Happy Hump Day everyone! - Wed 12th May Daily Chat thread

elfen

It wsn't that hard, just told him and I burst into tears. I feel like such a mess - I'm more crying for me hurting him than for me feeling anything, I feel terrible for it

pepe2008

Theres a line in Kirsty McColls ( or is it Billy Braggs ) 'I Dont Want To Rule the World' which goes 'I dont feel bad about letting you go, I just feel bad about letting you know'.

elfen

Am just looking through things, and what I might need to do.

Checked the benefits advisor, apparently I am entitled to some IS and LHA (cos of receiving DLA I'd guess) so that makes things a bit easier. I've still got money in my savings for deposit and such, and Pint said he'd help me move, so I'd only need to pay petrol. And looking at the pics of the flat I want, it's part furnished which makes it a bit cheaper. May still need to get an O/D extension just in case.

Ames

Pooky wrote: »

Sounds like a lot of things to weigh up there Sal - how about doing the TA thing until your life settles down a bit - would still be fantastic experience.

Ames - Good luck with your support worker...what are you going to see at the theatre?

Had a sad call from a good friend earlier whos Mum's just about to pass away, my other good friends Dad was told last week his cancer is terminal.....what with all we've got going on here too, I sometimes wonder why I wanted to be a grown up....childhood was so much nicer.

I'm going to see the Count of Monte Cristo, should be a bit more uplifting than Death of a Salesman which I saw on Monday.

I'm so sorry about your friends. I found out on Monday that a friend of mine has been told by the ocologist that things are worse than they thought and the outcome doesn't look good. I thought she was getting over it and moving on though.

elfen wrote: »

But I feel like a bad person.

I felt like that when I finished with ex last year, but it was for the best for both of us. It's great that Pint's being so supportive.

elfen

Yeah, I don't deserve him even as a friend.

And when the dentist took my tooth out, she caught the back of my gum and ripped the front open....ouchkabibble

elfen

Gonna go and get some ciggies, then sort out my budget. If I get the IS they say I can, and even if I don't get full LHA, I think I can afford this.

ZTD

elfen wrote: »

i dont love him and he needs someone who does

And how long have you not loved him?

hypno06

elfen wrote: »

Ok, question.

If you don't love someone anymore, is it better to stay with them and lie to stop them hurting, or leave and let them know what the truth is?

My husband stopped loving me a while back......it took him over a year to finally say it and to leave me.

I would rather he had admitted it earlier, and left then.....as it is, I have a year of lies, mistrust, and knocked back confidence to deal with.

As someone who has been on the receiving end of it, I would say don't drag it out - it doesn't gain anything.

elfen

Z, I think I've known it for a while but refused to accept it. It's been since the last big row that I've actually hated to be around him and felt like I was being suffocated.
hypno - I've managed to tell him I don't want to be with him (so he's now an ex) but he has agreed to help me move.

ETA: Am gonna go and start some packing....wishful thinking

sallyx

Elfen you have sooo done the right thing. I wish me and Ex had been more honest and open. I wished Id left when I realised I didn't love him anymore instead of staying for another 3 years!

It might be painful at the moment and he might be hurting but he will thank you for it in the longrun