Equitable Relationship

Odette

Troll or luckiest student in the world?

Ah I remember when I had to work on a sex line just to make rent at uni....

pebbles88

RadoJo wrote: »

Just wanted to add that not all women take 45 minutes or anywhere close to that to get ready, but it's unlikely to change, so if it annoys you, it might be worth considering a lower maintenance girl for the long term.

no but i think a higher percentage do take that long rather than dont...

a lower maintenance girl for the long term???? :eek::eek:

she is very young atm, what 19 yr old doesnt take an age to get ready!! i did at that age, and yes if its a special occasion even now it take me that long, sometimes longer as I want to look nice for my DH (plus I have more wrinkles to hide now!! :rotfl:)

OP - you are both very young at the moment, as others have said, enjoy yourselves, it doenst have to cost money, for the outings you do each week we dont even do over the course of 3 months, but we do other things that cost nothing, nice walks, sitting in the garden together, watching dvd's or our fave tv progs etc, hell im chuffed if i get a cuppa in the morning!!:rotfl:.

its certainly worth looking out for restaurant/cinema vouchers, (great section on here at the home page) as if you do still want to go out you will at least be saving at lot of money.

aahh - to be young again eh!! you will both be fine, just talk to each other and be honest eh? she may not even be aware she is ticking you off a bit?

keep us updated, good luck :-)

Wilma33

I have a good job and would never pay to eat out that much! Your dad pays your CC, hers doesn't. If you want to eat out with her that much then you will have to foot the bill! Why not just do free/cheap stuff? Orange Wednesday is cheap. Take your own drinks / popcorn / sweets in your bag.

45 min is really nothing! I couldn't get ready that quickly even if I really tried.

gizmo111

Are you saying she is 45 mins late every time she gets ready otherwise 45 mins is nothing. Takes my 17 year old nearly 90 mins to getready to go to college.

neneromanova

You are joking aren't you!! You're having a go at her for not "paying her way" where as you just wack it on a card and daddy pays for it! I never got an allowance or anything. You don't need to spend £500 a month to get a good credit score. Just get a mobile phone and pay that every month. Job done.

If I was your OH and knew that you thought this way you'd be out the door very quickly. You sound like a snobby brat to me who needs to stop getting your parents to pay for everything. Sorry if that sounds harsh but it's the way you come across.

And don't get me started on the 45mins to get ready moan!

Caroline73_2

Can I ask why you think it is disrespectful for your GF to take 45 minutes to get ready?

You don't seem grateful for the money your parents give you each month. Your parents obviously work hard to give that to you. https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/2494645

heretolearn_2

It would be rude/disrespectful to be ready 45 minutes late so you and other people are kept hanging around for her, but it's none of your business if she wants to spend 45 minutes getting ready and she's ready to go on time (or pretty much). If you are leaving at 7pm, and she's ready at 7pm, why do you care what she did beforehand?

I think it's a hell of a long time to spend getting ready for lunch, but everyone's different. I'm a 30 minute girl, but Mr HrL drives me nuts by taking 2 hours to get ready to go out. God knows why. But as we are both ready to leave on time, I don't say anything about it. If he wants to spend that much time in the bath, it's no skin off my nose!

On the money side, I think that couples go through all sorts of phases financially and you need to be flexible and generous. Sometimes you can go 50/50. Sometimes one person has to support the other. Who knows? In a couple of years time you might be a jobless graduate and she'll be earning and supporting you?

You are very lucky that your parents give you that money. Seeing as it's not even your own money, why do you resent spending it on her? You are spending a lot on socialising though. If anyone has a right to feel miffed, it would be your parents. Perhaps they don't mind what you spend it on and just want yu to have fun while you are young - that's what you are doing so don't complain about it. On the other hand, perhaps they'd like you to use it in a more sensible way and are getting annoyed about seeing you go out all the time. Has this all been triggered by their making comments or something?

Mips

I would love to have these problems only in my relationship

Oldernotwiser

If your parents are giving you £500 per month and letting you live with them for free, I'd think that they would be the people who ought to complain rather than you - after all, most of what you're spending isn't really your money,

Danstar_2

Caroline73 wrote: »

Can I ask why you think it is disrespectful for your GF to take 45 minutes to get ready?

You don't seem grateful for the money your parents give you each month. Your parents obviously work hard to give that to you. https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/2494645

To me it feels disrespectful as though my time is less valuable than hers. I don't mind her getting ready but I'm literally sat there in the chair in be room waiting and watching.

I am grateful to the support I get since I'm at university. I do alot for my parents though, forever doing little favors for my mum or going into work for my dad if A few people are off ill. The post you're referncing to though, my 21st birthday I was completely forgot about.