Student summer benefits - paying rent

Loopy_Girl

Deepmistrust wrote: »

Sure, then why the sarky 'flash the cash' comment?

Seriously, word it as you like. If she has aspergers, then she has social problems, and people on social networking sites effectively telling her off, or more like, deriding her for their own amusement in an attempt to look clever, is more telling about those doing the deriding than anything else.

I appreicate you can't see that she views her life less optimistically than you think you would in her situation. But that doesn't mean the way you see it, is as it should be (if that makes sense:)).

I meant flashing the cash as not every problem can be solved even when 'cash is flashed'.

I wasn't deriding for anyone's pleasure...believe me , I have been very restained in what I think.

I'm not asking her to see my point...I'm asking her to clarify the conflicting ones that she gives.

Oldernotwiser

Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »

You can say it isn't about me but who else would you be reffering to.

I was talking about Poet's students - I would have thought that was obvious.

I just want a bit of understanding, looks like I came to the wrong place.

Having been through much of what you have I understand you pretty well, which you don't seem to like!

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

As a matter of interest - why not? They're very good these days and feel very natural.

Ive looked online & they are really expensive.

I bought some mastectomy bra's though as they are alot more comfortable on my scars.

poet123

Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »

Quote:
Originally Posted by poet123
I have taught quite a lot of students with Aspergers and none of them would say they were disabled. They have difficulties, not a disability.

Perhaps they haven't learned yet that there's money to be made out of disability?;)

So Poet saying her students not thinking they were disable & you saying that they had learned to make money out of it like you think I have isn't about me.



Yeah right.

No, I was agreeing with Fridge2 when he said he didnt consider himself disabled.

You do, that is your prerogative, but I personally think that if you think of yourself as disabled it colours your actions and views on life. The kids I deal with have a lot of issues, but most of the time, if asked, they would not see themselves as any different to their classmates.

ETA, I think most people would be depressed having gone through the ordeal you have, I know I would, but I think most of the comments here stemmed from your less than sympathetic response to the OP. As you have said your seeming lack of empathy is probably due to your condition, but perhaps sometimes you would be wiser not to comment if you feel the need to be caustic to to others whilst expecting sympathy yourself.

Loopy_Girl

Deepmistrust wrote: »

Don't be disheartened, the world is a big place. Fortunately it isn't filled will people who demand you think as they do, or see it as they do. There will always be self-righteous folk on the internet (in fact anywhere). Everyone deals with their experiences in different ways. (Pity some people don't realise this).

And maybe some os us would wish that the only 'pressing' health matter had was a dodgy bit skin but then realise that if you have kids you keep going on and don't contemplate leaving them.

I would swap my health issues with BCS any day of the week and I'm sure there are 'others' that would too.

sunnyone

Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »

Of course i'm hoping that they accept responsibility which my solicitor says they do in 99% of these cases but i'm being realistic & know that if it goes to trial it could be another 18months/2 years.

I'm not using a no win no fee solicitor i'm using a reputable solicitor who has loads of experience with clinical negligence.

http://www.pannone.com/solicitors-for-you/clinical-negligence.asp

Ive met my barrister & my chances of winning are demed to be very good 85%.

I honestly don't know what I will do if I lose but i'm trying to not worry about it too much until it happens.

The pyschiatrist says i've suffered a major depressive episode as a direct result of the poor cosmetic result that ive been left with (I only have one breast) ironically the one that I lost didn't even have cancer & they were only supposed to be making it the same size as the one that had cancer.

She thinks I will commit suicide if I don't get it fixed as it impacts my self esteem so much.

I know you don't care but I have 3 children & a family that do care.

My settlement won't effect my benefits either as it will be put in a compensation trust fund for my further treatment.

Apart from taking my kids on a well deserved holiday & buying a new car I won't touch it.

I've alse been told I will only have to pay back my IB if I claimed it as a result of the treatment I had which I didn't.

Once i've paid to fix myself i'll be back art work so I won't be claiming anymore of your hard earned tax apart from DLA.

To come to trial takes much longer than youve been led to believe and its not what YOUR doctors say and not THERES either its what they AGREE on that matters and thats the crux of the matter, you dont have a clue and your solicitors arnt worth the ink you signed with if they havnt gone over every last point with you because youre going to be ripped to pieces by the other side long before trial.

I hope you understand the papers you have signed or in the worst case you could be paying back an insurance policy for the next 10 years.

Your pyschiatrist wants shooting, dont worry the other sides will be so much better and will wring out everything before your op that made you deppressed and they will have your medical notes to do that and evry life event will be brough up and they will hang your deppression on them as much as possible and your late dignosis of autism wont help, thats a life changing thing and happened in the same year as your surgery.

You`ll have to pay back DLA since the surgery is what you claim started your depression and that why you get it, infact its your main claim.

Personel injury trusts are a double edged sword because you cant use the money for what you want, if you invest it even over the past few years theres money to be made and Ive made cash doing that but Ive never wanted to be on means testesd benefits for the rest of my life, you must be because thats the whole point of the trusts, people who are going to work again arnt intrested on ring fencing there means tested benefits.

I have never claimed means tested benefits.

£267 a month for being ill:rotfl: IB, IS, tax credits, LHA, CTB, carers premium and child benefit plus the free prescription, glasses etc.

Just how much is that per month for you being ill then? Certainly not £267.

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Having been through much of what you have I understand you pretty well, which you don't seem to like!

Thats not the case at all.

I know you have been through the same situation & I know that you didn't get depressed.

I just don't understand why you put me down for feeling the way I do just because you didn't.

Deepmistrust

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

I meant flashing the cash as not every problem can be solved even when 'cash is flashed'.

I wasn't deriding for anyone's pleasure...believe me , I have been very restained in what I think.

I'm not asking her to see my point...I'm asking her to clarify the conflicting ones that she gives.

She doesn't sound to me, that she has all the facts as to what can be done herself. Even without asking for needless clarification, I can tell she believes that some surgery can be done, to rectify some of the damage. I don't see the point is clarifying to the exact medical definition of how reconstructed she will be following any private surgery.

And, if a patient is willing to pay then there are far many more riskier or expensive treatments, (here and abroad), than the NHS will offer anyway.

Deepmistrust

poet123 wrote: »

No, I was agreeing with Fridge2 when he said he didnt consider himself disabled.

You do, that is your prerogative, but I personally think that if you think of yourself as disabled it colours your actions and views on life. The kids I deal with have a lot of issues, but most of the time, if asked, they would not see themselves as any different to their classmates.

That is largely the nature of aspergers in children.

They don't actually *realise* they have traits that DO make them 'different'.

Loopy_Girl

Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »

Your so right but the last 3 1/2 years of my life have been taken over by all this & there is hopefully only a few months left.

I just want it to be over so I can get on with my life.

In that case I wish you well and hope that the money does help you to get closure on this even if you can't get surgery.