I'm having a DFW baby!!

moonlightpjs

Snaggles wrote: »

Lol weller.....I'll call and pick you up on the way to the hospital I think! (In fact we could have a DFW meet in the delivery suite - I can't think of a better group of people to help me through it all!)

How are you doing? You sound much brighter. Hope you're feeling okay too xx

I'm fine thank you but am worried about you xx

Snaggles

weller711 wrote: »

I'm fine thank you but am worried about you xx

I'm getting more and more okay by the minute thanks to you lovely people.

Huge hugs to you all xxx :A

kathfisch

Snaggles wrote: »

Yes, I think I AM panicking because I'm remembering all the negative things, and not the positives...

Which is totally natural, you want to avoid the problems and upset that you had last time. Just don't forget you'll also end up with all the lovely bits, same as last time

Snaggles wrote: »

...and also because all I've heard on the news all day is how midwife shortages etc are putting women at risk....NOT what you want to hear when you're about to have a baby!

I know, that is scary. Its beyond belief really that it could get to the stage it seems to be in, makes me wish I could just be qualified overnight rather than it being at least 4 years from now :mad: I don't know what i'm imagining... a one woman crusade to help all the pregnant mothers out there?! :rotfl:

Just remember though that the media always report the worst view of things to get people interested, and hopefully to get enough people worried so that something's done about it. I really hope that on a day-to-day basis there's no danger to anyone, midwifes are in the profession to be caring and I know they'll do everything they possibly can for you.

Snaggles wrote: »

Unfortunately hubby isn't very good at being forceful, he's a bit like me and gets intimidated and tongue tied too easily. But he says he will make sure he stands up for me more this time, and there's no way he will go home and leave me on my own this time (he realises he shouldn't have done last time, but you live and learn, and he thought I was being looked after by the midwife, so he would be okay to go home and get some sleep).

That was a perfectly reasonable thing to think but, as you say, you and he will know better this time. I know sometimes its hard to explain how scared you are without feeling silly but if your OH hears from you that the worst bit about last time was feeling out of control and not listened to, that might help spur him into action if you need a bit of backup!

x

tigtag02

Snaggles wrote: »

Thanks Tigtag, I know I should just stop panicking and let them do whatever they need to do to get her out of there safely. Just wish it wasn't so flipping scary! lol

Snaggles if you weren't scared you wouldn't be normal

moonlightpjs

tigtag02 wrote: »

Snaggles if you weren't scared you wouldn't be normal

I agree - its perfectly normal and ok to feel scared - its a pretty big thing you are doing , you're bringing a life in to the world and thats the most wonderful thing you can do. The majority of the staff are really lovely as I found out the second time - just now and again you get a "not so good" one as both of us have found out. My first midwife with Sam, the one who inserted the first gel thingy told me that my baby was too big and I shouldn't have got pregnant whilst weighing 12 stone (I didn't think that was too bad, maybe I'm missing something :rotfl: ) have drunk so much milk whilst pregnant (I had a craving for it) she said it was irresponsible etc and I was distraught at the time but now I look back and laugh - isn't milk supposed to be good for you and the baby - she hadn't got a clue.

My Mum and Dads GodDaughter has just spent 4 years training to be a midwife whilst being a single Mum, she qualified in June 06 and she can't get a job - unbelievable, it seems there are no jobs out there whilst the press have a field day saying Midwifery is understaffed. She's applied for loads of positions both in Leeds and Bradford and in some way I think she feels like she has just wasted 4 years of her life, stuggling etc. She would make a terrific midwife but they say they haven't got the funds to employ her - the mind boggles

Anyway, Snaggs, thats my rant over xxx

moonlightpjs

I didn't make a birth plan for either of mine but if I were you, i would make a list tonight, not a birth plan as such - just a list of things you want/don't want and write at the bottom how you feel and why and as soon as you go in - give it to them and make sure its put on the front page on your notes, maybe with big, red, bold writing. Make sure they know whow you feel and how scared you are - promise me now

nearlyrich

I am in Leeds tomorrow if you need someone to forcefully tell them what you want, like I did with DD, I was wired up to a monitor and it was freaking me out so I asked it was really necessarry and they said they would take it off, when they didn't after a couple of hours I flung it across the room.

Hope it all goes well, it's going to be fine and you will have a lovely little baby to hold very soon.

Snaggles

Weller, I can't believe with all the publicity about the shortage of midwives, your M&D's goddaughter can't get a job - that's shocking! Hopefully you're right, I was just unlucky last time (I'm going to a different hospital this time so at least I wont get the same one!). Your first midwife sounds like a right cow too lol, and completely misguided.

Nearlyrich - thanks for the offer - I'll remember that....if they don't listen, start throwing their expensive equipment across the room heehee.

Hubby made tea and entertained DS for a while so I could have a bit of time to pull myself together, and he's just put him to bed, so I feel a lot calmer. At least my hospital bag is already packed (thanks to all of you that [STRIKE]nagged[/STRIKE] persuaded me to get it done ), so I can just put my feet up and try and forget about tomorrow for now.

System

Oh Snaggles, your frustration must be unbearable. I think whatever happens you will be in hospital - the right place. But I do do hope that you dont have to stay and it is only a blip and everything happens naturally for you and your wait is not too long. So long as the babby is healthy eh. Thinking of you, Love Lenny x. Put this on when she is born and remember the IPOD on random thing during the birth:


Isn't she lovely
Isn't she wonderfull
Isn't she precious
Less than one minute old
I never thought through love we'd be
Making one as lovely as she
But isn't she lovely made from love

Snaggles

Awww Lenny, that's lovely

I know, I'll probably be back home tomorrow afternoon, tail between my legs, everything okay and wondering what on earth I was panicking about. But you're right - if not, at least I will be in the right place.

It's just a worry wondering how we will manage if I'm admitted - hubby can take time off but then he will have a lot less paternity leave, and if they keep me in for a couple of weeks (god forbid) he'll end up going back to work the day after the baby is born or something :eek:

I'll just have to be forceful (gulp) and say NO....EITHER INDUCE ME OR I GO HOME!!