Wedding Gift List - hostility

bubbles0169

alias i dont know it could be as its under £30, matalan did used to be middle aged tat but its quite fashionable and reasonably priced now its worth a look

you cant go by thread count for quality unless it 100% ELS you wont know the quality until its bought and tested and even then you might not like it as everyones skin is different

dizziblonde

I personally don't like gift lists, or blatant requests for cash - had an invite to a wedding last year that basically said "because the economy's going down the pan, we don't trust the store you buy vouchers from might not go bust so we'd like cash only" - it really really got my hackles up in the way it was worded and I've still not quite gone back to viewing that family member in the same light again (she became a bit of a bridezilla at the time).

We didn't request anything - I just don't personally like doing it - I knew if we didn't, we'd end up with vouchers and money anyway, but I wanted it to be a voluntary gesture, not one born in response to us asking for anything. We used the mix of money and vouchers to buy the remaining bits we wanted to move our house from functional to comfortable. Some people didn't give us anything monetary - they gave things in time - like someone made the wedding cake, someone did the photos, someone provided the wedding car... our best man for some reason gave us a Nodding Nessie in a gift box holding a cheque and box of chocolates... the thought that went into that really made us smile (and Nessie now lives in my car because she's cooler than a silly Churchill dog).

We were fully prepared for the possibility of ending up with three toasters - we'd have put two away for when number one conked out... if we ended up with 15 casserole dishes... well with the rate we've broken them recently - things would get used. I just don't like making a list and asking for stuff - it smacks a bit of being seven and writing my letter to Santa Claus to be honest.

Evansangel

I always have wondered where people get the idea that you will recieve 7 toasters for your wedding gift.

If i saw an invite with no gift list i wouldnt instantly think "I know, i shall buy them a toaster!" :rotfl:

Especially seeing as toasters are so cheap, im sure that most households have one

We haven't put a gift list with our invites. Mainly because i dont know what to put, and also i dont like alot of the stuff in Debenhams/Argos/etc.
I already have everything we need for our house. I only want new better stuff for when i eventually buy my own house

But when people have asked i said we're getting vouchers from other people so they can do that if they'd like to.

hayleythedaisy

I know someone who received 12 identical tesco value toasters. All beautifully wrapped. ;-)

faerie_girl

We aren't having a gift lift nor asking for money. We both feel rude asking asking for anything (though if someone asked me for money or provided a list I wouldn't feel they were rude). TBH we hadn't even thought about gifts until my one of my Grandparents asked what we would like. I told him we'd have a think about it, I think we'll be asking for a bird table as he is an avid ornithologist and it would be nice to encourage a bit more wildlife into the garden.
My other Grandparents said they would buy us a wedding cake but we are just getting a celebration cake from Tesco so they want to give us money instead.

I'd be happy without people giving us gifts or money. We have been living together for over 2 years and have a son so almost have everything we need. We are only inviting 14 people 3 of which I don't think will turn up and 2 are my younger brother and sister so won't be expecting anything off of them.

Of course money is always nice but it will probably end up being spent on our son.

I have a collegue who is getting married the month after me and has said she only wants money. This is because her 'wedding is costing a lot so I want to get something back out of it' !!

Phyre_Faerie

We asked for cash and were astounded by the generosity of our guests.
It sure feels nice to be loved
A couple of guests had even bought funky cards that you could put cash into.
Our parents respectively bought the cake and the wedding night hotel. Everything was cool

anderson8

were asking for cash towards our honeymoon.
i dont feel guilty for asking.
were doing a poem, which may be cheesy, though we certainly dont expect people to give us gifts but rather than recieve multiples of things we would like a great honeymoon.

Birdie85

faerie_girl wrote: »

I have a collegue who is getting married the month after me and has said she only wants money. This is because her 'wedding is costing a lot so I want to get something back out of it' !!

:eek: That's disgusting! See, that's what I don't really like about giving cash; fair enough if it is for big things in the home but not to pay for the wedding or honeymoon. If you can't afford it, don't do it anyway and expect your guests to pay for it! We're only having a honeymoon if we can afford it, we may get holiday vouchers or $'s from friends and family to go towards it but we don't expect anything and we won't ask for it specifically.

On our invites I have put that we don't expect gifts and we don't want anyone using up their luggage allowance by cramming a toaster into their suitcase!

SDH

We haven't got a clue what to do about gifts.

We already live together, so have toaster, crockery etc. Plus I don't like the idea of giving my friends/family a list of gift 'requests'.

We are going on a honeymoon the day after the wedding in September - but it has to be paid for in advance (July I think) and most of it is all-inclusive.

We don't have anything specific we would like cash for - and I couldn't ask for cash whislt something specific we are saving towards.

I kinda of like the idea of surprises, however I would hate to end up with 25 silver photo frames.

No idea what to do................

anderson8

were not booking our honeymoon until after the wedding so are not "booking it unless we can afford it"
if noone gives us anything then thats fine, i just want a nice day with my loved ones around.
but if people insist on giving something then we'd prefer a contribution to a honeymoons than 10 sets of towels.

and as my mum is being inundated with calls with people asking what we want, were putting the honeymoon contribution poems, so they know.