The cutting out/cutting down alcohol thread (part 7)

fedupandskint

AFD 25 for me tonight DB

Off to do some surfing and flying later on - feeling mega hungry and off to search for something to fill me up after tea

365days

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This is a great site Marru.

What are the toilets like at school? Some school toilets leave a lot to be desired!!!! Would having her own stash of toilet paper help? Is she scared of asking her teacher to go? Excuse the topic but does she know what to do if she finds a big turd floating???!!!! Good luck

I've been swimming 2 days in a row. On a mini get fit drive! Skinter than ever. Not drinking. Smoking roll ups.

Life can't get better than this eh?

Have a good one all.

brokepaolo

Evening.

Sorry to hear of your daughter, Marru. fingers crossed a solution can be found asap, it must be terrible for her poor girl. I'm sure it's very disconcerting for you too, so you have my sympathies.

AF for me today

I had a really good weekend but I probably overdid it on the booze and spent a bit too much money as I had yesterday booked off as holiday from work and I also had the day booked off work from the pub on sunday. It was payday for me on sunday and there was a music festival here on saturday that I really wanted to go to. I went and had a really good time, didn't drink too much though I was heading towards tipsy towards the end but I was enjoying myself and even bumping into my ex yet again didn't affect me, it's becoming quite a regular occurrence now and I don't get the deer in the headlights fear I first used to get when I'd see her somewhere. She's just a girl I went out with, we didn't get on all the time and things ended when it was right for them to end, not much else to it.

I actually met someone new who was very keen to see me again but I had a think about it and I had to tell her that I'm not really ready to start seeing someone right now. I've got quite a lot on my mind, my dad is still very down and I felt terrible the other day when he said that one of my creditors had rung him at his house and left a message for me to call him back. My finances, once I revealed the extent of the problem to him, triggered his latest low phase and whilst I know that anything can trigger a bout of depression if someone suffers from the condition, I felt terribly guilty about it.

Obviously, I didn't tell all this to this girl I'd met, I just told her that I had some really important thiings I needed to sort out in my life and that it wouldn't be fair on either of us to continue.

She was very understanding and said it was a shame because even though we'd only just met, she felt it might work between us.

To be honest, I'm really really busy these days. I work from monday to friday at the office and then my sundays are pretty much taken up by the job at the pub which is really hard work.

The issue of my finances is also a bit of an obstacle. Once my DMP starts I won't be able to take someone off for a romantic weekend somewhere, even a nice meal would massively impact my budget.

But it has to be done and I can't wait to get started so that I can look forward to being debt free in less than two years time.

Hope everyone is ok and sorry for hogging the thread with a massive post but I felt awful yesterday and knew I'd feel better today if in a calmer frame of mind I wrote it all down somewhere like here where I've had nothing but support and learned loads from other people's experiences, be they similar or completely different to my own.

anyway, off to make some pasta for dinner, so unless I log on later, good night and sleep well.

honeybear_2

Evening all

Marru, I sort of echo what 365 said - is it a psychological (sp?) issue with toilets at school? Or even a physical one? I hope you get it sorted * hugs* And enjoy the cookie(s?)

Paolo, hog as much as you like if it helps you And good for you for focusing on what you need to do to clear your debt & move forward. But any decent nice & fabulous girl will apreciate you & your financial situation without any problems - romantic dinners can be cheese on toast on the sofa if it's with the right guy

Ok, time for a bit of bear stuff - GC, i know you've explained this before but please will you go over the dealing with stuff by either accepting it or walking away thing again? I sort of get it but then how do you do it without being a doormat or losing your principles or job etc etc.

Sorry to be a pain, I know you have explained it. I just have a thing to deal with (work-related) & i'm struggling

Thanks

ps.insights from anyone else also gratefully received

69chick

Miss_Piggy wrote: »

69chick, I keep meaning to say....have you looked at Paul Mckennas website? With your book and cd there should be a code for a free trial of his weight loss club. Some good forum topics on there with some interesting info.

Miss P
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Thanks Miss P will go on in a minute

Marru I have complete sympathy with you regarding your DD, I am really worried about one of my girls (twins) DD1 (30minutes older ) is really terrible at wetting herself, we usually get through several changes every day and the better days are usually the ones where I am with her and keep putting her on the toilet - she just seems to be very lazy about it...every day I pick her up from nursery she has different bottoms on! anyway she is starting school in September :eek: and I am really worried about it as she just doesn't seem to be getting any better...The doctor basically said there is nothing they can do to help(after testing her for infection which came back negative)..

