The cutting out/cutting down alcohol thread (part 7)

maman

:hello:

Well done 365, that's great news. It must feel really good to have made a difference for someone.

marru, great news about DD. Does the running balance off the cookies (caloriewise?)

Hope you had a good evening with your sister BP, food sounded yummy!

I managed another night AF, although I did need to be quite stern with myself early on:D

11AF please DB

That's probably it for me for this month. I'm glad I managed my target+ as I made a really bad start with only 1AF day before May10th. Out tomorrow with planned drinking then the weekend starts :T
Thank you so much for scoring DB, I find it really helps seeing those days mount up and (childish though it may seem) I just love my jumpie!

DecemberBaby_2

Most welcome Maman. Well done and enjoy the weekend.

Had a moose loose aboot the hoose here! In English - the cat brought in a mouse and left it in a trainer in the hall. Among a great many trainers. DS1 and I attempted a rescue mission and the moose eventually legged it sharpish out the front door in the rain. Mission accomplished

Night all

DB x

shaggydoo

Morning All :hello:

23 for me please DB




Shaggy

69chick

Just jumping on quickly again at work while no-one is about...DB could you put me down for 1 more af day fro yesterday please and thanks from me also for your great job doing the scores on the doors xx

Will not be af tonight as going out for a meal with dh, but will try to be moderate, then off to my family for the weekend....I may squeeze 1 more in but not sure...

Hope everyone is well...it seems quiet on here at the moment xxx

brokepaolo

2 more for me DB please!

Last night's meal at my sister's turned into a disaster. I was on my way home from work and she rang me to ask if I wanted to meet her at the pub so I met her there and had a coke like a good boy, then some of her friends turned up and as it was nearly 7pm, I said I had to leave to go and buy some stuff for the dinner and should I meet her at her house later. She gave me the keys to her house and said she'd just stay for one more drink and then join me.

So off I went, bought the remaining ingredients, went to my sister's house and got started on the cooking. Predictably, 15 minutes in, my sister texts me asking if she has time foor one more drink. I replied saying not really because with risotto, once it's ready, it's ready, you can't really slow it down. anyway, she texts back saying she'll get a move on then. So I carry on cooking and nip outside for a cigarette and it starts chucking it down with rain. My sister calls, still at the pub, and says she can't leave because she hasn't got an umbrella, so I tell her that it's ok, I'll eat mine and leave hers on the side and she can microwave it when she gets back.

So I served myself my dinner and my sister arrives, a bit soaked and immediately starts tearing into me about how I'd made her rush back home in the rain as thought he food was ready ages ago when really I'd only just started eating it myself, then she snaps at me for using the wrong plates, the wrong pan, using an onion that was her housemate's etc...

I tried to keep calm but she kept niggling away and was obviously a bit tipsy and I just flipped and told her that I'd had enough and was going home and hoped she'd choke on her dinner. But I came back because I turned back before leaving and thought 'sod that, I cooked it, I'm eating it' and all hell breaks loose, she starts screaming at me to get out like a psycho so I put some risotto in a tupperware box and headed back to my house in the rain.

I was furious but to be honest, from the moment I got the first text asking if she had time for another, I knew what my sister would be like that evening so I was actually quite happy to eat at my own house listening to the radio and watching the rain pelt down. After eating I still felt angry at how I'd been treated so I texted my sister without using swearwords or an angry tone that I was very disappointed by how she'd behaved. she replied that I should get over it and that I wasn't the only one who had problems.

Rather than allow this to further infuriate me, I stood outside in the pouring rain and smoked a cigarette. It was amazing, I got drenched but the rain pretty much washed all the tension away and I went back inside, did the washing up and made myself a cup of tea and played(very badly) a Norah Jones song on my housemate's electric piano in the lounge.

I felt great this morning and as soon as I got in to work I sent my sister an email saying that I appreciate that she's having some stressful times at the moment and that it was just a little situation that rapidly blew out of proportion as they regularly do between us so we should just forget about it. she replied apologising and we've left it at that.

I haven't forgotten about it, not one bit, but what i have done is put it to bed. It was just an argument, it meant nothing, nothing was gained and nothing was lost.

and we both got to eat a yummy asparagus risotto, so everyone's happy in the end.

I'm especially happy that I silenced the old paolo who was yelling at me after the argument 'go to the shop, get a bottle of wine, play music loud enough to p*ss the neighbours off and send angry texts to the b*tch until she cries'.

Miss_Piggy_2

Afternoon all

Exceedingly quiet on here today??

Brokepaulo - I'm so glad you handled the situation in the way you did. When I was 20 I fell out with my brother - we were both very drunk and I embarrassed him in front of his friends. He didn't speak to me for over a year. And that was all down to drink. I love my brother to pieces and I hated that drink had made me cause that situation. So I'm pleased you managed to salvage some good from a potentially horrendous situation.

Well...we are having an eventful day here. We had a parents meeting at Piglets school today!:eek: He starts in September so today was to give us loads of information and to let us have a look around. Very very scared that my baby is going to school soon!:(

Then this afternoon me and OH were busy round the house when the walls started shaking. The girls two doors down had their car out polishing it, with thier music blaring out. It was deafening. We put up with it for 5 minutes and then OH went and asked them to turn it down (which they did...OH is scary when riled!:rotfl:). He came back and then some people from over the road came over to say thanks...they currently have a noise nusiance thing going over this family two doors down and were so glad to find they weren't the only ones suffering. We were too...we were beginning to think we were just very unaccepting of other peoples noise!

Soooo...strange old day...I'll be glad to go to work!!!:rotfl:

Miss P
xx

graemecarter

Good post BP - I remember feeling resentful at people I had arrangements with if they curtailed my drinking. When I had a drink inside me, I wanted another one.

Sounds like you handled the situation very maturely. I used to have no boundaries for other people's behaviour, and thus I got resentful often. The resentment only hurt me.
Now I have strict boundaries for my own behaviour, and also those of other people. If those are overstepped, I generally just leave. I don't argue and shout, but I warn people I am not happy and prepared to put up with it any longer, and if they continue, then I go.
For example, quite early on in my sobriety, one 'friend' kept badgering me to have a drink. I told him I wasn't drinking, and asking me to have a drink was a waste of time. After a while I said to him if he carries on and mentions it three more times, I am going to leave. He mentioned it three times, and I just left the bar we were in, leaving him on his own. He has never again pestered me to have a drink.

Drink comes a very important relationship for so many people (like me) - it can quite often come before family. That's extremely sad, but inevitable in alcoholics.

eselt

Hi all.....can I rejoin the thread please? Theres so many old friends and new people on here doing so well.

I'm sorry I haven't supported you all (for about 5 months!!!) but after xmas after not drinking for a year I started to feel posting about alcohol (or even seeing it socially or in supermarkets!) was starting to trigger thoughts that I could start drinking again, just moderately (YES- god this stuff is SO seductive, it just draws you right in, often when you are at your most vulnerable). So I kind of went into hibernation mode for a while whilst I wrestled with the ridiculous idea that people who have been chronic alcoholics, like me, can EVER drink moderately.

Anyway I haven't had a drink, but it was a close call......I'm going to listen to Graham C.

Just going to catch up with the thread...I may be a while.................

Miss_Piggy_2

:j:jWelcome back Eselt!!!:j:j

115K

8th day AF for me today thanks.

I drank so much yesterday. I had a big drama as usual and I think I got through about 4 bottles of wine. I feel like death today and I deserve to.:(

Hope everyone else is okay. :A Good to have you back Eselt.:)