.

Minxy_Bella

mrcow wrote: »

Erm.....sorry to point out the bleeding obvious, but if your nieces' parents are worrying about them feeling "left out" at the weekend, then they need to do what all us other parents do and entertain them themselves.

At age 2 and 4 1/2, your nieces are not really going to care or noitice if it's not every weekend - as long as they are enjoying themselves, children are very fickle.

Stop worrying. Switch off Facebook. And put your feet up.

Have the weekend "off" - you are 100% right - you won't get the chance to do 100% adult things at the weekend for a long while once the baby comes along. Enjoy it and stop fretting.

All of the above! With knobs on!

Your family have had it really easy so far, with you providing unpaid childcare for your nieces and that's all been lovely but now is the time when you have to put yourself and your own little family first.

Don't give in to emotional blackmail.

I would probably be asking my sister to have MY baby every weekend - see how she likes that!

moneywasternomore!

I'm sorry...he doesn't work and she works part-time, yet they expect you to have their children all weekend every weekend. For the past 4 and a half years?! Selfish old you for wanting a bit of free time before your own child comes along. This is the sort of thing that sometimes comes between families but I feel you should stand your ground. As I'm sure you're all too aware, you will have precious little spare time on your hands once your little bundle comes along, so please make the most of it now.

Still, I'm sure your neices' parents will be volunteering to have your child every weekend.

Stand your ground and enjoy your time while you can; all this will pass.

Oldernotwiser

Just as a matter of interest, why don't you refer to the babies' mother as "my sister" - it seems really strange.

I agree with everyone else, you sound as if you've been taken by a mug for years and if having your own baby is what it takes for you to realise this, it can only be a good thing.

moneywasternomore!

Just as a matter of interest, why don't you refer to the babies' mother as "my sister"

Maybe it's her husband's sister? Or brother - does it matter?

xoxo_2

moneysaver12 wrote: »

She said when baby is here that we will not be able to have a weekend off.

Why not? Your nieces parent (your sister/brother?) clearly do.

You're doing nothing wrong OP. Stick to your beliefs and what you're doing now and enjoy the time with your OH before your baby arrives. Your nieces are not your responsibility.

MarsdenCuckoo

The hardest word to say can be 'No'; sounds like you need to practice it!

Good time to start now with the arrival of your own baby. Just be firm and fair, explaining that obviously your domestic situation has now changed so you're happy to help out when you can but it will be more a matter of 'occasionally as a treat' rather than 'regularly and expected'.

No-one likes to be taken for granted; certainly sounds like you have been so far. The only person, who can change that is you/or your OH. Doing it sooner rather than later will be better for everyone concerned.

Good luck and enjoy your own baby.:j

Oldernotwiser

moneywasternomore! wrote: »

Maybe it's her husband's sister? Or brother - does it matter?

Probably not but it just seemed rather strange.

Oldernotwiser

moneysaver12 wrote: »

Thankyou for your reply. I also have a sister who only sees my nieces if she goes up to their house, she doesn't take them any where. Also my brothers fiance has a mum, and sisters and brothers who do see nieces. Nieces mums, mums has them for a couple of hours occasionaly if nieces mum asks them. It really is left to me and my dh. .

I don't think that most children see their aunts and uncles on a regular basis, much less be taken out anywhere by them. I wouldn't worry about it.

xoxo_2

Sorry, I may be unpopular with my opinion here, but its time to put YOU first. You're expecting yourself. Put YOU and your partner first, regardless of how anyone else feels about the situation. Treasure the time you and your OH have together alone before your child arrives. It doesn't mean you don't see your nieces. It just means you put yourself first. From what you've said it doesn't seem live you've done this for a long time.

It's time to look after YOU op! Not anyone else.