working children paying keep - how much?

tigtag02

Lillibet wrote: »

Erm.....the clue's in my post....the bit where I said "1/3 housekeeping";)

:T :T

And does the sarcasm come free then.....

RedBern

I think it is good to take something from your offspring - they need to get an idea of the real world and how much things cost. However, if you don't necessarily have a desperate need for a contribution, you could take £x from her and put it into a savings account that she doesn't know about - which could act as a help for a deposit when you are absolutely sick of her living at home when she's 38!

AussieLass

I use to charge 10% of their wages for board. I've always called it board as this is what my mother called it. I never thought of home as a *hostel* nor has my kids.

You also get to enjoy their wage increases as well.

Loopy_Girl

AussieLass wrote: »

You also get to enjoy their wage increases as well.

I never used to tell my Dad I got a wage increase - and I got one every year!!!!!:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

I can't remember quite what got taken off me but I do agree with another poster that it is useful training for the big wide world. I used to moan when I paid it but when I was 19 and moved out and got a mortgage I had a very teensy idea of having to work and hand money over for boring things like mortgage and bills!!!:eek:

I am 33 now and sometimes wished I had stayed with the old dears than longer than 19 and thinking I knew it all!!!!;)

sarahlouise210

whitewing wrote: »

Can't remember what the tax-free limit for rentaroom is but you may want to check that out.

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Rent a room will not apply as it is the OP`s own daughter!!!;)

oystercatcher

I'm a bit different. As we don't actually need money from my 18 year old son and he's desperate to move out (to buy not rent). I worked out the going rate for a room in a shared house added on a food budget and told him he had to put that amount into a savings account towards a deposit on a house. He's actually saving more than I said and has a very nice deposit builidng up. We're just waiting for house prices to drop a bit more and he should be in clover...... then he'll really know about paying bills!

I wouldn't have done this if I thought he'd be spending money like water though , it depends on the person.

Oystercatcher

Marker_2

I find the whole charging your children and spending on yourself crazy. The only thing I think people can argue on charging their kids for is an increase in council tax, but then you should of thought of that before you had kids!!!!

I will charge my child rent, but I would put that straight into savings for her to buy a house or car in the future. I would never expect her to actually contribute to my mortgage or my bills. I find it quite similar to expecting handouts from the government to raise your own children. Rant over!

I would, depending on salary, charge around £200, if they earn more than £800 a month I would increase!

Pink_Princess_1

"Originally Posted by Lillibet
The rule of thumb most posters on here seem to go with is 1/3 of take home pay.
The idea is
1/3 housekeeping
1/3 savings
1/3 to spend.

By the way, I would never ever dream of calling it board or digs, it is your childs home, where they were raised & are loved, not somewhere they treat like a temporary hostel! (I hope). If you call it "board" (or worse) then I think you are discouraging them from ahving any respect for your home or rules. Sorry, I know you didn't ask for this & I may be strepping over the cyber line, but I just had to say something."

All 3 of us paid "board" of 1/3 our wages years ago and it didn't make me or any siblings less respectful of our parents property
I've got to ask - What's 'Worse' than the word board????lol

Gingham_Ribbon

Marker wrote: »

I find the whole charging your children and spending on yourself crazy. The only thing I think people can argue on charging their kids for is an increase in council tax, but then you should of thought of that before you had kids!!!!

I will charge my child rent, but I would put that straight into savings for her to buy a house or car in the future. I would never expect her to actually contribute to my mortgage or my bills. I find it quite similar to expecting handouts from the government to raise your own children. Rant over!

I would, depending on salary, charge around £200, if they earn more than £800 a month I would increase!

You may be happy not to receive family allowance or board from your children, but most of us are very glad for any extra coming into the household.

It's great if parents can afford to let their adult children who are earning a wage live at home without contributing to bills, but the reality is that most families need everyone to contribute once they are earning and it's useful for teenagers to understand how much life in the real world actually costs.

If we are wealthy enough when our kids are earning, I'll save their board money for them. Otherwise, they'll be expected to contribute to the running of the home they live in, just like they would have to anywhere else and just like the other adults in the home.

Personally, I'll probably take 2/3s from them - the first third for the household spends and the second to save for them. That leaves a LOT of spending money, so I'd expect them to manage their short term savings themselves so they can pay for holidays, clothes etc out of it.

laurajayne

I got my first full time job at 17 - I was an apprentice on £8000, so about £600 a month. I think my parents took about £65 from me a month, as I had a loan on a moped which was another £70, petrol (work was 23 miles away - at 30mph all the way....oh what fun ), tax, insurance and weekly train fare to college in London.

As I changed jobs, and started to earn more, my housekeeping went up. It stuck at £165 for ages, until I arranged with my mother to pay £200, due to the cost of living rises. I also work from home, so pay my dad £25 to contribute to the extra power thats used from someone always being at home.

I know I live quite cheaply (and actually, mum won't take any more off me!), my washing is done for me, however I am 'cheffie', which means I cook everyones meals every day from scratch (mostly lol), sort out menu plans and assist with shopping. I also quite regularly pop along to Morrisons for odds and ends, which I never ask for any money for...probably around £30-50 a month. So in total I pay about £250/£275 a month.

Maybe that's also something to concider - a slight reduction in h/k if she regularly takes on a chore as a role - it might not be a popular suggestion, but I feel is also one that helps with learning how to deal in the outside world....