I'm having a DFW baby!!

Snaggles

Hi Tashja, I don't think I've got any swelling - my fingers are a bit but I'm fairly sure it's just because it's a warm day. I've been told to keep an eye on that, and watch out for headaches (which I've got, but only because I've been crying), abdominal pain, visual disturbances etc.

If I get any other symptoms I've got to go in tonight, if not I can wait till tomorrow. They didn't force me to go in today because I had no-one to look after DS (hubby is home now but he wasn't at the time), and because my blood pressure is only borderline - it's not VERY high (130/90), but it's gone up significantly from 110/70 which it was a few weeks ago, which is what they are concerned about.

Snaggles

Lucifer, thanks for telling me aboout a good experience of being induced - so it's not always horrible then? That makes me feel a bit better.

Sorry if my posts are a bit jumbled and random....I'm not really thinking straight.

kathfisch

Snaggles that sounds truly horrible and makes me angry at the staff who made it like that for you. I can well understand that you are terrified of any of that happening again! Is your DH the kind who will stand up to people on your behalf? If he knows the way you feel about things and what made you upset last time then hopefully he can help to stop a repeat. I'm not normally a confrontational person, and there's a culture in this country of not disagreeing with 'professionals', but if it was my partner in distress I hope I'd be prepared to be quite forceful!

Perhaps you are also afraid because your mind is focussed on all the negative aspects of the last time, which is natural cos you want to avoid those this time. Just remember when all of it is over you will have your gorgeous little girl and the pain will be worth it a million times over!

x

moonlightpjs

Snaggles wrote: »

I'm supposed to be staying calm and not getting stressed, but I'm fighting back tears and really scared.

I've had a horrible fear all along that I'll have to be induced again, and it's just horrible. Women are supposed to have babies, why can't my body just do what it's supposed to do?

If my blood pressure is still up tomorrow they will admit me and then decide whether to induce or not....the midwife mumbled something about a section, but I really hope they wont want to do that.

Please someone tell me it will be okay.....

It will be ok Snaggles - promise, cross my heart, you've still got about two weeks to go so they may not induce you - just keep an eye on you. Just try (and I know its easer said than done) to keep calm and not get stressed out, you never know - your BP might be fine tomorrow.

As for your body doing what its supposed to do - it is sweetie, its keeping Natasha nice and warm and safe and she is probably so contented she doesn't want to come out, well who would????

Thinking of you, have a nice relaxing bath and take it easy, thats me being stern now xxxx

moonlightpjs

Forgot to say - I was induced with my first (2 weeks late :rolleyes: ) and I didn't have such a good time of it too but when I had Mollie I made sure I told them what I felt like and what they had to do and not do etc (with the help of hubby of course) and it worked fine, they fussed around me like a dog on heat. So go in there and put it to them straight, tell them how you feel and what happened last time, admit you're scared but don't stand for any rubbish. You're the one having the baby, not them - they are just there to help you and make sure that they know it !!! (Getting really cross now :mad: , in fact I think I'm going to come with you lol)

Snaggles

Kath, you really are so lovely and you talk so much sense

Yes, I think I AM panicking because I'm remembering all the negative things, and not the positives......and also because all I've heard on the news all day is how midwife shortages etc are putting women at risk....NOT what you want to hear when you're about to have a baby!

Unfortunately hubby isn't very good at being forceful, he's a bit like me and gets intimidated and tongue tied too easily. But he says he will make sure he stands up for me more this time, and there's no way he will go home and leave me on my own this time (he realises he shouldn't have done last time, but you live and learn, and he thought I was being looked after by the midwife, so he would be okay to go home and get some sleep).

tigtag02

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Snaggles honey things will be just dandy - even if they keep you in tomorrow it will all be ok.

They kept me in loads with DD2 and I hated it but I had to keep telling myself that I was where I needed to be for both me and her to be in the safest hands

Listen to DS andhave lots of cuddles.

Stock pile on lots of R&R - I have 2 DD's and I promise there will be little time for any of that pnce she's here

I'll be thinking of you and I promise the staff at the LGI are wonderful - without them my precious wouldn't be here today

Lots of Love
tigtag

moonlightpjs

I'm going to phone the LGI/St James now and tell them my friend Snaggles is coming in tomorrow so you'd better make sure you're nice to her and treat her well and look after her properly :mad:

Snaggles

Lol weller.....I'll call and pick you up on the way to the hospital I think! (In fact we could have a DFW meet in the delivery suite - I can't think of a better group of people to help me through it all!)

How are you doing? You sound much brighter. Hope you're feeling okay too xx

Snaggles

Thanks Tigtag, I know I should just stop panicking and let them do whatever they need to do to get her out of there safely. Just wish it wasn't so flipping scary! lol