Memorygirls - Make Do and Mend

macgirl

So sorry to hear your news Claire Hugs to you xxx

MatyMoo

psychopathbabble wrote: »

Thanks Maty.... I've just been trying to hunt down the blog, and I'll definitely be reading the whole thread through when I have time!

Well worth the read IMHO

Blog address: Click on Memory Girls name and look for homepage

psychopathbabble

Gah, Memory Girl your inbox is full. How do I go about buying your book? I have less than 4 weeks to pass an exam x

teapot2

lucielle wrote: »

Well I've dusted myself and given myself a through talking to. Had to go into the town today. Only had 2 sproglets with me so splashed out on some picnic type things and took them to the beach. I was watching them, letting the waves chase them back up the beach thinking that looks fun. Then had a lightbulb moment, thought sod it and whipped my shoes and socks off and joined in screeching like a banshee when I got caught.
L

Hi Lucielle,

I read your post from yesterday and wanted to reply without sounding crass or twee but was a bit tired so left it until tonight. then I saw your post from today! What I had wanted to say was along the lines of, if you wanted to do the task could you create the childhood you would have wanted in your head or just try things out now to see what you enjoy? Then I see that you did that which sounds wonderful . Bet your wee ones enjoyed it too whilst wondering what was going on? Maybe do a bit more of that if it feels right and just be gentle with yourself. Not all the tasks will be 'right' or easy for everyone.

Cheery_Daff

(((((hugs to clairewop)))))))) how sad for you all

Lucille, how lovely that you were able to take off your shoes and splash in the sea with your children :T I remember absolutely loving it as a child when my mum joined in running into the sea Now she regularly sends me text messages when she's off paddling without me :rotfl:

Tescodealqueen

Well my mind has been full of all your wonderful ideas and I woke at 4.30 am and could not get back to sleep. So I have productively read the rest of your diary and am finally up to date. Not heard back from you MG about the books so presume you are busy with the challenges. Will start on the blog now, Bought a lovely note book years ago ( I love beautiful stationery - was always excited about a new school year because of new books and pencil cases ) Was saving it for a special occasion and I do believe this is the moment. Will use my lovely Sakura gel pens and my beautiful note book and the challenges will be a pleasure:j And I will be going out to buy bubbles and a copy of the Faraway tree........Thank you for bringing back wonderful memories

hypno06

just a note to lucielle and anyone else who is finding the "childhood" challenges difficult.....

......although it is pants reminding yourselves of yukky times of old, it is actually very beneficial to release them and to deal with them in the present, in order that you can focus on the good things you have, both now and in the future.

So, emotional, difficult to face, with the initial "I don't want to go back there" feelings, are (of course) not necessarily what we would choose to do of an evening or a weekend, but as lucielle has shown above it doesn't necessarily mean that you are "stuck" there, you have plenty more in your live, past present and future, that will give you joy as you think of it.

So, embrace the emotion, let tears flow, let yourself get angry about it, and then focus on the good things that you have and the appreciation of those things.

Letting things "go" is hard, but when you are genuinely positive about your future, letting things go is even more beneficial.

This covers all sorts of things - bad memories, letting go of old relationships, dealing with grief after losing a loved one, there is no standard, no rules, and no denying that it is tough, but also no denying that it is very liberating and empowering when you do it in the right way.

xx

hypno06

I hope you don't mind. I have just posted this on my own diary, and would be really grateful for some positive thinking from everyone so that I can move into the house that will allow me to start my "new" life.....

Right, time to "open up" a bit. As you know, I have kept more than I would like away from this diary, for obvious reasons, but little by little, I can say more.

So, today I can share with you (if you didn't already guess) the reason for my doing all this work to the house, and that is because it is on the market.

I am under no pressure to sell as part of the divorce, but I do feel it is the right thing to do for lots of reasons.

Property !!!!!! is out of the window - I have a smaller budget, and I want to use this to take the financial pressure off by reducing my mortgage. Also I have promised DS that we will stay in the village while he is at school.

I am therefore looking at a very different house move than the one I had previously dreamed of, but that doesn't mean that it is less beneficial, or less what I desire.

I have found two houses - both the same design, one a brand new build, not yet finished, one that has been lived in for 18 months or so. I won't post up details on here, and I am sure you will understand why, but needless to say, they are very different to houses I was posting before, but they are lovely and I can very definitely see myself living there. P has seen them too and agrees that they are perfect.

I put this house on the market last month, and have had a few viewings with a couple of offers, but nothing that was tempting enough or practical enough for me to accept.......yet.

So, I would like you all, please, to send me positive thoughts for selling this house and moving to somewhere which will enable me to lead a simpler life! It will be a big part of my "moving on" process, and is a step I am ready to take, and which I am looking forward to. The children are on board, fully, and very excited about the prospect as although it is a smaller house we are looking at, they will get much bigger bedrooms!

So, if the universe could please send me a lovely purchaser, within the next 30 days, I would be very grateful.

Thanks xx

I am focusing on this as part of the challenges, so if anyone has any ideas that I should be incorporating, I would be grateful, although I do feel very positive about the whole thing.

Karmacat

nattypants wrote: »

KM - I think you may be a wee bit like me....I have bursts of enthusiasm about wanting an amazing, ordered, serene, grab-it-by-the-balls life...however sometimes (aka often) I let "stuff" supercede the super-me:o

I came across this, which may help....

To create your tomorrow, go over your day when you are in bed tonight just before you fall asleep, and feel gratitude for the good moments. If there was something you wanted to happen differently, replay it in your mind the way you wanted it to go. As you fall asleep, say, "I will sleep deeply and wake up full of energy. Tomorrow is going to be the most beautiful day of my life."

NPX

Nattypants, this is brilliant - I often review the day with gratefulness when I go to bed, but the something-happening-differently is inspiring,and I'll definitely add that to what I already do, thank you!

clairewop wrote: »

Well I'm done for the day now, Dh has nearly finished the kitchen a few bits to do tomorrow and its done,

I have started de cluttering the living/dining room ready for redecorating, but had enough now.

had a very upsetting phone call, a good friend of mine who I did craft fairs with has died this afternoon, so i'm a bit shell shocked at the moment and the de cluttering can wait

Claire, I'm so sorry to hear this. You sound like you're struggling anyway, truth be told, and this shock on top is awful. Take care of yourself, don't feel you have to rush to "keep up" with the challenges.


Hypno - I've responded to your positivity request on your own thread. Just adding another layer here xxx

Happytogetdebtfree

Morning hypno, happy to put some positive focus into your house sale so you need to be realistic on an offer your looking for very specific and keep it in mind of been offered to you in the next 30 days. Also the two houses you have looked at pick a definate one pin it up focus in moving into it on a reasonable date I don't know how sales work chains etc so it would have to maybe fit with that or not but the main thing is declare the the universe "The next couple who view this house in the next 30 days will offer me £££ and I will accept. Thank you universe" believe it and trust in the universe and we will send all good thoughts your way :-). Hth xx