Memorygirls - Make Do and Mend

hypno06

You give your love unconditionally to your boys, MG, and the universe will therefore repay you accordingly.

Nice challenge from Mr Big tonight

hypno06

OliveOyl wrote: »

We have 2 spare bedrooms

And a large wooden hippo too. So it's just the flights.
But can you bring some football kits in your luggage?

:kisses3:

What a lovely offer.

Kittikins

oh MG and DS, I feel so very, very much for you, my heart is breaking for him and you too. Hope the Universe will send you plenty of work to send you all to SA first class all the way soon. I hope a good night's sleep will do him good and you too.

(I'm in a slightly similar situation, and dread the day when DD asks why her dad beggared off when she was 4 months old only bothers to see her 2 or 3x a year for about 2 hours a time and pays a pittance that doesn't even cover the cost of the childminder. So far she's never asked, but then she is only 5......)

clairewop

I'm off to bed, been a busy day today, although I am all up to date with the earring orders, so chuffed with that, and i've sold more on the website tonight

gonna take painkillers in a minute and hopefully a good nights sleep my earache will be gone, otherwise I think it will be a trip to the drs.

MG hope your ds feels better in the morning poor love

Ellidee

Mg I get airmiles with my Tesco clubcard vouchers and would love to 'donate' some to you for your SA trip . Not sure how to go about it but it there must be a way.

Cheery_Daff

Oh MG, how sad for your DS No wise words, what a lovely offer from OliveOyl though You can do it (even biting your lip because you shouldn't *have* to)

I must say, I was brought up by just my mum, and one of the things I most value is that she never bad mouthed my dad at all, just didn't say anything at all, and let us make up our own mind - which we did Still in touch with him, still 'mates', just don't think of him as 'dad' really. But I very much appreciate my mum never sounding off. And it sounds like you do the same. Well done you :T Be strong if you can, and if not come and have a good cry xxx

Willow78_2

MG sending hugs for you and DS1. (I went through something similar with my own father). Your DS is lucky to have such a loving, positive and inspiring mum. Take care, I hope things seem brighter for you both in the morning. x

Tregemred

Memory_Girl wrote: »

DS1 had a huge meltdown on the way home. Sobbing his heart out that his Dad doesn't keep in touch - ds2 called over from his car seat "***** don't worry!!!"

My heart is now officially broken for him. :(I've just sat for an hour cuddling him on the sofa, explaining that it was nothing he had done (he was only 6 months old when his Dad decided he'd had enough and got on a plane to SA). That Mum was trying her best to take him out to spend time with the ther half of his family (I've taken him out 3 times in 9 years, his Dad as never made a trip to see him) -

How can I explain to a young 10 year old that his father simply can't be bothered keeping in touch with him and can't be bothered contributing to his upbringing (nope - not a penny since he went) - without coming off as a screaming hariden?

The thing is I would love to take him out there again to see his family - but having just been credit crunched,saved the house from being repossesed and fighting the good fight to get back to work I am terrified of making him a promise I might not be able to deliver on.

Grumble over - time for a stiff drink, an early night and come out all guns blazing in the morning.

Also will price flights to SA and cost of renting accomodation for a few weeks next summer. In for a penny and all that -

....................come on then universe ..............show me how to make my lad happy again.

Memorygirl

MG

It must have been quite harrowing. I'm with Hypno, you're an excellent Mum and are well on the way to providing your boys with the very best. I'm sure that will include many holidays, including but not only to SA.

Positive vibes,

TGR

Bitsy_Beans

I really feel for your DS1. I know given the amazing things you have already done that you'll find a way to take him back to see his family. Might not be next year but you'll do it at some point. Good for you for biting your lip about his dad - he doesn't deserve it but your son does. He'll make up his own mind about his dad in his own time. Meanwhile lots of cuddles and reassurances when needed xx

Karmacat

How absolutely heartbreaking for you and your DS, MG... but you really sound like you know what you're doing, and how to cope with it, you have my complete admiration for that. And do check out Olive's offer!