need fathers permission to change childs surname?

xxChellexx

If my son had used the double barrell name from birth I could understand...but I havn't used it since he was 1. I was young when i had my son and didn't really want fathers name on there but felt pressured (hence the reason I double barrelled the surname), I really feel that my son won't mind when he realises and if he does I'll explain to him and allow him to make his own mind up- I will never stop him from finding his real father but I will go ahead and drop his part of the surname, which I've basically done already- but not legally. I appreciate your comments- but each to their own and I don't agree with what your saying! Thanks again to those who offered advice!

poppyscorner

Just to add my now 7 and a half yr old son has badgered me for a year and a half to change his name to my maiden name, I have changed mine via deed poll from my married name (his dad's name) he always says he is my name and he wouldn't hear of having dad's name. He has contact with dad every other week and dad refused to allow him to change it ! exH also has a DD and she was allowed to change her name via deed poll but DS isn't ! I don't really mind either way but had long talks with DS and his school etc about the matter I told him that he could be "known as" my name but he can't be it until he's 18 or dad agrees. My kids and their father have a poor relationship sadly and DS does not include him in his family I think he sees him as more of an extension to the family but he wanted the same name as me and my parents sister and nephew because were his family.

DS know's i'm remarrying next year and I told him he can either keep my maiden name or revert to dads name he still wants to have my name but wants me to keep it too which is what i'll be doing when we're married. It would have been simpler if he kept dads name tbh and yes I am the adult in our relationship and at first I thought it was a passing phase but after putting him off all that time and adding to that the fact that I have brought him up to be a strong willed individual he got his way and from sept this year is now known as my name in school etc nothing legal about it though and he could change back if he so wished but I did tell him he can't chop and change all the time he could see how it felt to use my name and either keep it or go back but he knows he cant be one for one week and one the next.

CSA_Help

bdt1 wrote: »

I changed my 2 sons surnames without their father's permission, did it through solicitor, so all legal etc. I didn't know where their father was/is living so no way of contacting him to ask for permission, so solicitor went ahead with it on those grounds.

Strangely enough several years later when CSA wrote to him, he quizzed them about the children's surname change, he challenged it with CSA, and for CSA purposes only they are called by their original surname - he wasn't bothered enough to get in touch with them

So, yes you can do it

Can anyone clarify this as my assesments have always been to the childs new Surname. I had no PR

Debicj

busiscoming2 wrote: »

You do need fathers permission along with a deed poll to change names on passport, bank accounts and for school exams etc but you can just 'use' another name for general life.

I did this with my kids, but the NRP went to court and I had to stop doing this. I believe this was unusual and depends on the judge. I think the one I got was having a bad day

Debicj

lizzielondon wrote: »

as i understand it from the experience of a relative recently, the pwc can change the surname of the child as long as they do not take the other parent's name out WITHOUT PERMISSION i.e. my relative's ex wife got remarried and changed her daughter's name to a double barreled surname- he was told by a solicitor as long as they didn't take his name out there was nothing he could do about it

I wanted to do this but my ex went to court and I was ordered not to.

ford_prefect_3

far2812 wrote: »

No we weren't married but he has got a residence order and PR. I have just found out that he has registered her at her school with the name he has given her - not her legal name! Anything I can do?

This is just another thing he is doing to make and change things how he pleases without thinking about anyone else!

If he has a residency order he cant use or change the name, its one of the anomolies of RO's.

Check the wording on the bottom of the order it will have some standard text on it about that.