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Breast_Cancer_Survivor

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

At the risk of being called a cold hearted b1tch again, I really don't think that you should hang all your future mental health on reconstructive surgery. It's rather like someone with a large nose thinking that their life will be wonderful once they've had it fixed which really isn't the case.

My surgery was very successful but I've since seen photos of other reconstructions and I might not have had it done if I'd seen them first. I was fortunate in that I didn't like wearing a prosthesis and this was why I had it done, the fact that it looks quite realistic was a bonus..

I didn't get depressed following my mastectomy (despite being diagnosed 6 months after I married and being told that I shouldn't get pregnant) because I was so happy to be alive and to be married to a wonderful many who loved me whether I had two breasts, one breast or none!

I wish i'd seen photo's tbh.

I was warned about scars & complications but no one ever said you might get an over zealous surgeon.

It's not the fact that ive had a mastectomy that im depressed about as I had it done to save my life.

It was the fact that they took a perfectly healthy breast & completely f**cked it up when there was no need to.

Thats the part that i'm struggling to come to terms with.

sunnyone

Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »

It's took 2 years for the solicitors to make my case, they submitted our claim on 30th May.

The defence get 1 month to decide whether to go to trial or whether to accept liability but we have agreed to give them a 3 month extension.

If it goes to trial it could take another 2 years from 30th September which I do know about.

I know they will get different doctors to access me but no one could say that what they have done to me is acceptable.

I will be returning to work once i'm fit & well which might not be for a couple more years & still have 25 years of working life in me unless they put the retirement age up then i'll have longer.

Access to you?

ROTFL:rotfl:

They will go over your whole life and pick it to shreads to do a few things, to prove if your a good witness, to try and pin the deppression on other life events (and from your own posts, it will stick) and to totally discount what has taken your solicitor 2 years to put together and to be frank if its taken two years to pick enought meat for the case your cooked, time is important because you cant settle to the lasting effects are known but if the effects are as devestating as you claim it would have been with them much sooner with a clause not to finish the case totally until the last verdict was in.

If its true that your agent told you that they would roll over, they are wrong because its not the mid nineties anymore.

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

bestpud wrote: »

I know you think I've been having a go but I'm actually quite concerned as I fear the surgery is not going to transform your life in the way you hope.

In fact, to put it bluntly, I think you are in cloud cuckoo land!

Maybe so but having hope has kept me going.

I know it's never going to be perfect & I don't expect it to be.

I just want a lump roughly the same size & shape as the lump ive got on the left side.

Deepmistrust

Fiver29 wrote: »

Only if you don't get WTC, which means you'd have to work under 16 hrs.

Not true. Anyone on WTC and earns under (used to be about 14k - may have gone up?) is eligible for free prescriptions.

poet123

Deepmistrust wrote: »

ok, (without reading back), I'm assuming you teach autistic/aspergers adults then?

Can I ask what your qualifications in this field are? I'm interested, because I don't have experience of adults with autism or aspergers, and am genuinely interested as to why, if they can be officially disabled with these conditions, why they think they are 'normal'?

Many children diagnosed on the autistic spectrum, clearly have additional needs, some quite severe. So is this different in adults?

I lecture in a College which accepts a high proportion of young adults (and indeed adults across the age range), with many and varied learning difficulties, and physical incapacities.

In addition to the usual teaching quals, (degrees etc) I have various professional qualifications across the full range of SPLD issues, and quals related to mental health issues which I also deal with.

Whilst a lot of the students I deal with are on the spectrum, they are not at the severe end of that spectrum, but nevertheless to an outside observer they are "different", and they acknowledge this, but rarely see it as a disability.

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

sunnyone wrote: »

Access to you?

ROTFL:rotfl:

They will go over your whole life and pick it to shreads to do a few things, to prove if your a good witness, to try and pin the deppression on other life events (and from your own posts, it will stick) and to totally discount what has taken your solicitor 2 years to put together and to be frank if its taken two years to pick enought meat for the case your cooked, time is important because you cant settle to the lasting effects are known but if the effects are as devestating as you claim it would have been with them much sooner with a clause not to finish the case totally until the last verdict was in.

If its true that your agent told you that they would roll over, they are wrong because its not the mid nineties anymore.

For someone that has gone through the same experiences you are not very understanding are you?

My solicitor does this job everyday so I think he would know more than you.

In fact you can't get legal aid unless your chances of winnng are very good.

Deepmistrust

poet123 wrote: »

I lecture in a College which accepts a high proportion of young adults (and indeed adults across the age range), with many and varied learning difficulties, and physical incapacities.

In addition to the usual teaching quals, (degrees etc) I have various professional qualifications across the full range of SPLD issues, and quals related to mental health issues which I also deal with.

Whilst a lot of the students I deal with are on the spectrum, they are not at the severe end of that spectrum, but nevertheless to an outside observer they are "different", and they acknowledge this, but rarely see it as a disability.

Thanks, another reason I asked, is because I've come accross teaching professionals who refuse to accept a student with aspergers is in need of additional support. In some cases I know of, has even resulted in legal action taken by the parents.
I'm always skeptical of anyone that claims that those on the spectrum don't have additional needs, but I appreciate your comments that they don't always see it as a disability, I fullly agree with that. But although that is true, they do see themselves with many differences.

Fiver29

Deepmistrust wrote: »

Not true. Anyone on WTC and earns under (used to be about 14k - may have gone up?) is eligible for free prescriptions.

Well I don't get it and earn don't earn that much.

Oldernotwiser

Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »

I wish i'd seen photo's tbh.

I was warned about scars & complications but no one ever said you might get an over zealous surgeon.

It's not the fact that ive had a mastectomy that im depressed about as I had it done to save my life.

It was the fact that they took a perfectly healthy breast & completely f**cked it up when there was no need to.

Thats the part that i'm struggling to come to terms with.

Actually I'm a bit puzzled - you said you've had a mastectomy because of cancer and then they removed your other, healthy breast by mistake. Then you said you want to have a reconstruction on the right side to match the breast on the left.

Does that mean you've already had one reconstruction?

Deepmistrust

Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »

For someone that has gone through the same experiences you are not very understanding are you?

My solicitor does this job everyday so I think he would know more than you.

In fact you can't get legal aid unless your chances of winnng are very good.

My advice to you Breast Cancer Survivor, is to take these comments of these armchair experts with a pinch of salt. You have met experts, who know your case, and know YOU personally. And their opinions are worth far more than anyone on here, especially those that are attempting to either belittle you, or to demand you shape up like they would.

Good luck with your case, and I hope you find what you are looking for.