The cutting out/cutting down alcohol thread (part 7)

Different_Corner

Saw that when he cooked it last year Jo, tried it and the men loved it.

Am looking forward to the start of Masterchef Australia on Good Food tomorrow, love that show, better than our version.

Bismarck

SimIsOnTheUp wrote: »

The thing is Graeme -

It's this whole concept of 'powerlessness' within AA that I struggle with.

Isn't that starting from a negative viewpoint?

It's bordering on negative affirmations, going around your head at AA, and the whole notion of 'giving something up to a Higher Power' has never rang true with me

I need to say sorry in advance. I have to be brief here but the thing about AA was to take it on your own terms - ideally you should take it exactly as given as that probably works best. I didn't do it all their way and it was riskier I suppose but AA DID help me find the solution in me to move on and deal with stuff. I've not been for about 2 years now which is also a bit of a no-no.

BUT - it gave me the tools and showed me where to look.

And work out what was REALLY important.

And what I stood to lose.

"It's" not solved. IT never will be. IT will always be there as IT cannot be killed or shut out forever. IT has to be dealt with one way or the other.

I spent years hoping IT would go a way or being convinced IT was normal or socially acceptable.

IT was killing me, my marriage and my children's happiness.

I'm not giving IT a name because the naming can be evocative.

I've been 3 years now and there were days before that in the past where I was convinced if I could do 3 days without, I'd not got a problem.

Take care all. Enjoy your life!

Bis.

Bismarck

SimIsOnTheUp wrote: »

Hi guys,

Have been tossing and turning in bed for a bit.

Yesterday (Saturday) morning was bonkers.

Even before I'd even hinted at going to the pub, I'd asked my Girlfriend for a bit of space (for probably the 10th time).

She completely freaked out, called me a "f'in loser drunk" and a "manchild f'in loser".
She said "I wish you'd die" Hmm, nice that one. Then it was "I suppose you're going to the pub now then" and "You make me want to kill myself"

She then said "I'm sick of this f'in relationship, you f'in freak"

"You don't love me. You never did. I'm just a f'in cash machine to you" (She'd lent me quite a bit of money, to help prevent me from losing my flat in February)
She continued "What are you gonna sell next then? You've sold your phone. Your computer? You haven't got anything of value anyway"

I stayed calm, and said nothing. Was waiting for her to calm down.

I then tried to get the phone off her, and she hit me, quite hard on my arm.

Am still in shock about it I think.

She'd also said prior to this, on the phone, on her way back from London "You're the worst boyfriend I've ever had" and "You're the most flawed person I know"

After she hit me. I went to get the phone,

I don't even know who I was going to call, but I just wanted her out of here, 'cos I'd had enough.

Asked her to calm down, or I'd call the Police.

She continued with the verbal abuse, and so I called 118118 for the number of my local Police Station.

She then grabbed the phone off me.

Eventually she calmed down, and apologised profusely.

She said "I should never had said those things to you. I was being a complete b*tch, sorry. Sorry for hitting you. I've never done that before."

I told her, that as she was so unpredictable, I thought it best if she left.

"Please don't make me go out into the street, in this state. I've nowhere to go" (She lives with her parents, and she has a half dozen friends' she could've called)

I let her stay. Told her I wasn't going out to drink after all, and as I was exhausted, I was going to have a nap.

She joined me, and we had a rest.

She eventually left a few hours later, about 5pm, after apologising again.

I'm still pretty taken aback by it all.

Looking back over the years, I seem to attract Women, who are not good for me at all.

I'm the first to admit, that I can be hard work, due to the drink and depression.

However, I've always seemed to attract, quite controlling, fiery Women.

Looking back, I've put up with way too much rubbish, and I've come to the end of my tether with it all!

Am just realising, that I don't need to put up with this anymore. She also needs constant reassurance, and by God it's draining.

I've asked her time, and time again, to please give me space. She always says that she will, but doesn't.

She's actually started to freak me out, to genuinely scare me.

What on earth do I do folks?

Hope your night was more relaxing than mine.

Cheers,

Sim x

Life's too short.

Stay sober and stand up to her.

Say you're trying to sort yourself out and she isn't helping.

She can't bully you just cos you need her money. It's better to go bankrupot than live with an abusive partner. That's no life.

Sorry if it sounds harsh but you've one life and you're entitled to feel safe with people that "care" about you.

good luck

Bis

Miss_Piggy_2

jo1972 wrote: »

Ah, I know you all wanna know.....this is what I'm cooking today :drool:

That looks yummy....what time should I come round!?:D

Off for a swim with OH and Piglet and then we are having a light bite at the local Hungry horse.

Then this afternoon I'm going to go and play in the garage....while I was out yesterday OH tidied it all up and moved the exercise bike, cross trainer, weights and Ab trainer out there. So I've got my own little gym!:) Just bidding on a rowing machine on ebay...don't think I'll get it as few days to go yet and already at my max bid. Still, few others I can keep my eye on.

Catch up later

Miss P
xx

jo1972

Miss P, you never ever bid till the last 10 seconds cos you've already outbid yourself now!!

Miss_Piggy_2

Treepotato....get making your curry, keep yourself occupied. Go out for a walk maybe (avoiding shops!!!).
((hugs))

Miss P
xx

Miss_Piggy_2

jo1972 wrote: »

Miss P, you never ever bid till the last 10 seconds cos you've already outbid yourself now!!

I know, I know. I got carried away

yellowmonkey

jo1972 wrote: »

I don't normally try to get too involved in the deep stuff on here....but...

Shame cause you are good at it :T

jo1972 wrote: »

Miss P, you never ever bid till the last 10 seconds cos you've already outbid yourself now!!

More wise words

Hope everyone is fine and Dandy today. Just got up and went to Mr M 's and got home and realised that I had not even thought about the beer aisle. I am working on nights tonight though so maybe thats why.

So therefore4 Please Miss P....

Stay strong Treepotato and enjoy your food For some reason I always want to say " One potato, Two Potato " before your username. Childhood regression maybe

Ta Ta

yellowmonkey

All together now

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yOxRl3CPFkU&feature=fvw

Sorry........:o

I'll get my coat

Miss_Piggy_2

yellowmonkey wrote: »

All together now

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yOxRl3CPFkU&feature=fvw

Sorry........:o

I'll get my coat

Piglet liked it!:rotfl: