****Fantastic Friday 14th Daily Chat - feel the weekend approaching :) ***

katsu

I am so bored of looking at my report but thanks to the sterling work of Luc (to whom I owe a huge thanks) and an old colleague of mine who read chunks in airports between flights, I just need to merge their feedback, check my previous deletions then format and go to print. This is so nearly over *insert hopeful smilie*

Oh yeah, and I have work to do

redsquirrel80

I agree with Gonzo, does he actually want to do it? I was very bright as a kid (not sure what happened as I got older :rotfl:) and I went to a few things for 'gifted' children - mostly hated them as a lot of the other kids were really obnoxious.. not to mention some of the parents! :eek:

Bunnyinthelights

At my children's school, we get letters sent home to ask if we think our children are G&T. I have said that I think my DD is G&T in arts and DS has been sent home with level 2 books now even though still in reception...not been 'picked' for anything though

schoolrunmum

I think he would like to be asked at least occasionally Squizz,instead of just ignored even though he is performing pretty well. It's hardly an incentive to try harder is it? I am just being oversensitive (PMT!) but it annoys me the way she emails (with a pretence of asking me if I know anything about it) when I know it's just a chance for her to show off her wonder child again...



And maybe I am just a teensy bit jealous that her child is a rising star and mine is just a plodder (in the schools eyes..)

redsquirrel80

It is a bit strange that they haven't asked at all SRM - I wonder if the other kid is pushier/ louder about how clever she is - like her parents!

schoolrunmum

Don't get me wrong Squizz,she's a nice kid-personable,confident,chatty.Joins is all sorts of after school clubs like drama,football etc.....my DS in contrast is shy,and would cast his eyes down rather than catch the heads' eye and chat ! He has his own hobbies at home therefore never takes up teachers suggestions of joining in after school stuff,even though I encourage him to. i think he just gets overlooked in favour of more "upfront" kids.....and I don't know why I should care,or quite why it annoys me so!!

redsquirrel80

schoolrunmum wrote: »

Don't get me wrong Squizz,she's a nice kid-personable,confident,chatty.Joins is all sorts of after school clubs like drama,football etc.....my DS in contrast is shy,and would cast his eyes down rather than catch the heads' eye and chat ! He has his own hobbies at home therefore never takes up teachers suggestions of joining in after school stuff,even though I encourage him to. i think he just gets overlooked in favour of more "upfront" kids.....and I don't know why I should care,or quite why it annoys me so!!

I guess because you don't want him to miss out on anything that might be good for him or he might enjoy - cos you're a good mum!

littlemisschocolate

SRM - you have every right to feel the way you feel, it's your maternal instincts kicking in. It's not right for your 'friend' to email you about it, as she probably knows full well that your DS has been chosen.

The way I look at it is, you should never push kids into doing something that they don't want to do. I've seen it with many of my friends who were pushed into doing all sorts of after school activities that they didn't want to do and told they were G&T all the time by their parents etc and have now discovered they're not as 'brilliant' as they thought and have had many a hard knocks!

I was a very shy kid adn found my solice in reading and doing arts and crafts. And whilst I'm not in your face like my old school friends, I feel that I'm a much more balanced indivdual who takes things on the chin and isn't a drama queen!

I've not got kids, so please forgive my ramblings! At the end of the day what's important is that your son is happy, healthy and well rounded!

Red - I'm glad it's not just me that thought G&T was gin and tonic!

Gonzo - my DR is rather scrummy and I had a horrid feeling that my blood pressue would go through the roof! Enjoy your meal out with your wife.

Katsu - yeah on the end being in sight!

Pooky

Morning all

LMC - No - not made an appointment - DD2 has the same thing now too so it must just be a viral thing - not going to waste the Dr's time over that - it will clear up

SRM - If the gifted and talented thing bothers you that much then talk to the school about it, I'm sure they'd welcome some parental feedback on those who haven't been chosen. As for the friend, well we're all guilty of doing the boasting thing now and then, it's only natural to want to let people know of good news.

And talking of kids - DD1 has suddenly hit the "oh my god I've got GCSE's in less than a month" panic...I think some serious revision is in order over the weekend.....GCSE Physics anyone?

Very hungry today and would like to snaffle lots of savoury yummies from the bakers...I shall resist.

mrsinvisible

Gosh SRM how lucky your son is NOT to be chosen. When my elder son was 7 he was assessed by ed.psych. at schools request as he was so far ahead of his peers. report categorised him as gifted, and from then on the school was never off his back, to represent them in all g&t events all inter school events and even intercounty at one stage.
He has since told me how much he hated it and how his peers tormented him for being a swot (which he wasn't) and teachers pet etc. It stopped him from being 'one of the lads' at times and took him into the company of older children where, emotionally at least ,he was out of his depth.
As soon as we realised what was happening we put a stop to it, but by then some damage had been done.