HB I am sure GC will be along soo to ellaborate but I do hope you get whatever it is sorted - sending dodgy hugs :grouphug:

honeybear_2

69chick wrote: »

sending dodgy hugs :grouphug:

Always appreciated, sweetie

Sorry about your DD1 - I hope you manage to get it sorted too

69chick

BP just to echo what HB said, don't be too closed on new relationships, might be just what the doctor ordered

Marru

Thank you everyone. Now the next problem is how to get her to go to bed on time. She has only just now quieted down :eek: two and half hours late :eek: AND I SHOULD HAVE BEEN STUDYING AND NOT WRESTLING A SMALL CHILD TO BED ON REGULAR INTERVALS!!!!! :mad:

Result is that I ate all the cookies feel yuk and disappointed that all the hard work re excersise and healthy eating has been demolished in one go (ate too much for brekkie, ate too much for lunch and list goes on...)

budget_babe

Hi Guys,

I am late again

Just wanted to pop on here to see how we are all doing? It seems very quiet, don't you think?

Anyway DB thats another one for Budgie please making 16 af days so far Kinda pleased as I have had no target. Thankyou so much for scoring, you have done a really fantastic job this month :T Hugs (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Ms Honey B sorry things are not too good for you at the moment. Re: acceptance and walking away? I am sure our lovely Graeme will clarify, but for me personally, I would not do anything that would compromise my integrity, values or morals. I respect my boss and the company I work for, and I do what is asked of me to the best of my ability. HOWEVER I would not do anything that I did not feel comfortable with. I have a very heightened sense of fairness and treating people as I would wish to be treated myself. You do not say what the problem is, I would only advise that if something is troubling you to this degree, then I feel you already know what you must do? Sorry if thats a bit of a ramble There are some things that Budgie is pationate about, at the end of the day, we live our lives by the values we set ourselves. No job should compromise these in any way. Bear Hugs sweetheart, and I hope I have not gone off on the wrong track. (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Marru honey hugs and I am sorry to hear what your DD is going through, it is very strange indeed that she is dry at home but you have all these problems at school. 365 gives good advice, bless her. Can I ask are the teachers/helpers good at taking the children to the toilet as soon as they indicate they want to go? AND you never do a me, me, me post at all. You do so much and always give help and advice to others. Please feel free to write as much as you want, we are all here to help. Big hugs sweetheart and I really mean this take care and look after yourself. (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

BrokeP hugs to you too, you seem to be focused on what you need to do in your life, HOWEVER don't let something good pass you by. As Ms Honey B says, cheese on toast with the right person, can be very romantic Romance does not have to be expensive, its the thought that goes along with it that counts. Big hugs and take care (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

365 hugs sweetheart sorry things are not too good for you at the moment, they will improve. But really well done on not drinking, you have done briliantly. Big hugs and take care (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Ok gotta dash, Cardboard Chewer nice to see you posting. (()) xxxxxxxxxxxx

Special hugs to the Special ones

Budgie over and out
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maman

:hello:

Hello everyone.

Marru, I think your answer may be in what 69chick and 365 said. Children avoid going for all sorts of reasons like laziness, getting engrossed in stuff, fear of school toilets etc etc. I'm sure you've talked to her teachers already but is there anyway they could remind her to 'go and try' regularly like before each break time? Do get her tested by the GP just in case but maybe school nurse is another possibility. Hope you have had your cookie and feeling a bit calmer.

Brokepaolo, do ramble on as much as you want if it's helping. I think you sound as if you're a man with a plan and if that doesn't include a serious relationship at the moment then so be it. You'll know when you're ready just keep socialising (as funds permit) so that you keep meeting people. I realise that you feel responsible for depressing your dad but I thought it was good that you could speak about your finances. So many people do the ostrich thing and it gets worse and worse.

HB, you were a bit cryptic about 'deal with it or walk away'. This is my take although I'm not sure exactly in what context you're asking so may be way off beam. I think the problem can be that you (i.e.anyone) can't deal with everything all the time, there's too much to do. What helps me is to prioritise, formulate plans to deal with the urgent and important (not always the same) and leave other things alone. They'll have to wait. Worrying about everything and getting nowhere with anything doesn't help. Plans can range from simple ideas in your head, to a list to a fancy spreadsheet:eek: It's doing something about 'it' and seeing progress, however small that helps.

Apologies for such a long post. I'm hearing bells tonight but I won't give in now. Back later to confirm.

:wave:Hi Budgie, cross posted.