How do you know when you are ready for a relationship?

studentphil

rchddap1 wrote:

When you find someone you will find someone. And because you love them so much you will find ways to make things work. You would do anything to stay with them and to make them happy.

I wanted someone special to love, and someone to love me for a few years. Then I met my partner. I immediately recognised him for what he was.....someone who made me smile. He made me happy, and the same worked in reverse. Now we are expecting our first child and are ready to face the challenge together.

You can't flick a switch and say I'll meet someone special today. Relax, enjoy yourself and when you meet that right, special someone you will know.

You can't ponder it. You can't think about it. If it is the right person you can't muck it up. My partner is my love, my life and my best friend. I know we can work through everything together. No matter what happens. Everyone makes mistakes, but because of what we have together we can't muck it up.

A switch would be good.:rotfl:

I wish it was not so random to if you find someone or not:eek:

gingercordial

No, you do not need to "run" a girlfriend and you do not need to buy her things to impress her! My boyfriend very rarely does this and I love him no less for it. He's doing his PhD so doesn't have much money; I earn much more than him but still don't buy him expensive presents that often - our gifts are more likely to be along the lines of a bar of chocolate to show we were thinking of the other person. We've always split all expenses down the middle, can't think of an occasion where we haven't split going out for dinner, cinema or whatever unless it was taking the other one out as a birthday present. When you find the right girl, it won't matter to either of you.

Besides, as you're a student, the girl you're most likely to meet will be a student too, so she'll be in the same boat and won't be expecting expensive evenings out!

Good luck.

rchddap1

I wish it was not so random to if you find someone or not:eek:

Its not random at all. Only when I look back do I realise that every step I took in the past led me to my partner. Only a little deviation and we would never even have met. And because of my experiences I recognised the potential for us immediately and could make things work.

studentphil

gingercordial
Run is the wrong word, but I could think of a better one.

studentphil

rchddap1 wrote:

Its not random at all. Only when I look back do I realise that every step I took in the past led me to my partner. Only a little deviation and we would never even have met. And because of my experiences I recognised the potential for us immediately and could make things work.

I hope that is right!

southernscouser

Counting_Pennies wrote:

It isn't a case of going out and getting a girlfriend like getting a car and running it with petrol and and MOT.

It's exactly like that!

You spend ages looking at different models. Some you really like at first then you go off them. Some you take for test drives, others you wouldn't touch with a barge poll.

You can't decide between something big and reliable or slick and sporty!

When you decide to make that 'purchase' it intially costs you a fortune. You then find yourself spending money on little novelty items. Dice and nodding dogs to name but a few. You quickly realise that by putting oil and other fluids in it makes it much more reliable and keeps things running smoothly. You have to spend money on pampering it. Keeping it clean and in good nick so it turns heads. More money spent.

You have to frequently take it to a local but expensive watering hole or it refuses to give you a ride anywhere.

Then something goes wrong or you have an accident. You have to pay more money to straighten out the mess. And not necessarily the mess you created! :rolleyes:

After a year on it's anniversary it's customary to have to spend more money. This time it's a service. It's an expensive but efficient way of keeping the car sweet for much longer.

All the time it's getting older and looking less and less attractive. Those chips and scratches become more visible with every passing week until you decide no matter how much you may have spent on it it's time to trade it in!

Nah you're right. Women are nothing like cars! :whistle:

studentphil

southernscouser, good post!!

big and reliable would do me. A lot of women in my area are farmers and some how wellies are not always super wow!

lisa_75

When you meet the right girl you won't have to worry about buying her nice things or impressing her. It will just feel right. The right girl will just be so impressed by spending time with you that what you have won't matter so much.

I think if you were older, perhaps a lady would be concerned if you still lived at home with mum or still worked a minimum wage job, but at 21 and a student I would imagine you are more or less the same as any other student, skint and getting by.

Being in love is a bit like a great friendship. You don't have to try, it just works.

southernscouser

Seriously though mate. You may only be ready for a serious relationship if it's the right girl.

If it's not then just have fun. Enjoy it while it lasts but don't force yourself into something if it doesn't feel right.

Again it's like buying a car! How do you know what the best one out their in your price range is if you don't take them all for a test drive!

(I knew I wouldn't be able to keep it serious for long) :rolleyes:

studentphil

Lisa, I think living at home surrounded by fields hardly allows access to lots of women and hardly makes me a chick magnet!!