How do you know when you are ready for a relationship?

studentphil

lisa_75 wrote:

Dont think of it as asking out. Would you worry about asking a male friend down the pub for a drink? Probably not, so treat your women friends the same and see what develops. Keep it casual and lighthearted. Drop a new film showing at the cinema into the conversation. If the girl shows an interest in the film ask her if she would like to go and see it with you, that kind of thing.

Does that subtle hint dropping really work?

Surely she sees "date" straight off

Does going out and falling into your first kiss really happen other than in films?

lisa_75

studentphil wrote:

Does that subtle hint dropping really work?

Surely she sees "date" straight off

Does going out and falling into your first kiss really happen other than in films?

Don't expect a kiss. Just hope for a nice evening with a friend. If it develops it will develop in it's own time.

Maybe she will see it as a date, maybe she won't. Does it matter? Just enjoy yourself and relax.

studentphil

lisa_75 wrote:

Don't expect a kiss. Just hope for a nice evening with a friend. If it develops it will develop in it's own time.

Maybe she will see it as a date, maybe she won't. Does it matter? Just enjoy yourself and relax.

thanks!!!

I have to be brave and think "so what I am chuncky" she may still fancy me.
Other heavy guys find partners after all!!

lisa_75

studentphil wrote:

thanks!!!

I have to be brave and think "so what I am chuncky" she may still fancy me.
Other heavy guys find partners after all!!

Don't let your weight stop you. People of all shapes and sizes end up with partners. There is someone for everyone. If only perfect people were allowed to fall in love the population would soon grind to a halt!

mrcow

studentphil wrote:

thanks!!!

I have to be brave and think "so what I am chuncky" she may still fancy me.
Other heavy guys find partners after all!!

Phil! :rotfl: None of that matters.....seriously!

I 100% agree with avoiding the "I'm on a date" scenario. Just keep it cool, and casual. If you enjoy each other's company, then it will lead to more days/nights out.

As for not having the bottle, well a faint heart isn't going to get you anwhere I'm afraid. I've met a few men (& boys lol) when I was younger who were just friends who I knew full well wanted to take things further, but never found the bottle. I figured, if they don't think I'm worth taking a chance on, then maybe they're not worth it either. And you know what......I think I was right!

If you genuinely like someone, take a chance. It doesn't have to be full on......the cinema (followed by coffee or a burger etc) or playing pool in a pub etc. can be a really casual way of having some fun.

studentphil

I know there are lots of women that have weight on them so I know there are women with the same problem as me.

studentphil

Mrcow, I agree, I think I worry too much if it is right and should just go with the flow.

lisa_75

studentphil wrote:

I know there are lots of women that have weight on them so I know there are women with the same problem as me.

I don't think it matters though. I know some pretty stunning women who are big girls. The one thing they all have is confidence. You can be stick thin, but if you lack confidence you will never get anywhere. Also all the big girls I know are married. Every one of my single friends is thin. Size really does not matter.

mrcow

studentphil wrote:

I know there are lots of women that have weight on them

:rotfl: Isn't that just about the biggest understatement!

Even if it's not their weight, lots of women are self concious about something.....their bum, their nose, their chest, their feet, their teeth.....the list is endless.

When you like someone, none of this matters.

studentphil

I am not really into big women as a general rule, but I think they might judge me less and see the person inside.