lodgers having an affair - advice needed.

celtic_curl

Hi, this isn't exactly to do with money but could affect my income depending on what I do.

I currently have 2 lodgers who are both weekly commuters - they go home to their partners and children at the weekend. We all get on well and socialise, eat together etc.

I've become aware they are having an affair (It's not just a suspicion) - I don't know if they know that I know.

I have always refused to take couples as lodgers as I don't want to feel uncomfortable or like a spare part in my own home. But this is what I am now starting to feel.

I'm not sure how to handle this. I have no wish to make any moral judgement on their behaviour and they are consenting adults. But I would never allow a lodger to have a partner stay every night nor (as previously stated) would I have a couple. I don't like hearing people sneaking around in the night, and I don't like feeling like I'm intruding in the shared areas of the house.

Do I say something? If so what?

Any advice gratefully received.

Thanks.

Emmzi

Just advise you would like them to leave. You do not have to explain why; they will know because the are not daft.

Then get new ones.

zzzLazyDaisy

The fact that they are cheating on their respective spouses is not your concern.

The fact that their behavious is making you feel uncomfortable in your own home IS your concern.

You are under no obligation to continue this arrangement. You can simply give them notice and ask them to leave. They'll probably go off and get a flat together!

Catblue

I agree with Emmzi. Just tell them that you would like them both to leave with no explanation given.

They are extremely unlikely to say anything to you just in case you relay the pertinent information back to their respective partners.

You may wish to leave them each a letter on Monday, formally telling them to leave and give them a date by which they must leave.

In the meantime, get advertising for two new lodgers.

lizzielondon

i can't believe people do that when their partners are at home all weeks looking after their kids!

BitterAndTwisted

Really? In my jaundiced opinion many people would behave just like the lodgers in this thread: the only thing holding a lot of them back is the fear of discovery. These two obviously think their secret is safe. And it possibly is for the time being. It's not the way I'd behave when away from home but we're all different.

OP, just give your two lodgers notice: a week, a month or whatever you think is reasonable. You don't have to give them a reason, it's your home and you can have anyone staying or not as it suits.

Soubrette

Also have two same sex lodgers in future, to cut down on the chance of it happening again

Sou

G_M

Soubrette wrote: »

Also have two same sex lodgers in future, to cut down on the chance of it happening again

Sou

Errr... You haven't heard of gays?

googler

G_M wrote: »

Errr... You haven't heard of gays?

"cut down the chance" not "remove it altogether" ....

Sagz_2

Soubrette wrote: »

Also have two same sex lodgers in future, to cut down on the chance of it happening again

Sou

G_M wrote: »

Errr... You haven't heard of gays?

I think Sou probably has, that's why they said 'cut down on the chances' and not 'stop' it happening again.

celtic_curl

What if I don't want to kick them out? One of them will be leaving in 8 weeks anyway (end of job contract) and I actually get on well with both of them. I also need the income and have found it difficult getting lodgers sometimes. I just can't face living this way for 2 more months and would like to resolve it but not sure how to approach it.

Any ideas other than giving them both notice?