**** I'm pregnant

xmaslolly76

Tia if you come to sell that lovely dress she has on in the picture let me know ;-)

whitewing

If someone, male or female, has sex, then they deal with the consequences. I learnt the hard way and was never forgiven by the dad for deciding to keep the baby before we had even discussed it. So, sorry but I would get rid of the dad before a baby. I am not anti-abortion, but I do find it difficult to think of a situation where I wouldn't have the baby. That said, I have gone without penetrative sex - for an unbearably long time, lol - rather than risk it with someone else who wouldn't stick around.

ceridwen

pelirocco wrote: »

You see there's your problem , 'it' isn't an 'IT' to many people . You harp on alot about what is good for the planet , and workers /peoples rights , but at the end of the day you are pretty clueless on most things you post

Having had a quick scan of other posts by you - I don't think I will worry myself too much about that comment by you....:rotfl:

tiamai_d

xmaslolly76 wrote: »

Tia if you come to sell that lovely dress she has on in the picture let me know ;-)

Ah sorry, but SugarSpuns little one is now the proud owner of that one. But possibly may have outgrown it now

LilMissEmmylou

OP, I am so glad that you made the decision to keep the baby. I fell pregnant when I was doing my degree, so although babies are not cheap, if i could afford my daughter while being a full time degree student... then anyone can afford one. Good luck and I wish you a happy and healthy pregnancy x

Evansangel

OP, congrats! I have been following this waiting for your reply

Only just looked through the other posts on here though

I agree, my OH always said he saw the baby as a part of me, now she's born he adores her.
He also felt like a knob talking to bump lol.

Person_one

jdturk wrote: »

It is interesting because if it was the other way around and the bloke was saying that his missus was pregnant and was saying she was going to have an abortion you would all be going 'tough, if she wants it you have no choice in this matter'

And whilst this may be correct it then begs the question should either party have the right to opt out of being a parent? Should either party have the right to say, I do not want this kid so I should be absolved of any responsibility if you go ahead with the pregnancy.

I think yes personally, if it is an accidental pregnancy and either party decides they do not want it they should have the right not to (and the other party should not recieve extra support from the government)as they chose not to have the baby

I've said this before in another thread, but pregnancy is one of the few areas where no matter how much we might want it there will never be true equality between the sexes.

Both men and women have sex knowing that pregnancy is a possible consequence, even if you are as careful as possible.

For a woman, an unplanned pregnancy means a decision about whether to become a parent or not, and some physical effects on her body and hormones either way. For a man it means he has to accept the woman's decision and live with it as best he can. He may have to decide whether to be an involved father or just hand over cash each month. They will both have to live with any effect on their relationship.

tabskitten

Does it not worry anyone else that the fathers reaction was to ''get rid'' and the mothers ''!!!! i'm pregnant''?!?!

confusedandemotional

Wannaberich1 I am glad that you have made a firm decision.

IME it is very easy in this situation when faced with the news to think with your head and not your heart.

I wish you all the very best. x

nobodyspecial

Wannerberich, the very best of luck to you. Only you can decide what's best for your circumstances. Some people are incapable of going beyond the "abort, abort, abort" cry. They don't see beyond their own selfish needs and desires, but cloak it in concern for the planet. Well there's a very easy way for them to take some of the pressure off lol Pity is, you'll never see them obliging, their life is sooooooo much more valuable than any potential baby ( really need the roll-eye smilie) Hope DH comes round, but it's intolerable of anyone to try and coerce you into something which conflicts with your own moral compass. as others have said, if he didn't want the possibility of a baby, keep it in his trousers, or get sterilised. Simples